Female members can send reverse offers to male respondents they like by emailing the administrator to express their interest. Male members can learn which female members are interested in them by answering questions and sharing their opinions.
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📅 Jul 27, 2026 12:00
A question for the women here: What goes through a woman’s mind when she watches AV involving rape fantasies, bondage, NTR, and similar themes? Does she actually have those desires? My girlfriend told me she never watches AV, but I happened to catch a glimpse of her search history recently, and it was full of that kind of content. It made me a little insecure—does that mean she isn’t satisfied with our nights together?
💬 Answer from マックさん:
Women masturbate too, just like men do.
What do you think would show up in the questioner’s search history? Men and women really aren’t that different.
There are probably kinks they’d rather keep hidden from their boyfriend or girlfriend. Just as masturbation and sex with a partner are separate things for the questioner, they’re separate things for her too.
Just because someone gets off to rape-themed material doesn’t necessarily mean they want to be raped. Haven’t you eve…
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📅 Jul 25, 2026 05:36
I’ve never had a boyfriend. I’d say I’m slightly above average-looking, and I work part-time. The only men who approach me seem to be after my body. I don’t think I’m being overly picky. I’m genuinely struggling with this. Would spending more money on my appearance help me find a boyfriend? Please tell me.
💬 Answer from Meg:
You’re not spending money on your appearance.
It doesn’t benefit anyone,
and it doesn’t make you any money.
But somehow, it’s fun.
I feel like I could keep this up naturally.
Once you start doing things like that, I think you’ll gradually gain confidence in yourself.
It’s hot, so stay hydrated, and let’s get through today with a positive attitude.
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📅 Jul 24, 2026 23:32
There’s a section where you can search for male members, but no matter how I search, I can only see Black, Platinum, and Gold members. There aren’t any Standard members listed at all. Does that mean my account is currently set to Platinum? If so, I haven’t received any offers yet, so I’d like to be changed to Gold. Is that possible?
💬 Answer from シアトル:
Men can hide their membership class, so he may simply be embarrassed about being a Standard member and keeping it hidden.
As for your class, you won’t know until you receive an offer. If you get an offer from a Platinum member, then you’re Platinum.
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📅 Jul 23, 2026 20:27
I have a question about having sex with a plus-size papa. With men who are slim or only have a slight belly, I can feel the penetration in missionary or cowgirl and enjoy the experience. But when a man has a much larger belly, I can’t tell whether he’s actually inside me or not—perhaps because of his stomach. As a result, I can’t really enjoy the experience anymore. Cowgirl is difficult to move in, and in missionary I feel crushed under...
💬 Answer from マルケス:
It’s true that, at hot springs and other communal baths, you sometimes see men whose lower abdomen is covered in fat, while their actual symbol is so small that it’s barely visible.
Your papa (a male supporter) is probably like that. Since sexual incompatibility is even recognized as grounds for divorce, sex that feels like nothing but a chore and leaves you unsatisfied could be seen as a sign that it’s time to part ways. Breaking things off may be the best option.
Even if …
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📅 Jul 22, 2026 17:01
It’s been a week since I made my profile public, but I haven’t received a single offer. I only have three favorites, too. I’ve heard that some women don’t get their first offer until six months later, but realistically, if things are still like this after a week, does that mean it’ll be difficult to receive any offers? I’d appreciate hearing from those with experience. If it seems unlikely, I’m thinking about trying something else.
💬 Answer from シアトル:
You’ll probably only get an offer from about one in every ten people who favorite you, so it sounds like it’ll be tough.
Unless you’re exceptionally beautiful, you need something that sets you apart.
Nothing to lose—try highlighting your appeal in the comment you can write yourself.
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📅 Jul 22, 2026 15:00
I’m in my 70s and have quite a bit in savings, but I only work part-time. Can I still join?
💬 Answer from シアトル:
You can join.
If you’re in your 70s, please offer an allowance of at least ¥100,000 per meeting—and be generous.
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📅 Jul 21, 2026 22:24
I’m currently a first-year graduate student. Since I’m in a master’s program, I’m scheduled to graduate next year and start working. I joined Universe Club in June of my senior year of college, but I’ve since left. Since last December, I’ve continued seeing just one person every two or three weeks. He gives me an allowance of 90,000 yen on a pay-per-meeting basis. I’ll reach my target amount after meeting him five more times, but I’m st...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
If it were me, when deciding about the next day, I’d say, “I’m going to be a little busy, so I can’t make plans right away. Would it be okay if I message you on LINE later?” Then I’d simply never contact him again.
If the man messages, “When should we meet next?” I’d delete it without reading.
That’s just what I would do, though. A lot of people probably prefer you to be upfront.
Another option is to reply, “I’ve given it a lot of thought and decided to quit papa-katsu (co…
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📅 Jul 21, 2026 13:58
I have a question about PATLO’s Order Date feature. I messaged a woman I’m interested in, but it’s been over a month and she still hasn’t even read the message. She logs in about once or twice a week. Would it be better to apply for an Order Date instead? Also, regarding a different woman: I sent her a message, and it was marked as read, but she never replied. She also hasn’t logged in at all since registering with PATLO. Even if someon...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
I’m guessing the first message you sent was pretty awful.
In that case, even if you apply for an order date now, I think it’s probably too late. You’d be better off looking for someone else and applying for an order date from the start, without sending any messages yourself.
But you’re the person who said you previously made an offer through Universe and were turned down, right? If you were rejected on Universe and aren’t getting any replies on PATOLO either, I have to wond…
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📅 Jul 21, 2026 01:55
I’m a 30-year-old married woman. I’m planning to start trying for a baby soon, so I’m thinking of taking a break from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). I don’t think I’ll be able to start again for at least the duration of my pregnancy and around six months after giving birth. I’ve been doing this for over ten years while also working as a livestreamer. Along the way, I met some wonderful people, got married, and feel that my li...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
If I’ve treated a woman really well while she was single, I’ll continue seeing her if she wants to, even after she gets married or has children, and I won’t reduce her allowance by even a single yen. I consider that my way of repaying her.
One of my two regulars is a mother. We stopped being intimate after she found out she was pregnant, and we didn’t see each other from the final month of her pregnancy through about six months after giving birth. However, I continued paying…
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📅 Jul 20, 2026 14:32
I’ve been seeing someone on a pay-per-meeting arrangement of 100,000 yen, usually staying overnight or going on dates for around four hours. He recently suggested taking a trip, and things have been moving forward, but we haven’t discussed the allowance for travel, so I’m unsure how to set it for a one-night, two-day trip. He’s also suggested a two-night, three-day trip, and I’m not sure what to do. How do you usually decide on the allo...
💬 Answer from 横断歩道:
It’s completely different depending on whether you go somewhere the woman wants to go or somewhere the man wants to go.
Since this was the man’s suggestion, why not ask, “By the way, what about the allowance?”
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📅 Jul 19, 2026 22:06
I’m feeling overwhelmed by stress from my monthly arrangement… Maybe papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) just isn’t for me? I’m satisfied with the allowance—about ¥270,000 per month. We meet four times a month for five hours each time. Aside from that, we message on LINE every day. I don’t mind that, but I’m also expected to talk on the phone several times a day. And the conversations are always things like, “Do you love me?” “Of c...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
The frustration comes from seeing him as a man, so just think of him as one more needy child to take care of.
That’s how the respondents here—including me—see it. We pay money to have various childlike whims indulged. We’re not trying to shoulder you from the bottom of our hearts through masculine devotion or financial capability. If we were, we’d be married, wouldn’t we?
It’s about how much affection you can show a child who isn’t related to you by blood. If you can’t do t…
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📅 Jul 19, 2026 14:52
These photos were taken last week, and I’m still waiting for confirmation that my registration has been completed. It’s been about 10 days now. I’m applying through a Tokyo branch—how long is registration currently taking?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Even within Tokyo, there are four branches, and how busy they are varies by branch. It seems that registration can take longer at the busier branches.
That said, they generally try to complete registration within a week, so if it’s already been 10 days, I think it would be fine to contact the branch through LINE and ask about it.
Just make sure to ask as politely as possible. If you phrase it poorly, they may write something like, “This woman has a bad attitude,” which coul…
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📅 Jul 18, 2026 22:40
Does anyone have a long-term contract with a city hotel? I’m seeing women about four times a week. I’m embarrassed to admit that I meet around five different women several times a month. Since we sometimes meet during the day as well as at night, I have to look for day-use rooms, and it’s also a hassle having to bring various chargers and other things to the hotel almost every day. Recently, a city hotel I often use suggested that I sig...
💬 Answer from フラグメーカー:
I rented a place as both a home office and a second home, thinking I could use it for that kind of thing too.
But then I started worrying that I wouldn’t want them staying too long if I invited them over, and that it would be awkward figuring out when to say, “You should go.” In the end, I realized love hotels are more convenient.
Is there any reason not to just use a love hotel instead of a city hotel? Love hotels are great.
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📅 Jul 18, 2026 19:10
I’ve turned 30, so I’m no longer in the most advantageous age range, but I’m thinking about starting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). How much personal information do you share with the other person? I’d appreciate answers from both men and women.
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
You’re the same person who posted the previous question, right?
You wrote, “The papa I’m currently seeing was my first,” but then you wrote, “I’m thinking about starting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).”
It makes me wonder if you’re just posting these for something to do rather than genuinely asking a question.
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📅 Jul 18, 2026 01:36
This is embarrassing to admit, but even though I’m in my 20s, I’ve never been with a man before, and the papa I’m currently seeing is my first partner. He knows I had no prior experience, and we’ve been intimate about four times now. He tells me he’ll stop if it hurts. However, once things start, he seems to forget that, and even when I tell him it hurts, he doesn’t stop. I think the fact that I don’t get wet at all may be part of the p...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Hmm…
If your papa (a male supporter) won’t stop even after you tell him it hurts, I think you’d be better off ending things with him.
papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t something you should keep doing if it makes you feel uncomfortable.
I’m worried that your body may continue rejecting it every time.
If you can get aroused by masturbating, I think you’d be better off not limiting yourself to papa-katsu, but finding a kind, sexually skilled boyfriend or casual …
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📅 Jul 17, 2026 13:05
I made an offer to a woman, but she turned it down because she felt we probably wouldn’t click—even though we hadn’t even met yet. When I had my registration interview, I asked the staff member whether I should upload a profile photo, and they told me that offers are generally not turned down. So this came as quite a shock. I’ve listed my hobbies and other details briefly in my profile. Would it be better to write them out more thorough...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
There’s a big difference between not being rejected very often and never being rejected at all.
The reasons someone may turn you down vary—your profile photo, age, income, occupation, and so on. I think one of the good things about this, unlike the sex industry, is that men can choose, and women can also say no.
That said, being rejected before paying the setting fee seems less damaging than being rejected after paying it.
You mentioned your hobbies, but women may also ass…
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📅 Jul 17, 2026 01:44
In exchange for not seeing multiple men, he agreed to increase my monthly allowance. Since this involved money, I wanted to discuss it in person rather than over LINE, so I brought it up myself while we were meeting face-to-face. He had suggested this arrangement before, but I turned him down at the time. However, I’ve become tired of being intimate with multiple men, so this time I asked him myself. I was relieved when he readily agree...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
The unpleasant aspects include:
- He handed me an envelope inside the station, which was embarrassing.
- He kept making dirty jokes, even at a counter seat with staff right in front of us.
- He seems to really enjoy sexual talk and compares women’s intimate parts to food.
- He’s very possessive.
- To be honest, I find his appearance physically off-putting.
There’s a lot written along those lines.
At the end, she says, “I thought I could put up with it for the money.” That …
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📅 Jul 15, 2026 19:42
I’m thinking about signing up with a dating club. I have an average-looking face and a figure that’s currently around 90 kg and quite heavy (though I plan to lose weight before registering). I’m 169 cm tall and have an I-cup bust. Would these be seen as strengths in this kind of setting? Also, is it possible to pass the screening or receive offers even if I’m on the heavier side? Finally, I’d appreciate any tips or secrets to getting ac...
💬 Answer from シアトル:
He’s an older man who invests in stocks. He likes curvy women.
I have a friend who’s into that too.
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📅 Jul 15, 2026 09:47
The other day, I asked a question (or perhaps more of a rant) about being invited on a second date by a B2-type woman. The candid feedback from everyone who responded really made an impression on me. In particular, Kazu-san’s comment, “I somehow sympathized with the woman. But what’s your question?” made me feel extremely embarrassed as an older man. When it comes to discussing the terms with a B2-type woman, I’ve assumed that she might...
💬 Answer from フラグメーカー:
It feels like 5–10 years ago, you didn’t even have to negotiate the allowance. You could just hand over a set amount afterward. Wasn’t there a golden age like that? lol
These days, I imagine you nervously asking about the allowance toward the end of the date—if it’s within your expectations, you’re like, “Thank goodness,” but if it’s high, you put on a disappointed face?
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📅 Jul 13, 2026 20:36
Are women registered as B2 generally offered higher allowances? I’m registered as type C, and I often move on to an adult relationship (intimate) that same day. I usually leave the allowance up to him and negotiate somewhere between 70,000 and 110,000 yen. I’m satisfied with 100,000 yen, but after I introduced a friend and she registered as B2, it sounds like she’s being offered 150,000 yen per meeting. It’s starting to make me lose con...
💬 Answer from 横断歩道:
This doesn’t really answer your question, but here’s my honest reaction: your attitude toward money is frightening.