My papa is married and lives alone during the week because of a work assignment away from home.
I’m always the one who reaches out and asks to meet, and he agrees to see me. He’s also told me that it’s okay to contact him even if we don’t have plans, and—probably because he was tipsy—said he’d like to see me once a week.
But since he has to pay my allowance and the hotel costs every time we meet, I hesitate to ask because I worry it might become a burden. I also feel that if I invite him too often, he might lose interest and think, “She just wants money.”
How do men feel when a woman doesn’t contact them very often? If you’re seeing someone, do you want her to take the initiative and invite you out?
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If we go by the idea that the person who wants to meet should be the one to initiate, it sounds like you’re the one who wants to meet more.
Since they said they’d like to see you once a week, I think you should stay in touch at a pace that allows you to meet once a week.
That said, this question is very similar to the one right before it. Could it be the same person testing how to make it look like they’re not the same person?
No, I may be reading too much into it—it could simply be that two different people happened to ask very similar questions...
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I do a little of it too.
Every other week works best.
It’s frequent enough that it doesn’t become a burden, but not so spread out that things lose momentum.
I’ve stuck with this arrangement ever since we started seeing each other.
The woman I’m seeing also says it’s just right—not too close, not too distant!
We’ve been seeing each other for seven years now, and even when I say, “Shouldn’t I be thinking about quitting soon?” she says, “I’m not stopping anytime soon!”
I’ve started looking for someone new, but I keep getting turned down one after another. Things don’t always work out in life.
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Probably not. If he were bothered, I think he’d say so, so you may be overthinking it.
That said, I do think seeing each other too often might make him lose interest sooner.
There’s no one right answer, so I think it’s fine to meet as often as you’d like.
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The frequency that feels comfortable and whether someone wants to be actively invited out varies from person to person, depending on the circumstances and who they’re seeing.
However, if a man says he’d like to meet once a week or that it’s okay to contact him even without a specific reason, and she still doesn’t respond to that, then I’d say he probably occupies that kind of place in her life.
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If she actively invites me, we might meet every day, or sometimes two or three times a week.
That said, a woman I go to a hotel with every time we meet wouldn’t invite me out that often, and I wouldn’t be able to accommodate it either.
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