Are women who move their hips during sex a turn-off?
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My hips move during penetration in the missionary position.
Sometimes I feel bad when he slips out, but moving feels better, so I do it unconsciously.
He tells me it feels good, but I wonder if he’s just being considerate.
Honestly, do men dislike women who move their hips?
Does it make you think she’s experienced?
I’m also not confident about how tight I am.
Men tell me they can’t really tell whether someone is tight or not, but is that actually true?
Sorry if this is an inappropriate question.
Thank you.
I’m Taro, a male member.
The man you’re seeing sounds kind.
A lot of women move their hips. I find it sexy, so I generally like it. Some people might think it means she’s experienced, but anyone with a reasonable amount of experience should understand that isn’t necessarily the case. If he slips out, that’s on the man—he needs to hold her shoulders or waist and close the gap. Please tell him that men should learn the basics of bedroom technique.
You can usually tell whether she’s tight. If a man says, “I can’t tell,” then I suppose she isn’t that tight（笑). That said, tightness can come not only from the muscles but also from suction, and anyone can do that if they get deeply into the moment. She’ll be fine as long as she relaxes and immerses herself in it. Men don’t derive pleasure from tightness alone, either, so there’s no need to worry.
She sounds like a good partner, so I think you should stop worrying about the little things and enjoy your time together.
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When you feel it—or rather, you naturally move in a way that helps you feel it, right? I think men would be happy if you felt it even more, too.
They say they can feel the inside twitching and tightening when you climax, so if you consciously tighten up before you get there as well, the man can feel it and go, “Ahh!”
You can learn to tighten consciously by squeezing your muscles as if you’re holding in your pee while you’re on the train, studying, working, or doing something else.
Marika
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Akari (nice to meet you!)
Yes, men do say things like “you cling to me” or “you envelop me.” That feeling is even more mysterious to women than tightening is. It doesn’t seem like something you can do consciously, either.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
I’ve dated someone who moved his hips during intimacy, and it didn’t put me off. I was actually happy that he was enjoying himself. Many papas probably see it as a plus in papa-katsu when someone seems elegant and reserved in everyday life but is sexy in bed.
I understand what you mean by being tight and having a firm grip. Some people are naturally tight from the start, while others become tighter as they get more into it. I personally prefer someone who’s tighter, though some papas prefer the opposite.
You probably don’t need to worry too much. If you have a papa who keeps seeing you, there’s a good chance you’re already a good match as you are.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Most women move their hips when they’re feeling good, and I’m happy to see that they’re enjoying themselves when they do. I’ve never thought they were experienced just because of that.
If I slip out, I just hold their hips or switch positions, and it’s usually fine.
Unfortunately, I can tell whether she’s tightening or not.
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I naturally move into positions that feel good—or that have felt good before.
If someone doesn’t move, is it because they don’t feel anything but are pretending to, or because their partner is enjoying it and is trying hard on his own, thinking, “This feels good, doesn’t it?”
As for tightness…
When a man says things like, “It feels like you’re clinging to me,” or “You keep squeezing me,” with a breathy voice, I realize, “Oh, I see…” I can’t tell for myself, but I do try to practice the exercises you mentioned, Marika.
Akari
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