Am I the only one who feels that men who block you when things end are being really immature, especially in an adult relationship?
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I’ve met some men more than five times, enjoyed lots of meals and dates together, and yet when it came time to say goodbye, they sometimes left me on read, stopped replying, or simply blocked me.
Most men don’t do that, but unless the other person has done something seriously rude, being treated that way at the end leaves me feeling really disappointed.
From a man’s perspective, is it because it’s too difficult to say things directly, so they end things that way? Or does it mean they’ve simply lost interest and become distant?
It seems unusual to suddenly stop seeing someone after meeting five times. Usually, people figure things out after about two meetings and then stop seeing each other. The fact that things continued for five meetings is impressive in itself. You should take pride in that.
Unless you actually confirmed that you were blocked or left on read, assuming either is just speculation. I have many women who haven’t even opened my messages for months, but I think it would be interesting if one of them happened to reply someday.
Personally, I basically never block anyone. The only exception was a woman who was late to our first meeting, didn’t contact me to say when she would arrive, kept me waiting, and had an end time that had been firmly set from the beginning. I blocked and deleted her.
Sometimes I decide not to meet again because of vague things like the atmosphere or compatibility. But if someone was late every single time, I might stop replying and block her even after meeting five times.
Even if you’re willing to forgive someone for being late, some people can’t make up for it by telling you when they expect to arrive or contacting you as soon as they know they’ll be late. There are quite a few people like that.
Of course, I’m honest and tell them that when they’re late, I start feeling like they don’t really want to meet, which makes it hard for me to enjoy the time together. Even after I tell them, if nothing improves, we often eventually stop seeing each other.
If a relationship ends in a vague, inconclusive way that leaves you feeling like there was no proper closure, there’s a good chance you’re the one failing to handle things properly.
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If you say they “only show up occasionally,” then they must be a small minority, right?
Compared with being harassed or followed around like by a stalker, it’s healthier to think of it as a blessing that you were able to cut ties with someone like that without much trouble.
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Last month, I ended things with a B1 female college student after offering her a monthly arrangement on our second meeting and going on four or five dinner dates together.
There were various reasons, but I couldn’t exactly say things like:
- You weren’t the level of woman I was looking for.
- I only offered you a monthly arrangement as a compromise, even though there were cuter girls.
- I don’t think being intimate with you would be exciting.
- Conversation with you isn’t fun.
- The other girl I was offering an arrangement to at the same time was better than you.
- I recently met someone younger than you, with a cuter face and a bigger chest.
So I apologized by saying, “You didn’t seem to be enjoying yourself very much during our dates. That was simply because I wasn’t attractive enough, and I’m sorry I couldn’t meet your standards,” and made that my final LINE message. We had even set a date for an adult relationship (intimate).
But wasn’t I lying? What I really meant was, “You weren’t that great of a woman.” Wouldn’t it have been better to just leave her on read—or not even open the message?
Would you want a papa (a male supporter) to tell you, “You’re not particularly cute,” or “You’re really boring”? You wouldn’t, right? That makes me wonder whether leaving someone on read, not opening the message, or blocking them might actually be better.
Even as I write this, though, I still don’t know what the right answer is. Is telling someone the truth an act of kindness, or is it cruel? Questioner, if this answer makes you feel anything, please reply.
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When you leave Universe Club, which do you think is better: sending a message saying, “I’m leaving. Thank you for everything,” or simply letting your membership expire without saying anything?
Sending a farewell message means the staff have to take the time to reply, so it does add to their workload. If you were to leave, Loser Man, which would you choose?
Getting back to the point, how people say goodbye depends on the relationship. If the questioner was treated that way, it simply means that’s what kind of presence you were to that man. It’s basically just confirming the answers.
If Loser Man were to graduate from Universe University, I’m sure all of us answerers would line up, bow our heads, and create a ceremonial walkway for him. Don’t worry—we won’t do anything so unbecoming as trying to talk you out of it. We don’t believe that a man would ever go back on something he’s decided and put into words—or, in this case, written down—whatever the reason. We know that no matter what we say, it’s pointless. A man can only keep moving forward.
May good fortune await Senior Loser Man in his new life! Osu!! Take care!!!
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Maybe it’s one of those situations where she keeps saying she wants to see you on LINE, even though neither of you seems to enjoy yourselves when you meet and she always leaves early.
As for blocking her…
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LOL. Why don’t you block the person asking the question?
If anything, there’s a risk involved, and isn’t that being way too careless?
Women block people more often than Fuu does, even though he’s the papa (a male supporter).
As for Fuu, I’ve only blocked a few women myself—for example, someone with a really strong vaginal odor, someone who demanded an absurdly high allowance, someone who was so unresponsive that she wasn’t worth the allowance, or someone with way too many restrictions—no kissing, no touching her nipples, no touching her upper body, and so on. LOL
That said, I can understand why women feel they have no choice but to block someone.
I think women in particular should block men so they can give up as quickly as possible and avoid being stalked.
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I don’t block people, so I can’t understand why someone would do that.
Even among people who do, everyone feels differently depending on the situation.
There’s no point in asking a third party about someone else’s feelings.
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You received a message saying he wanted to end things, but instead of simply saying so, he suddenly blocked you—that’s what happened, right?
It’s understandably unpleasant, but I think it’s best to tell yourself he was that kind of man and move on.
As for me, I usually fade out gradually, hinting that things are coming to an end by saying I’ve suddenly gotten busy with work or haven’t been feeling well.
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I’m not quite sure what you mean by being left on read or blocked without a reply when ending things.
Are you saying that, when you’re seeing someone, it’s a problem if they leave you on read or block you without replying, so that you end things without even being able to say goodbye?
There are all kinds of ways relationships end. If someone is constantly late or keeps changing plans, you may dislike it but feel hesitant to say too much. Eventually, you may decide to just stop engaging, and that becomes the end of the relationship.
I think that’s often how it happens.
In any case, when a relationship ends, there’s usually no explanation given. The person may feel uncomfortable being asked for a reason, so that’s probably why it often ends that way.
That said, quite a few men do want to be told at least the reason.
But then again, even when you’re given a reason, it can still make you angry, so to some extent, I think it’s unavoidable.
If you want to end things properly, though, it might be a good idea to tell the other person several times while you’re still seeing each other.
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Sorry, but I do sometimes block people—usually girls who become boring or say things that are exhausting to deal with. As you said, there are also cases where it’s hard to say anything directly.
Of course, women block me plenty of times too.
Hope that helps.
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