Blackmail…? Some people really do exhausting things.
Assuming they have some leverage over you, such as personal information or compromising details, it might be best to gradually distance yourself.
It may turn into a game of chicken, but until they give up, you may have no choice but to put up with it. You should also gradually change the dynamic—for example, start refusing one out of every three requests instead of agreeing every time.
Try to find the courage to make those changes.
If they realize they can no longer control you, there’s a good chance they’ll move on.
Hope this helps.
>I think your papa’s demands have escalated to the point where you can no longer keep up with them.
That likely means he has crossed your limits, so I think it would be best to end things.
>Is it okay to continue the relationship until he naturally loses interest and breaks things off?
First, try not replying to his LINE messages or other messages.
That may naturally lead to him being the one to end things.
Whether it’s okay or not is for you to decide.
If you don’t like it, you should end things. And if you haven’t shared any personal information with them, you can simply block them and be done with it.
But it sounds like you’ve probably shared some personal information with them, even if only casually.
In that case, do things they’re likely to dislike and gradually fade out.
For example, meet them while smelling bad, lol.
I once met someone who had an incredibly beautiful face, but the area between her butt cheeks smelled like poop, lol. She probably didn’t wash properly on a regular basis—the smell seemed completely ingrained. I was so turned off that I couldn’t do anything, lol.
The answer is in the first line. In my opinion, both parties should quit if the activity becomes stressful.
I completely understand being scared if the other person is the aggressive, intimidating type, but you can’t hesitate here. Properly telling them it’s over is one of the defining moments of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), even if it may be hard to see it that way.
To end things amicably, you could consider using a lawyer or the police.
**Using a lawyer**
It costs money, and there’s a huge difference in lawyers’ abilities, so choosing the right one is important. Some offer a free initial consultation (30 minutes), but personally, I haven’t had great experiences with them. In any case, consultations are time-based, so I recommend organizing what you want to discuss in advance.
Generally, a lawyer can send the other party a certified letter under the lawyer’s name. Be careful: if you demand compensation or anything similar without using a lawyer, there’s a chance you could end up being arrested yourself.
**Going to the police**
They probably won’t offer much advice in advance. However, if you’ve suffered some kind of harm, they will accept your report. Depending on the circumstances, the police will investigate and may issue the other person a warning. According to a friend who works for the police, this resolves the situation in over 90% of cases. That said, there are always some idiots who ignore police warnings.
In that case, they’ll generally be arrested. They’ll be released the first time, but a second arrest can lead to prison. The chances of it going that far are quite low, but that’s precisely why it’s important to deal with the situation early.
In short, prepare thoroughly in advance and clearly communicate your wishes to the other person.
