I’m new to Universe. If things progress to an adult relationship (intimate) with a female member but I can’t get an erection and don’t reach ejaculation, will she still continue seeing me afterward? Of course, this assumes I give her a reasonable allowance and that she likes me to some extent.

It’s perfectly fine to go to the hotel first. As long as there’s an allowance and basic manners, women generally don’t care about an older man’s climax. Keep the hotel visit to under an hour, and limit intimacy to ten minutes. After that, wrap things up and move on to a cheerful meal. Never act servile or submissive. An older man sulking is just unpleasant. Always keep smiling.

Since this isn’t the sex industry, I think you should stop thinking in terms of whether you’ll climax or not. Making a woman work hard for it when you can’t get hard can also feel like you’re treating her like a sex worker, which is a bit uncomfortable. Why not stop fixating on ejaculation in the first place? Focus on spending an enjoyable time together. In other words, you can still go to a hotel, be affectionate with each other, and talk. But when the allotted time is up, that’s where it ends. “That was fun today.” There’s nothing wrong with that. To make that work, I think it’s best to explain beforehand that you may not get hard, but still want to be affectionate—and that if you happen to get hard, something might happen. Also, you should understand that wanting to have sex but being unable to get hard can hurt a woman’s pride. It’s important to make it clear repeatedly that you generally don’t get hard and not to pressure her into doing anything. Rather than comparing yourself to people who do climax, you should establish your own approach—and consideration for the woman is an important part of that.

From what you’ve written, it sounds like he paid the allowance properly and is still replying, so I don’t think there’ll be any problem continuing with an adult relationship next time. You could simply say, “Okay, then let’s do it before dinner next time,” and make the arrangement honestly. Also, when it comes to whether you can get it up or not, younger women in the papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) world generally don’t give it much thought, so there’s no need to worry. They’re looking for sex with feelings from young, handsome, wealthy men in the dating world, so if you worry about it, your partner will probably just laugh about it privately. Hope this helps.

What women dislike about men who can’t get it up is how long it takes. Luckily, that’s never been an issue for me. I don’t do much foreplay either, so I usually finish in about 20 or 30 minutes and wrap things up. So I think I’m pretty well received. If the questioner still can’t get the job done after trying for 30 minutes, it’s probably best to say, “Thanks, but let’s call it a day,” and let her go quickly. That may not apply to women in their 40s and older, though. I remember one female respondent who once said, “Sex doesn’t even start until two hours have passed.” I think going to the hotel first would actually be welcomed. Women don’t want men seeing their stomachs. That said, going out for a meal afterward would probably be awkward if things didn’t work out. In that case too, it’s probably better to let her go as soon as possible. Some men turn to foreplay or toys after they can no longer get an erection, but that’s only fine if they’re good at it. Otherwise, I imagine women would think, “Please spare me the endless, rough fingering when you’re neither getting hard nor finishing.” Still, it depends on the relationship. It’s an overall assessment, including the amount of the allowance.

As a woman, you may worry that you’ll be dropped because you weren’t able to satisfy the man. That’s why the man should be quick to say, “I’d like to try again next time.” Whether you go to a hotel before or afterward is up to you. I often don’t climax either, but a relationship isn’t only about that, is it? If you want your partner to be satisfied, you should consider the overall experience, including things outside the hotel.

It really depends on how the other person feels, so it’s hard to give a definitive answer. Personally, I’ve never had an experience where not reaching ejaculation caused the other person to stop meeting me. As for how she might feel if you say you want to go to a hotel before dinner, that also depends on her. Personally, depending on the time we’re meeting, I sometimes go to the hotel first, but it’s never harmed the relationship.

Why take an ED medication that’s affected by food when you could simply use one that isn’t? Also, it’s extremely rare for women to actually look forward to having sex with us papas. Most women—probably around 95%—would rather not have sex if they could avoid it. And papas who have ED or are prone to ED seem to want endless Magikarp kissing, but I often hear women say, “If we’re just going to do Magikarp kissing, I’d rather you hurry up, finish, and get it over with.” One more thing: I never include meals during dates. They come to my place, we talk, have sex, and then part ways. None of the women I see on a pay-per-meeting basis eat before sex. If we’re having a meal, we simply have a dinner date with no sex and then go our separate ways. Most women probably prefer the date to be as short as possible. So why not just give them the money and have sex? The only person enjoying the dinner date is the papa. Paying doesn’t mean you can do whatever you want. If you put yourself in the woman’s shoes and think about what kind of date would be best for her, it’s obvious that skipping the dinner date is the better option. The exception is women on a monthly arrangement. In a monthly arrangement, I usually want to have sex, while the woman would rather just go out for meals. So I do have dinner dates fairly often with women on monthly arrangements. However, I would never have a meal on a day when we’re going to have sex. It would only be taking up her time. And more fundamentally, don’t you want to work? I want to work, so spending a long time on dates with women is a burden for me. Having sex promptly and chatting briefly before and afterward is more than enough communication.