I was wondering why I hadn’t been getting many offers lately, and apparently the staff have been recommending me by saying something like, “Her allowance is on the higher side, but she’s a lovely girl, so feel free to reach out if you’re willing to give it a try.”
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For reference, the allowance is usually proposed by the other person and falls somewhere between 80,000 and 110,000 yen. In the past, though, I’ve also encountered people who insisted they would only pay 50,000 yen—and would verbally abuse me if I didn’t agree to that amount—so I turned those people down.
I assume the staff do this to avoid mismatches, but do they also discuss the allowance with the men?
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I don’t think the reason I’ve been getting fewer offers lately is that the staff are recommending me with the attitude of, “She’s a good girl, but her allowance is high—go for it if you’re up for the challenge.”
If they were saying, “Her allowance is high, so you’re better off passing,” I’d understand. But maybe the photos in my album and my profile don’t really match the fact that my allowance is on the higher side?
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Staff may write comments on your profile after the interview, such as “has high expectations regarding allowance” or “average” based on what you said you wanted.
From my experience, a rating of 5 seems to correspond to “average,” though it depends on the staff member, lol.
Fuu also doesn’t send offers to people with high allowance expectations, so that could be one reason your offers have decreased.
On Patro, you can list your desired allowance and discuss it in advance by message.
If your profile is posted on both platforms, people can see your requested amount.
If you really want to avoid that, you could use Patro and negotiate the allowance beforehand.
If your offers have dropped dramatically, your requested allowance may not be in line with your value. You might need to lower it.
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When we receive feedback like, “The man said the allowance was 15,” the staff may think there’s nothing wrong with that since the allowance is up to the woman.
However, some men say things like, “I can’t handle anything over 10, so tell me in advance.” So whenever we get information that the allowance is over 10, it becomes a hassle to deal with complaints afterward. We don’t mention the exact amount, but when asked, we often add:
“The allowance is on the higher side.”
I find myself wondering: If a man is going to complain just because it’s over 10, what has he learned from society all this time? What has he been doing with his life? Was he always a complainer? Can’t he deal with things himself?
But since complaints are such a hassle, that’s how things have ended up.
I feel bad for the women.
If the staff added, “She’s a good girl,” then I think they genuinely consider her a good woman. If she were simply a woman with a high allowance, I don’t think they would add, “She’s a good girl.”
And the reason the man told you that was probably because, just as the staff said, he thought you were a “good girl.”
You may have received fewer offers, but at least you no longer get offers from men with low allowances. I hope you can look at it as not having wasted your time in the end.
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Staff members are in a position to see feedback on dates from both men and women.
Given your situation, I suspect there were multiple comments saying that your allowance was on the generous side.
When a man asks the staff whether there has been any feedback about a woman, they may mention that her allowance was relatively high, but they won’t tell him the exact amount.
I think that’s because anything after the second meeting is considered a private relationship, and isn’t really something the club should get involved in.
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I’m a black-tier member, so I can ask about information that isn’t listed on the profile. However, they don’t tell me specific amounts.
Every woman has different priorities when it comes to dating. Some feel that a higher allowance is best, while others would rather have less stress than a larger allowance.
Since you only mentioned the allowance, I’m guessing you judge men mainly based on how much they offer. The staff have told me that’s the kind of information they provide.
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The question is a little unclear, but I’m assuming you mean whether the staff tell male members how much allowance a particular woman receives.
Basically, they don’t.
That said, for Black or Platinum male members—or regular male members who are close with the staff—I imagine they may share an overall impression based on the feedback they’ve received, such as:
“She’s expensive even just to meet, but she has a good reputation.”
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I’m active with my dedicated coordinator, and while I sometimes proactively tell them things like, “This girl’s allowance was this much,” the staff have never brought up allowances with me first.
Today I’m meeting a new person for the first time in a while. I’m not motivated at all, but maybe that’s actually better.
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The club staff likely only discuss transportation expenses—at most, an allowance for dinner. They shouldn’t be negotiating any allowance beyond that. It would be a criminal offense, and the club could be shut down.
Being berated because the allowance wasn’t ¥50,000 is wrong in itself—it’s not about the amount. You did the right thing by turning him down.
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