The other day, I met a woman for the first time who only does dinner dates.
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I’m mainly interested in intimacy, so until now I’d only met women who were looking for that as well. In that sense, having a dinner-only date was refreshing, but as we talked and I got a better look at her, I found myself wanting to be intimate with her after all. Now I’m wondering if there’s any way to get her to go to a hotel with me next time.
Of course, I only want anything to happen if she genuinely agrees and feels comfortable with it. I’d appreciate advice from anyone who’s been in a similar situation and had things work out, including how you approached the subject.
Even with Relationship Type A, things can naturally progress after about a year if you genuinely enjoy each other’s company.
I started sharing the same hobbies with him, helping him out when he was in trouble, and treating him warmly like a friend while receiving a dinner-only allowance. Eventually, he invited me to have an adult relationship.
If you can’t wait that long, try asking politely while offering an allowance with no upper limit.
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If you’re in that much of a hurry, wouldn’t it be enough to just offer a higher allowance?
Since she already said she doesn’t do adult relationships, it would have to be a substantial—truly astonishing—amount. You’d need to make an offer so shocking that even someone who normally wouldn’t do it might actually consider it.
When you’re involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), it’s easy to get carried away, but getting intimate with someone who has already said they don’t do adult relationships is extremely difficult.
If it were that easy just by talking about it here, everyone would be doing it, lol.
Besides, people who are willing to do that in the first place probably wouldn’t be doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Good luck with the power of Eiichi-san, and I’ll be waiting for your report!
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If she’s an A-type, then next time probably won’t happen. Unless you discussed it and reached an agreement at the first meeting, I don’t think a second meeting is likely.
That said, if you bring it up when you meet next time and she’s okay with it, there might be a possibility on the third meeting.
Unless she’s really into you in several ways, I don’t think you’ll be able to turn it into that kind of relationship. But if you have other people you’re seeing, I don’t see any harm in giving it a try.
Hope this helps.
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Why did you make an offer to an A-type woman?
As for “from next time onward”? She’ll see through that kind of thinking right away. There may be a chance for things to develop if she finds you attractive and comes to trust you, but if that’s your mindset from the very beginning, it’s probably not going to happen. I don’t think it’s about the amount of the allowance, either.
In my case, it took until our eighth year before we became close enough to spend the night together, haha.
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I think you should plan your dates around understanding when a woman would actually want to go to a hotel.
Men who approach women with Dating Type A likely structure every date so that, after about six months, the woman herself will bring it up.
The key is getting her to say it herself.
That, I believe, is the most important point.
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I don’t have any experience with it, but since the arrangement only covers dinner, anything beyond that is outside the arrangement. You could just think of it as hitting on a woman normally, outside that context, couldn’t you?
Come to think of it, I haven’t hit on a woman outside that context in about 15 years. I did it normally until I was past 50, and my success rate was nearly 100%. But I chose my partners and used my social position, so it’s not something to brag about at all.
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If you keep treating her like a lady and going on dinner dates, she may eventually blush and say, “I think I’d be open to an adult relationship (intimate) with you.” I’ve had this happen many times.
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Whether I’m dealing with an A, B1, or B2, I always discuss what would happen if the relationship becomes an adult relationship (intimate) at the first meeting.
Surprisingly, even women in the A category may be open to an adult relationship (intimate). Conversely, some women choose B1 or B2 because their club or scout told them they’d receive more offers that way and advised them not to choose A.
There’s nothing wrong with explaining your preferred relationship style.
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Given the situation, I think a cute, humble request with a troubled look would work really well.
An older guy trying to act cool and talk down to her would probably just come off as cringey.
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