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📅 Jun 12, 2025 10:10
After dating a 26-year-old woman for three years, I gave her ¥500,000 toward her wish to get breast augmentation, and she went to Korea for silicone implants. But now, four months later, her breasts still don’t look or feel natural to me. I’ve completely lost interest, and it’s really turned me off. She’s happy that they’re bigger, but her nipple sensitivity has decreased, and I don’t find them as arousing as before. She went from a C c...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
LOL
I haven’t gifted anyone money for breast augmentation, but I did have a monthly-arrangement partner who got breast implants while we were seeing each other.
Even though her breasts were small, I honestly preferred how they looked before the surgery. You can really feel like you’re handling silicone, you know? I ended things with her.
On the other hand, subtle facial cosmetic surgery was fine. I thought her double eyelids, nose, and facial contours looked much better af…
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📅 Jun 12, 2025 07:43
I’m fed up with my papa-katsu partner’s indirect, insulting remarks. He constantly brags about how impressive he is and goes on and on about random bits of trivia. At first, I just brushed it off, thinking he was tactless. But he keeps repeating the same thing over and over: “Most women in their 20s are stupid.” Whenever I just respond with a vague “Hmm” and become visibly annoyed, he gives me a present.
💬 Answer from Fuu:
What a nasty attitude!
You shouldn’t put yourself through unpleasant experiences just to keep doing this. End things with him and wait for offers from other papas (male supporters).
I honestly don’t understand why you’re still continuing.
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📅 Jun 12, 2025 01:44
I see someone who’s 30 years older than me six to eight times a month for an allowance of ¥400,000. We’ve had an adult relationship (intimate) two or three times, but the meetings take so long that I end up exhausted. I’m also often invited the day before, which is difficult for me. Even the shortest meetings last four hours, and they usually involve about eight hours of being kept there. We’ve been seeing each other for six months, and...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
That sounds difficult.
Why not end things, wait for offers from other papas, and, if you’re working, switch to a lighter form of papa-katsu?
It sounds exhausting—like it could really take a toll on your mental health.
I don’t think it’s something worth doing if it’s making you unwell...
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📅 Jun 10, 2025 15:18
Even when I eat delicious food or get told I’m cute, I still don’t feel fulfilled. I’m posting on the forum this late at night because I feel lonely. Would becoming prettier or making more money make me feel fulfilled? What do you all think?
💬 Answer from シアトル:
I see. I also think telling them only to “save money” might come across as a little cold. The person asking seems to be expressing their loneliness and emotional emptiness while looking for empathy and some helpful suggestions, so I think it would be better to respond with compassion. How about something like this?
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**Answerer: (your name)**
Your late-night post really feels like a glimpse into what’s in your heart. I can really understand how lonely you feel. When even…
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📅 Jun 10, 2025 13:22
About Long-Distance Dates I’m a member living in the countryside in western Japan, and I’ve received offers from men in faraway places like Tokyo, Sapporo, and Sendai. I did register as being okay with long-distance arrangements, but when I actually tried it, the trip took four to five hours each way, plus the time spent together—over 13 hours in total. It used up an entire precious day off and left me exhausted, so I decided it was too...
💬 Answer from ダイ:
I usually meet about once a month, but I travel a long way every time.
I’m busy with work at the moment, so it’s more like once every two months. Since I don’t want to meet locally, I wouldn’t expect the woman to come to me.
Whenever I go out, I find something enjoyable to do in that area first.
I think the reason you’re getting irritated is that you don’t have much emotional leeway right now.
If you approach papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) feeling that way, it p…
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📅 Jun 9, 2025 18:26
I’m considering interviewing with Universe to pursue a more elegant style. To put it bluntly, I’d like to know which affordable clothing brands tend to appeal to the men there. I’m embarrassed to say that I’ve always preferred casual clothes. Whenever I occasionally worked up the courage to wear a dress, people around me would tease me, so I’d end up selling it through an app or giving it to a friend. As a result, I don’t currently own ...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Personally, I like and recommend dresses from GRL or Darich—I’d love to see you wear one. Check out those two sites first, and if they still seem too expensive, try looking on SHEIN. Uniqlo or GU dresses might also be an option if you don’t mind seeing someone else wearing the same thing around town.
Personally, I love dresses. They’re just one piece of fabric, so they can come off right away. I don’t know why, but it’s the best lol.
Getting sidetracked, but once we’re clos…
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📅 Jun 7, 2025 23:53
Before meeting, the club asked me what allowance I had in mind, and after I answered, I received an offer. However, when we actually met, we didn’t click, so I turned it down. He got upset, and we ended things there. I was worried the staff might get the wrong impression, so I let them know that I declined because we didn’t click. Was it better not to contact them about it? Will they start seeing me as someone who often turns down adult...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
> When I met him in person, we didn’t click, so I turned him down. He got upset, and we ended things there.
Most people get upset when they’re rejected, so it might be worth thinking about how you phrase it. But if you say, “Something suddenly came up after this,” some men will get angry and say, “Didn’t the club tell you it would be four hours?”
I asked a female staff member about it the other day, and she said, “It’s obviously just a way of turning him down—he should take…
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📅 Jun 7, 2025 16:28
Are there any Black-class papas in their 40s? I think I’m probably Gold—are most people in their 40s around the Gold level?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
> Are women in their 40s generally considered Gold?
I think women in their 40s are usually classified as Gold or Standard.
That said, it’s not impossible for a woman in her 40s to be classified as Black—it does happen occasionally—but it seems to be pretty rare.
So if you’re wondering, “Why am I only Gold? I’ve always been popular and people have always told me I’m beautiful,” it’s possible they would have preferred to classify you as Platinum but chose Gold because you’re…
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📅 Jun 7, 2025 08:12
I’m meeting a Black/B1 woman for the first time soon, and we’re planning to have tea for an hour. Since it’s a first meeting, is the usual allowance 10,000 yen, or should I give her around 20,000 yen? The minimum allowance was recently revised from 5,000 to 10,000 yen, so I’d appreciate some advice on whether it’s customary to give a Black-ranked partner the minimum or add something extra.
💬 Answer from 紙ひこうき:
For a B1-type arrangement, I think enjoying the date that day matters more. If she’s a Black woman, I want to make it even more enjoyable for her.
The allowance for a dinner date is relatively small compared with an adult relationship, so there isn’t a huge difference either way. Since I’m a B1 type, I don’t even bring up the allowance. More than focusing on the money, I want us to enjoy our time together in a way that makes us both look forward to meeting again—and again af…
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📅 Jun 6, 2025 15:11
I previously asked whether being kept in a room for four hours was considered normal. Thank you all for your thoughtful replies. I used to put up with harsh terms to stay active, but now I only see people who are willing to meet my non-negotiable conditions. My terms are: - A date of no more than four hours total: two hours over a meal and two hours in a room - Two hours if we’re only in a room - Normal, non-extreme preferences - Infreq...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
That sounds like a pretty fair, reasonable range.
Apparently, it’s about three out of ten, so Fuu, who almost fits those criteria, can be considered one of the top 30% of papas.
One of the good things about papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is that women can set their own terms, so I think it’s fine for each person to choose conditions that feel comfortable for them.
Speaking from a man’s perspective, though, if you want to maintain that arrangement long-term, your …
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📅 Jun 6, 2025 12:21
My bust size is G60, so I registered as a G cup with Universe. However, perhaps because my underbust is so small, I don’t look like a G cup at all. Also, lingerie with a 60 underbust is hard to find, so I usually wear an F65. I’m worried that it might look like I was lying. What cup size should I have said?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Both have some basis, so go with whichever one you prefer.
I don’t think any papa (a male supporter) would get mad and say, “You’re a G, but you’re obviously an H!”
There are definitely men who like larger breasts, so it’s an important advantage. Make sure to highlight it well so you can get offers.
Personally, anything above an F looks more like a cow or some other animal to me. I’m not a breast man—I prefer a balanced, slender figure, around a D cup.
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📅 Jun 5, 2025 16:59
When you receive an offer, is it better to avoid wearing a short skirt? I’m asking because I’m worried I might stand out at a nice restaurant or hotel. Would a skirt that hits just above the knee be okay?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
What you wear is entirely up to you.
That said, if you’re unsure, I think it’s best to wear something similar to what you wore to the interview.
If you wore a miniskirt to the interview, wear a miniskirt.
If you wore a skirt that came to just above the knee, wear something around the same length for the date.
That should be a safe choice.
> This will be my 14th attempt at a first date, lol.
> I’ve been stood up 13 times. Wish me luck!
I’m not quite sure what the situ…
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📅 Jun 5, 2025 01:44
Following up on my earlier post. Would it be worth retaking my photos? I joined in April, but I’ve been struggling because I haven’t received many offers. I was nervous during the photoshoot, so the pictures don’t really look like me. Would changing my photos lead to more offers? Also, what kind of photos would make you want to reach out?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Since it sounds like the club only offers retakes about once every six months, I think you should ask them to reshoot your photos after that.
Beforehand, practice posing in front of a mirror, then go in for the shoot.
But honestly, unless you’re just nervous, your photos probably won’t turn out dramatically different, so the improvement may be minimal.
Rather than blaming it on how you photograph, spend the next six months working on becoming more beautiful—especially by l…
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📅 Jun 5, 2025 01:41
What causes someone’s class (rank) to go up along the way? Is it because they changed their dating type or something? I’d love to meet as many people as possible since I’m hoping to meet someone great, but I’ve only received two offers. I thought more might come my way if my rank went up.
💬 Answer from Fuu:
It’s not a rank; it’s a class.
When you move up a class—for example, from Gold to Platinum—you can no longer receive offers from male members in the Gold class.
Since fewer men will be able to make offers, the number of offers you receive may simply decrease.
You might actually receive more offers if your class is lowered.
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📅 Jun 3, 2025 22:50
If a premarital background check reveals that your prospective spouse’s sister is registered with a dating club and engaged in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), is it highly likely that the marriage would be called off? Also, if a private investigator is hired for the premarital investigation, would information like that be shared with the other party? Please answer assuming that cost is not an issue, with no upper limit, and th...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
It probably depends on the circumstances.
The longer the time between quitting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and the investigation, the less likely it is that you’ll be found out.
Apparently, the most common way people get exposed is when they’ve told friends or acquaintances about doing papa-katsu, and an investigator discovers it by questioning people in their social circle.
Other than that, they’d have to rely on surveillance or behavioral investigations. So …
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📅 Jun 3, 2025 09:41
Can female members hide their profiles from specific men, such as relatives or acquaintances?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
People you’ve sent an offer to will automatically become unavailable for you to view.
If a woman contacts the club, they can also hide her profile from specific people.
What exactly is the questioner trying to ask?
Are you wondering whether your daughter might be registered, or whether you can’t see her because you’re her father?
That could be possible.
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📅 Jun 1, 2025 16:07
The papa I’ve been seeing told me that he doesn’t want papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—he wants a romantic relationship instead. He said that when there’s an allowance involved, he starts to lose interest or get tired of things over the smallest issues. If I interpret it optimistically, I wonder if he means he wants to be in a relationship with me. But that’s probably not it, right? Maybe he wants to date someone else, but I do...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Dreaming is dangerous—men are so simple and stupid.
That said, I’m in my sixth year of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) myself. I’ll be starting my seventh year after my next renewal, I guess?
I recently confessed my feelings seriously for the first time, only to get blocked afterward, so I’ve experienced regret firsthand. It’s hard to say, lol.
Even though it’s papa-katsu, sometimes we end up misunderstanding things, so ladies, please be careful not to overdo the …
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📅 Jun 1, 2025 13:18
I was scouted by a high-end dating club. I get the impression that they mainly recruit young women (though I can’t say for sure since that’s just based on what I’ve seen). I hate the way I look, but does being scouted mean I can feel confident about my value—and sex appeal—as a woman?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Thinking positively seems like a good thing.
There’s honestly far too little information to know for sure, but if it helps you feel more confident in your value as a woman—your sex appeal—then I think it’s fine to see it that way.
However, if you’re asking what I think about the situation itself, then:
Scouts apparently start by approaching a large number of women. It’s common for them to approach 100 women before managing to recruit even one.
Since they have to approach …
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📅 May 30, 2025 17:30
I’m struggling because I can’t date multiple people. I’ve been getting lots of offers, but I always feel like I have to choose just one person, so I end up ruining potentially wonderful connections myself. Is there any trick to seeing multiple men at once? With the man I was with for three years, neither of us dated anyone else, and we truly trusted each other. When you’re seeing multiple people, doesn’t it become hard to trust them and...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Even if you believed him, wasn’t he seeing multiple women? He wasn’t married, either, right?
It’s not marriage, so you don’t have to take it so seriously.
I think you may be making assumptions. If you genuinely think he’s wonderful and you’re getting lots of offers, it’d be a waste not to see multiple people.
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📅 May 30, 2025 02:26
We had our first date at a restaurant in Osaka Daimaru in mid-April, but the woman, who was 26, showed up wearing sneakers and a hat. I thought, “I guess she doesn’t care about dressing appropriately for the occasion.” To me, it’s the equivalent of a man showing up to meet a woman in shorts. I could understand that kind of outfit for a first date at an amusement park or while camping, regardless of whether it was through Universe. I’m f...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Since it’s a restaurant at Daimaru, she may have dressed appropriately for the time, place, and occasion.
If it were a meal at a high-end hotel restaurant, she’d probably come dressed more formally.
Personally, Fuu finds women who don’t look like they’ll cost much more appealing, though.
Also, if this was an offer through a club, you can specify the dress code. Since “formal” is an option, she probably just stuck with the default casual style.