Female members can send reverse offers to male respondents they like by emailing the administrator to express their interest. Male members can learn which female members are interested in them by answering questions and sharing their opinions.
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📅 Oct 7, 2026 16:24
To all the papas, I’d love to hear your thoughts on birthday gifts from a monthly arrangement partner. ・Something you actually enjoyed receiving ・Something you’d be happy to receive or have done for you Either is fine—I’d really appreciate your input! He’s my papa of almost two years, and we’re relatively more like a couple. Last year, I gave him consumable goods worth around ¥10,000. This year, I’m thinking of treating him to a meal at...
💬 Answer from 福岡まさと:
For our one-year anniversary, my monthly arrangement partner gave me a “I’ll Do Anything for You” voucher—good for up to three requests over the next year—and I was absolutely thrilled!
It’s such a wonderful gift because it doesn’t involve spending any of my papa’s money; it’s all about doing something the other person wants.
Now I just have to decide what to ask for… My imagination is running wild, and I can’t stop grinning（笑）
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📅 Oct 6, 2026 12:16
I’ve been a member for a month and have met seven people, and I have a question. After the first meeting, if they ask, “What are you doing after this?” but they’re not exactly my type, what do you all do? Since I’m the one making the offers, it’s not as though they’re completely outside my preferences. However, they’re not exactly what I’m looking for either, and even when they invite me to meet again later, I don’t feel like seeing the...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
What a spoiled old bastard in his 60s.
Once you’ve made the offer, you’re the one who asked for the meal to be served, so stop complaining and finish what’s on your plate. She’s coming to meet you—at least initially—expecting an adult relationship (intimate) and motivated by money. Responding accordingly is simply a matter of courtesy and decency.
I can understand it if you decide not to meet a second time. This doesn’t apply to Type B arrangements, though—only to C, D, or …
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📅 Oct 6, 2026 08:24
Should I say “Thank you for the meal” after eating? Whether it’s at a first meeting or with someone I have a monthly arrangement with, I always tell them the food was delicious and send a thank-you message afterward. But I’ve never actually said “Thank you for the meal.” I do say, “It was really delicious, thank you very much,” but would you be happier if I also said, “Thank you for the meal”?
💬 Answer from 横断歩道:
I don’t really care whether you say “Thank you for the meal.” As long as we have a heartfelt conversation—whether it’s “That was delicious,” “I’d like to go to ___ next time,” or something along those lines—that’s more than enough.
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📅 Oct 4, 2026 16:53
I’m in my mid-30s. I take care to look clean and maintain my figure, but is there still demand for someone my age? I’m worried my age might be a drawback.
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Age does have some impact on the offers you receive, but I don’t think you’re at an age where it would really become a major obstacle.
That said, your appearance has a much greater influence on offers than your age does.
So if you’re worried about whether there will be any demand for you, one option is simply not to do it.
But if you’d still like to register and give it a try, I think you should go ahead and apply.
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📅 Oct 1, 2026 22:11
I’ve been a member for almost six months now… What’s the specific difference between the club’s regular offers and Patro’s order dates? For female members registered with both, the setting fee seems to be the same, and in some cases Patro actually costs more. Are there any members who use the two services differently depending on the situation? I’d appreciate hearing how you do it.
💬 Answer from Fuu:
In Fuu’s case, it’s mostly Patro now that Patro is available. I only make offers through the club when there’s a woman I like who isn’t registered on Patro.
Order Date and club offers are basically the same, so I don’t really think of choosing between them.
If Order Date costs more, you can simply make the offer through the club instead. Since there are two systems and a large number of members, I occasionally see profiles that aren’t fully linked between them. (They’ve bec…
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📅 Oct 1, 2026 19:28
I don’t know how to meet women. Many of the men sharing their experiences here seem to be meeting women, but I have no idea how and it’s been bothering me. Could someone please tell me how? Thank you in advance 🙇⤵️
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
First, you need to be able to afford the costs involved in meeting someone.
Universe Club arranges dinner dates with women in exchange for a setting fee. So, at a minimum, you’ll need:
- A membership fee
- A setting fee (charged each time you’re introduced to a woman)
- A ¥10,000 thank-you gift to give her during the introductory dinner date
- Around ¥10,000–¥20,000 for both of your meals
After that, if you want to pursue a relationship with her, you’ll need to discuss an …
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📅 Sep 30, 2026 14:15
Could someone explain how to use the service? I recently joined and initially requested a standard arrangement through the club. I then tried Letter Date and Patro, and found them easier to use than standard offers, where you meet without knowing any of the terms beforehand. Since I joined the club, I do want to enjoy making standard offers, but I also worry that there isn’t enough information before meeting someone. At the same time, I...
💬 Answer from 迷わない70代:
I even became a Black member, but I never really saw any benefit to the regular offers. That’s why I came up with letter dating, lol.
As for the “best way to use it,” wouldn’t it be better to just send out as many offers as possible instead of overthinking it? Especially if letter dating and patro are already getting you results. Let go of that unnecessary pride.
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📅 Sep 30, 2026 00:21
Are there any people with severe germophobia who still do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? I’m honestly a germaphobe. I don’t mind a big age gap (I like older men). I just can’t stand things like bad breath. How do you all handle it when you’re not compatible with someone? I’d really appreciate any tips. (I’m thinking about registering with a dating club soon.)
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Humans are living beings too, so it’s pretty rare for anyone to be completely scentless.
Most people have some kind of natural smell. Women’s scent matters to me as well, so I’d like them to take good care of themselves. But being overly particular about cleanliness just makes things difficult, so I think it’s a delicate balance.
Besides, if you’re meeting someone for sex, you’re essentially exchanging mucous membrane cells, right? lol
If kissing or oral is off-limits, the…
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📅 Sep 29, 2026 23:27
I’m a woman in my late 50s. Is there any demand for someone my age? I’m often told I look younger than I am. I’d like to enjoy being a woman a little more, but…
💬 Answer from 迷わない70代:
I’d happily date someone in their 50s! lol
But simply looking younger probably isn’t enough to keep things going… Just like men, you need to have a clean, well-groomed appearance and maintain a youthful figure—even when your clothes come off. And when it comes to conversation, do you do anything to keep things interesting and have plenty to talk about? Without that overall appeal, I think it would be difficult to continue.
My monthly partner, who’s in her late 50s, is alrea…
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📅 Sep 29, 2026 08:18
I’ve been seeing a woman once or twice a month for about seven months. Every time, we meet for dinner, which costs 30,000 yen, and afterward I spend another 20,000–50,000 yen on shopping. The total time is about two hours—one hour for dinner and one hour shopping. She’s the first woman I’ve met through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so I’m not very familiar with the going rates. I’m wondering, though, whether this arrangement...
💬 Answer from フラグメーカー:
A meal that’s over in just an hour every time? That’s what I’m more curious about. And shopping is also limited to one hour, so everything wraps up after just two hours each time. Isn’t that way too expensive for a roller coaster?
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📅 Sep 26, 2026 00:44
Is it more common for the woman to say, “I’d like about this much,” or for the man to make an offer when it comes to the allowance? I’ve looked up the going rates, but there’s quite a range, so I feel like I’d panic if I were asked, “How much would you like?” I don’t want to undersell myself, but I also don’t want to come across as greedy… If there’s a general amount on Universe, I’d appreciate it if you could tell me.
💬 Answer from カズ:
I usually ask what the woman is hoping for, but depending on how the conversation goes, she may ask me first, “How much allowance were you thinking?” or something similar.
There are also times when I ask what she wants and she turns the question back on me.
I don’t think there’s really such a thing as a standard rate for allowance.
It’s perfectly common for Woman A to have a pay-per-meeting arrangement of 50,000 yen with papa B and 150,000 yen with papa C. It’s also perfec…
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📅 Sep 25, 2026 23:39
On average, I meet about two new women a month. Ideally, I’d like to see just one person and build a relationship that feels somewhat like dating, with a comfortable amount of distance, but… Ever since joining, checking the website every day has become a habit, and whenever I see a woman’s profile, I can’t help applying. I’m worried the staff might be thinking, “He’s applying again.” Is this strange? Have any of you ever felt embarrasse...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
Your number of offers doesn’t seem unusual to me.
The number beneath “Application History” in my dashboard is 29, which means I’ve made offers to roughly 290 women. Factoring in cancellations and arrangements that didn’t work out, I feel like I’ve actually met a little over 200.
In my experience, there’s only one truly exceptional woman out of every 100—a 1% chance. So if you’re only making offers to two women a month, it would take about four years. You should make more of…
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📅 Sep 25, 2026 20:40
I want to start papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)! I’m having trouble because I don’t know how it works. Is it dangerous to do it through X? I’d also like to know how to get started! Could someone kind please tell me? 🙇
💬 Answer from Fuu:
The fact that you’ve found your way to this Q&A site is already a great start.
First, check out the Universe Club website, apply for an interview, and listen to their explanation. That’s the safest and most reassuring way to get started with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
After attending the Universe Club interview and briefing and making sure you understand everything, you should also register with Patro.
I think doing papa-katsu through X or dating apps should…
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📅 Sep 20, 2026 12:12
I’ve set my allowance at 50,000–100,000 yen on Patro, assuming an adult relationship (intimate). Since the first meeting usually doesn’t progress to that, will I come across as extremely money-minded? Also, would it seem strange for someone my age to choose dating type D? ※I’ve made some edits.
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
>Since the first meeting usually doesn’t develop into an adult relationship (intimate) right away,
If “usually” reflects how you feel, then you shouldn’t select Dating Type D.
If you consider the first time to be just a first meeting, you should choose Dating Type B2. I recommend changing it to B2 right away.
With B2, the basic expectation is that you meet for the first time and then part ways. However, if you feel he’s a good person, it also means that something happening…
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📅 Sep 18, 2026 22:08
I’m new to Universe and Patro and recently registered. While browsing the men’s profiles on Patro, I came across a very wonderful gentleman registered with the same branch as me—someone I’d really love to meet. In a situation like this, should I consult the staff first?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
On Patro, women can send messages to male members and make offers, so I’d start by sending a message.
That said, don’t get your hopes up too much about getting a reply, lol.
I’ve never made an offer to someone who messaged me on Fuu. I usually make offers to women who are my type.
Still, it’s better than doing nothing. Just think of it like this: you can’t win the lottery if you don’t buy a ticket, lol. So I’d say give messaging a try.
Your odds are probably better than w…
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📅 Sep 16, 2026 23:21
I'm debating whether to sign up here. (I previously asked about curfews as well. Thank you to everyone who answered!) If I found someone I was compatible with, I would consider an adult relationship (intimate), but I do have a concern… I've never finished. I have very little experience to begin with, but whether I do it myself or someone else does it for me, I can't finish—either externally or internally… It does feel good, and sometime...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
> Men are generally happier when a woman orgasms, right?
> I don’t really care either way.
> In fact, I find it more interesting when she has difficulty climaxing at first and gradually changes over time.
> I haven’t been going lately, but I’ve also taken girls who had trouble climaxing with me to a swingers’ club and had someone else help them climax. Of course, it was because they wanted to. They said they wanted to experience what it felt like to orgasm at least once…
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📅 Sep 16, 2026 13:54
When meeting a woman for the first time, do you want to take a bath together? If you do, would you want her to wash you there too? I feel like she might be pleased if I did, but I’d hate for her to think I’m too experienced and not want to see me again. Also, I imagine some men are sensitive around their nipples while others aren’t. Do you think it’s better for me to touch them on my own, or only touch them if she asks me to? When I was...
💬 Answer from フラグメーカー:
If, on the first meeting, she gets in the bath with me, washes my dick, and starts licking my nipples, I’m sorry, but I think:
“Ah, she’s worked in the sex industry before.”
That said, if we’ve met a few times and gotten close first, I wouldn’t think anything of her having sex-industry experience.
Also, please always lick my nipples.
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📅 Sep 15, 2026 19:32
He asked me to clean his ears, and although I said no, he still seems to want me to. I tried my best, but cleaning someone else’s ears scares me. He still seems to want me to do it—is this some kind of male fantasy?
💬 Answer from 負け男:
When I first joined Universe Club, I dated a girl who would clean my ears for me.
Every man’s dream.
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📅 Sep 15, 2026 17:11
This is less of a question and more a post hoping to hear about the thoughts, values, and experiences of both male and female members. I recently joined Universe Club (BLACK), and I have yet to go on my first date, so I’m completely inexperienced. For some reason, I had assumed that the allowance for an adult relationship (intimate) would be “around ¥50,000.” However, since PATOLO is available to use free of charge, I logged in yesterda...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
My highest pay-per-meeting allowance has been 20, and I still have a monthly-arrangement girl whose allowance, divided by the number of adult relationships, works out to 50 per meeting.
It’s not because the sex is especially good—it’s simply the self-satisfaction of thinking, “I’m amazing for being able to pay this much.”
There have been girls who were absolutely incredible even at 5, and countless others who made me feel like I’d thrown 10 down the drain.
I’m not necessar…
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📅 Sep 13, 2026 01:00
Hello. I’m considering getting braces. Will I no longer be able to give oral sex while I’m wearing them? I’d also appreciate hearing about any other disadvantages for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Let me answer.
I have two friends who are dentists—one I drink with and one I’ve known since childhood—so I’ve introduced them to women in monthly arrangements before. One of my current regulars is undergoing orthodontic treatment.
① Silver braces on the front of the teeth—the cheapest option
They’re noticeable, so they may be slightly disadvantageous for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Oral sex is possible, but for a few days after the braces are tightened, the…