I’ve set my allowance at 50,000–100,000 yen on Patro, assuming an adult relationship (intimate). Since the first meeting usually doesn’t progress to that, will I come across as extremely money-minded?

>Since the first meeting usually doesn’t develop into an adult relationship (intimate) right away, If “usually” reflects how you feel, then you shouldn’t select Dating Type D. If you consider the first time to be just a first meeting, you should choose Dating Type B2. I recommend changing it to B2 right away. With B2, the basic expectation is that you meet for the first time and then part ways. However, if you feel he’s a good person, it also means that something happening that day wouldn’t be a problem for either of you. On the other hand, if a man invites a B2, B1, or A woman to a hotel or somewhere similar on the very first day, his rating will go down. If you don’t change your type, the man may file a complaint with PATOLO. If you feel that the first meeting could either remain just a first meeting or develop into something right away, then your type is C. Dating Type D means: “If the first meeting ends with just a first meeting, I’ll file a complaint,” which lowers the man’s rating. >Allowance set at 50,000–100,000 yen That’s quite a wide range, so men may be unsure, but I think it’s still a very good setting. In other words, men who aren’t willing to pay at least 50,000 yen won’t invite you on a date, so anyone who does invite you should have a reasonable amount of financial leeway. That said, men may be unsure because the range goes up to 100,000 yen. However, on PATOLO, you can chat before meeting, so men who are interested will ask about it, and I don’t think it will cause much trouble. You do need to be careful, though. If a man doesn’t ask, he may assume that anything up to 100,000 yen is acceptable. You could casually ask about it while traveling somewhere after meeting and agreeing on the allowance. So I don’t think you’ll come across as particularly greedy. It simply means that men offering less probably won’t message you. If you set it as “negotiable,” men offering less may also contact you. But if dealing with that feels like a hassle, I think you should keep your current settings and look for a good match. Also, even if your preference is set at 50,000–100,000 yen, there’s a chance he may offer 20,000 or 30,000 yen after you meet. Please be careful about that. I think you should treat PATOLO the same way you would a dating app or site. (With PATOLO, however, men can leave you a negative rating, so you can respond accordingly through the ratings.)

It’s fine to say you’re looking for an allowance of 50,000 to 100,000 yen, but that’s quite a wide range. I’d be tempted to message you and ask, “What’s different between agreeing to 50,000 and agreeing to 100,000? What exactly is included in each?” If you’re hoping the other person will voluntarily offer a higher allowance, most people will probably just go with 50,000. So saying “50,000 or more” might leave a better impression. Also, I don’t include Type D in my searches, and I think more male members avoid it than you might expect. So it may be a good idea to set yourself as Type C and be very proactive from the first day with anyone you meet through an offer. Just some thoughts.

The question is a little hard to understand. Do you mean: “Since the first meeting normally doesn’t progress to an adult relationship, and I’ve set the allowance at 50,000–100,000 yen assuming an adult relationship, does it make me look like an extremely greedy woman because it seems as though I’m asking for 50,000–100,000 yen at the first meeting?” I don’t think so. It’s common understanding among men—especially when it comes to women in the C and D categories—that the only thing handed to a woman at the first meeting is transportation money, while discussing a specific allowance is about an adult relationship. The club’s management can’t state that explicitly because it could be considered facilitating prostitution, but that’s the reality.

With C and D types, if the chemistry is right, I’ll go for an adult relationship from the day we meet, so I don’t feel like they’re being greedy. Fuu’s basic policy is to go for an adult relationship from the day of the offer if it’s a C. On the other hand, like Kazu-san wrote, the question is whether the allowance matches the poster’s value. That 50,000–100,000 yen range is what caught my attention, lol. In the end, the papa side is thinking 50,000 yen, while the poster is thinking 100,000 yen, and both feel lucky. People tend to interpret things in the way that benefits them, so there could be a major mismatch in expectations. It might be better to state the allowance you actually want. As Make-Otoko-san also mentioned, you might get more offers as a C than as a D. Men’s feelings are complicated: a D will have an adult relationship with anyone if the money is right, while a C chooses who they see. Fuu has also had the experience of meeting someone as a D, then advising them to change to a C if they seemed like a good person. Their offers increased and their ratings improved… If you turn down an adult relationship as a D, your rating might drop because people may think, “She turned me down even though she’s a D.” Since there are probably some papas you’re just not physically comfortable with, staying as a C might be better for your reputation too. On the other hand, if you’re genuinely willing to have an adult relationship with even the creepiest papa as long as the terms are right, you could stay as a D and use the secret goddess strategy of catering to the papas who wouldn’t get any attention as Cs. Maybe, lol.

Dating Type D means, “Depending on the support offered, I’m open to pursuing a relationship from the very first meeting.” So I think it’s perfectly reasonable to state your desired allowance if things develop. This page explains the different dating types: https://www.patolo.jp/portal/ja/kb/articles/man-type D doesn’t seem particularly unusual. Since misrepresenting your dating type isn’t allowed, choose the option that most closely reflects your own views. That said, a desired allowance of “50,000–100,000 yen” is quite a wide range, so it might be better to explain your intentions in the comments or select “Negotiable” instead. https://www.patolo.jp/portal/ja/kb/articles/price-negotiation

First of all, I strongly recommend avoiding D. Even if you’re leaning toward D, go with C instead. As a rough guide, you can expect the number of offers to be: B2 = C >>> D = A > Allowance: 5–10 I see this a lot, but I don’t think any men will offer 10 based on that range. Set it at 6 to start; if you get lots of offers, raise it to 7. If you don’t get any offers at 6, try lowering it to 5.