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📅 May 29, 2025 11:43
Is it difficult to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) at 35? I’m hoping to meet someone new after things ended with the person I’d been seeing for six years, but realistically, isn’t it hard unless you’re in your 20s...?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
I think you should be fine, so try registering again.
The average age of male members has been going up, and compared with five years ago, I get the impression that more women in their 30s and 40s are registering. So even if you’re in your 30s, you should be fine as long as you still look attractive and youthful.
Personally, Fuu occasionally dates women in their 20s, but those relationships don’t last long. The monthly arrangements that continue tend to be with women in the…
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📅 May 28, 2025 13:42
I’m a woman in my early 20s with Black membership (though I ended up asking the men about this). I wanted to ask for some advice. When it comes to men who only want room dates, I somehow feel as though I’m being treated like a sex-work service, and I lose the desire to meet them. I usually turn those men down. A lot of them book a very small business hotel with a single bed, like APA Hotel or Toyoko Inn, for daytime use. They want to me...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
The whole point of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is that you can say no, so why put up with it?
You should just discuss your terms upfront, like:
“An allowance of at least ___,”
“Up to three hours if we’re only going to a room,”
“Up to four hours for dinner,”
and then part ways with any papa (a male supporter) who won’t agree.
Why not simply state your preferences and terms?
Besides, is it really enjoyable having dinner with some creepy older man you don’t even …
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📅 May 27, 2025 04:26
I’m a beginner in my late 40s who recently joined. Assuming I’m a clean-cut, slim papa (a male supporter) of average appearance and can offer an allowance one unit above the going rate, roughly what are the chances of moving to an adult relationship (intimate) with types A, B1, B2, C, and D? For example, I’d like to know if a Black B1 is basically impossible for an ordinary guy, or things like that. I’m asking because I’d like to have a...
💬 Answer from アンディ:
I’m Andy, a member.
I’ve had just under 50 offers through Patro and the club.
My allowance may be lower than what’s generally considered the going rate. I don’t change the amount depending on who I meet. (I did increase it for one person after our relationship deepened.)
I meet them for a first meeting, and about half of them have met me a second time. There are various reasons I don’t continue seeing someone, but it always comes down to instinct—whether I wasn’t intereste…
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📅 May 24, 2025 18:20
I cared for my husband for about ten years while he was ill, and he passed away last year. I always eat alone at home, so I’d like to occasionally go out for a meal or spend time together outside—and if we hit it off, perhaps pursue a relationship. I’m not looking to get married. I always wear glasses. Would men be put off by a woman who wears glasses?
💬 Answer from ジョー・ルビコン:
I suspect there are quite a few women like you, and I believe the demand for this will only continue to grow. However, finding someone here who meets all your preferences may not be easy. Perhaps you could take your time looking on other dating apps as well?
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📅 May 24, 2025 12:25
I’m considering joining a papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) club, but I’m still undecided. In the answers below, many people said they wouldn’t offer to married women. Are most of the male members single, or are they married themselves but simply don’t want to offer to married women? I’m single, but I may get married someday, so I was curious.
💬 Answer from だて◎ゆめ:
I imagine many of the men using dating clubs are single or divorced.
Also, it seems some men have ended up facing civil lawsuits after becoming involved with married women, so I assume they avoid offering to married women as a way of minimizing that risk.
I’m married myself, but I believe there’s virtually no chance my spouse would file a civil lawsuit. I get the feeling there are quite a few married men who think the same way.
As Makeotoko-san mentioned, I don’t think the…
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📅 May 23, 2025 20:42
Sorry for the beginner question. I only recently learned about relationship clubs. To put it bluntly, do some people use them to look for a serious partner rather than for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? And roughly how many people have gone on to develop a serious relationship through one? Even an estimate would be helpful. I ask because my impression is that women join relationship clubs to earn money through papa-katsu (com...
💬 Answer from だて◎ゆめ:
Me too, to some extent.
I’m not considering marriage at all, and there’s an allowance involved, but I’m serious about the relationship itself.
In my case, I’m genuinely committed to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) as the activity of looking for a papa (a male supporter), as Universe describes it.
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📅 May 23, 2025 07:07
I was a member until about seven years ago. I’m now in my early 30s and married—would it still be possible for me to rejoin? Also, is there still any demand for someone with my profile? For reference, I used to be a Black-class female member. That’s what the people I met at the time told me.
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Personally, Fuu doesn’t make offers to married people here.
Age is fine. I think appearance and looks matter more than someone’s actual age.
Why not come in for an interview? If you pass, you’ll know you’ve cleared the minimum requirements.
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📅 May 18, 2025 07:40
Is there a difference in appearance or overall caliber between female Black and Platinum members? I’m a five-star Platinum member, and although it’s been years since I registered, I still receive a lot of offers. I also regularly see basically everyone I meet, and even the shortest arrangements last at least two years. So why am I still Platinum after all this time? Is it basically impossible to move up to a higher class?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
> I’m a Platinum member with a five-star rating. Even though it’s been years since I registered, I still receive a lot of offers.
I wondered if there were really women like that at Universe, so I looked around casually—and was actually surprised to find quite a few.
One woman I happened to see had received over 200 offers. I was surprised that you could reach numbers like that if you stayed active for a long time.
Of course, I assume it’s probably because she’s Platinum ra…
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📅 May 18, 2025 00:11
What do you look at when deciding whether to make an offer? Their photos, rank, hobbies, or age?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
In my case, I search by location, type CD, and ratings, then browse the photos in rating order. I check the profiles of anyone who looks promising, add the good ones to my favorites, and then decide who to contact after watching the final videos of the people I’ve saved.
My criteria for photos are: not overly flashy, a neat and refined look, natural, kind and gentle-looking, slender, with a defined waist, and a nice smile.
For profiles, I look for students or working profes…
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📅 May 18, 2025 00:09
Do women who receive a lot of offers tend to be ranked Platinum? I seem to be Gold, but I’m worried because I’m not getting many offers. What can I do to become Platinum?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
> I seem to be ranked Gold, but I’m not getting many offers and it’s really bothering me. What can I do to reach Platinum?
If you were actually a Platinum-level woman, you’d probably be flooded with offers by now.
In other words, if a woman who would normally require paying the Platinum setting fee is listed as Gold, men see it as a great deal and send her offers.
Of course, some men may ask, “Why is she Gold?” or “Is there something wrong with her personality?” In that ca…
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📅 May 17, 2025 13:55
I came down with something the day before our date, so I apologized and asked to reschedule. She said that since she’d set aside the time, she still wanted the allowance. In a situation like this, would it be reasonable to pay her? That said, she keeps trying to decide on restaurants she wants to go to without consulting me, and she’s also tried to increase the allowance each time we meet. Honestly, I’m starting to feel like I don’t nee...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
They’re taking advantage of your attachment.
It sounds like she’s in a position where she figures that even if things end with you, she might as well get as much allowance as she can while it lasts.
If you don’t want to break things off because she’s attractive or the sex is good, even though her personality and attitude are unpleasant, then you could keep paying and continue seeing her.
But if you’re fine with not seeing her again, I’d cancel your next date and block her …
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📅 May 16, 2025 05:21
I’m considering joining at the Platinum level, but if there’s a Black-level woman I’m interested in, do I have to upgrade my membership class before I can make her an offer? Is there any system or promotion that would allow me to join as Platinum and make offers to Black-level women by paying an additional fee each time?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
> If a man is interested in a Black-tier woman, is it set up so that he has to change his membership class before he can make an offer?
Yes, that’s right.
> If you join at the Platinum level, are there any systems or campaigns that let you make an offer to a Black-tier woman by paying a fee each time?
There used to be a system that allowed members to make offers to women in higher tiers for an additional fee without changing their class. However, I believe the cost was hig…
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📅 May 15, 2025 11:11
I Quit Papa-Katsu I was previously registered with Universe Club. It did help me earn some spending money, but the stress I received from the papas was far more damaging, and I realized this just wasn’t for me. The list could go on forever, but: - They paid a low allowance once a month, yet demanded daily replies on LINE and got angry if I left them on read. - They paid a low allowance but pressured me to have unprotected sex. - When I ...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
When women who work in the adult entertainment industry came to Universe, many of them tended to choose Relationship Type A or B. (Sorry if things have changed recently.)
When I asked why, I often heard things like, “I can’t choose the men I see for work, so here I want to choose my own partner.” So I can understand the idea that adult entertainment is a job, while papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is about meeting people.
Of course, at the time, papa-katsu was just …
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📅 May 15, 2025 10:00
I had an adult relationship (intimate) with someone I met for the first time yesterday. We had exchanged lots of messages on LINE and talked on the phone, and he seemed like a nice person, so I decided to meet him. In person, he brought me a souvenir and even bought me some fruit, which made him seem very kind. However, he said he wanted the allowance for an adult relationship to be 1.5, which I felt was a little low. After negotiating,...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Do other dating clubs exchange LINE contacts before meeting?
Do they call too?
If so, that sounds pretty scary.
If you think the offer is too low, I think you should turn it down.
It’s unclear whether he stopped contacting you because you negotiated the allowance, because he wasn’t attracted to you as an adult partner, or because he’s the type of papa (a male supporter) who only wants a one-time meeting.
On the other hand, if you felt he was low-paying, maybe it worked …
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📅 May 14, 2025 07:39
【About men whose first meeting is coffee only】 I’ve met quite a few men through this club, and I’ve noticed that men who make the first date nothing more than a drink at a café—just one coffee or tea, with not even a slice of cake—often end up treating me casually afterward as well. They invite me to a hotel room and then end the date without ever leaving the room, making me think, “What is this, some kind of call-out service?” It’s pai...
💬 Answer from 紙ひこうき:
Hello,
I think it’s because of your own approach that both you and the other person end up feeling that way.
People are only interested in things they care about, so everyone chooses differently where to spend their time and money. For a papa (a male supporter), spending that money on women is usually the main priority, so they’re no more interested in what women in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) spend their allowance on than they are in anything else.
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📅 May 13, 2025 13:44
I’m a female member. On my first date, I only brought my phone with me when I went to the restroom, and afterward I noticed that the front and back of the ID I had in my wallet had been switched. I doubt my partner would admit to it if I asked, but what should I do? I trusted someone registered with this club to a certain extent, and I realize I’m also at fault for not taking my whole bag with me. Still, I’d appreciate any advice from p...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
There are all kinds of people out there, so don’t trust anyone blindly.
Either take your bag with you when you go to the shower, or don’t bring your ID when doing papa-katsu.
Please protect yourself and take responsibility for your own safety.
Men who are members of a club probably wouldn’t go as far as taking your bag. There’s little benefit in stealing a woman’s money on the spot.
They’d be expelled from the club, meaning:
→ They couldn’t continue their activities, and …
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📅 May 11, 2025 12:45
How is it different from nightlife work? Lately, I’ve been approached by nightlife recruiters quite often. Some have told me, “I think you could work at a high-end place in Tokyo, like Ginza.” A close male friend of mine who’s a business owner and often goes out drinking says I’m not suited for it. It got me thinking: papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) comes with risks such as sexually transmitted infections, but are some women be...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Why not give it a try? You won’t know whether it suits you until you do.
The business owners you go drinking with might just be saying that because they won’t be able to go out drinking with you anymore.
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📅 May 11, 2025 01:13
I’ve only applied for an interview so far, and I’m a 26-year-old non-member. I’m thinking of choosing Type A. The reason is that sex genuinely scares me, and I probably place too much importance on my virginity being something sacred… Would there be even a little demand for a 26-year-old virgin choosing Type A? When I did papa-katsu on another app in the past, I was paid 5,000 yen each time for a two-hour dinner. There was one papa (a m...
💬 Answer from ダイ:
To answer seriously, there are certainly some men who want to offer women of Type A an arrangement without intimacy, although they’re relatively few.
However, the standards are pretty high.
A Type A woman once told me that she was taken to different wine bars every time and asked for her thoughts on each wine they drank.
She said it was always difficult because she wasn’t allowed to make the same kind of comment as before.
Sounds like *The Drops of God*.
Apparently, that…
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📅 May 8, 2025 17:15
My monthly arrangement partner, who has always treated me well, said he needed some time to sort out his thoughts about our relationship. It’s only been a day, but I still haven’t heard back from him. Should I assume that our relationship is over?
💬 Answer from だて◎ゆめ:
Me too, a little!
I think there’s a good chance the relationship has ended, but it might be best to wait and see for a while. I don’t think you should jump to conclusions too quickly.
In my case, I tell them I’ll keep seeing them until they want to stop. Maybe that’s why, but I keep getting invitations anyway. I really should be quitting soon, though—what’s going on?
More importantly, my attempts to recruit a successor have been a complete failure! I can’t seem to get thin…
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📅 May 8, 2025 14:19
The photo they took for my profile is so awful that I feel like I probably won’t get any offers. I think the photos I took myself on my iPhone look better. If the main photo isn’t your type, you probably wouldn’t even bother viewing the profile, right? I’m not sure how it’s displayed on the men’s side, though.
💬 Answer from 高坂 楓（スタッフ）:
Our staff member Kosaka will answer as well.
Our staff members receive training in photography, but after that, everyone develops their own style. Since we’re not professionals, differences in results are inevitable, depending on factors such as experience.
Even if your profile photos aren’t great, there are plenty of ways to appeal to men. A well-written profile, for example, can still make them think, “Oh, interesting.”