When you meet a girl on a monthly arrangement (or a pay-per-meeting arrangement), do you vary the allowance depending on whether you’re intimate or not due to her period or other circumstances? (For example, ¥10,000 without intimacy and ¥50,000 with intimacy.)

True, lol. As Maezawa-san said, it might be best to ask a woman about it. With Fuu, I usually casually ask about her period date and cycle after we’ve met two or three times. Women honestly probably want an allowance equivalent to an adult relationship if they’re going to meet, so if you ask casually and without making it feel sleazy, quite a few will answer—when you’re in a private room, of course. The monthly partner I used to be closest with even sent me screenshots from the LunaLuna app via LINE, lol. Basically, we meet when she’s not on her period, and if it suddenly starts, we reschedule. I don’t do dinner only after giving an allowance. If it’s just dinner, I have female friends who’ll come without an allowance. I have gone to lunch with a monthly partner without giving an allowance, but that was something she wanted.

People who have been in a long-term monthly arrangement with someone get a fixed monthly amount, so the allowance doesn’t change even when they’re on their period. By the way, does Mr. Loser have around five billion yen? I’d need at least that much to be able to throw away that kind of money. It’s just too many zeros. Cost-effectiveness? If it’s anything but penetration, maybe he’s a genius at oral. P.S. Compared with lavish spending in Ginza, this activity is pretty reasonable. I wonder if champagne towers exist outside host clubs. I’m not interested in cars, watches, or clothes either, so this is the only activity I do. I’m part of the Uniqlo crowd. Thank you.

I think the biggest issue is that this question doesn’t mention the woman at all—he seems intent on making the decision alone without considering her feelings. It seems like all he needs to do is talk it over with her.

With a Type B arrangement, you’ll be meeting once or several times without an adult relationship (intimate), so I set different allowances for dates without intimacy and dates with intimacy. I use the same terms even when it isn’t a Type B arrangement. Dates that are just going for a drive or visiting a theme park are also quite common. P.S. She’s especially happy when I give her an allowance for a no-intimacy date while she’s on her period but not feeling too unwell.

With my pay-per-meeting monthly partners, they cancel on me when they’re on their period, so I don’t give them an allowance. I also have one monthly partner with an unusual arrangement: she’s okay with everything except penetration. Since there’s no penetration, we still meet even when she’s on her period. I guess the only thing we can’t do is oral sex. She’ll bring me to climax as many times as I want. She’s actually a pretty valuable asset, haha. With the girl I pay monthly, the allowance doesn’t change whether we’re intimate or not. At one point, I continued sending her the monthly allowance for seven months without seeing her even once. I also have another monthly partner whom I couldn’t see for six months due to personal circumstances, so I paid her the full six months upfront. Three months have passed now, and we probably won’t see each other for another three months. There’s even a slight possibility that we’ll end up parting ways without ever meeting again. Being a papa really takes patience, doesn’t it? It’s like a contest to see who can keep pretending everything’s fine. Next week—or maybe this week—I have my first date with the woman I’ve been looking forward to meeting more than anyone else. Including her, I’m meeting four new women in one week. Ajiship is going to get a lot of use. One of them has already canceled at the last minute more than ten times. I wonder if she’ll cancel again, haha. She probably has something like binge-eating and purging going on. I read Mac’s post, but I still haven’t been able to digest it at all. I’m just too slow to understand it, haha. > I make it clear from the start that I’m not willing to pay an allowance just for dinner, so there’s no allowance. I think Kazu’s approach is the best. If a girl is willing to have dinner without an allowance, there’s no reason to cut things off, so she can become a stable monthly partner, right? Update: Seattle I really don’t have that much money. It’s just that work has an abnormally high priority in my life, and I wear down my body and soul working every day. I think I’m probably being compensated for that sacrifice. You could call it wasting money, and you’d be right, but I barely spend anything on myself, so I think the amount I spend in a year is probably about the same as the other people answering here. I get the impression that most of you drive nice cars and spend money on food, clothing, and housing, but maybe I’m wrong? I like oral sex, but I have no interest in Ferraris. I don’t spend much on food—less than 1,000 yen a day—my suits are from Aoyama or Konaka, my casual clothes are from Uniqlo, and my rent isn’t expensive either. I simply spend on women instead of spending on myself. My total spending probably isn’t that different from everyone else’s. Also, I think my source of excitement is completely different from that of the other people answering here. I’ve arbitrarily defined giving a woman money without asking for anything in return as “the highest level of gentlemanly behavior.” So I get a thrill from thinking, “I’m amazing for being able to keep giving her money even without seeing her for six months.” In the end, it’s all about me. I probably like myself the most. > If it’s everything except penetration, you must be a genius with your mouth. I’m too large, so penetration doesn’t really work. It technically fits, but it hurts. So rather than break up, we agreed on “everything except penetration,” with an allowance of less than half what I pay my other monthly partners. She asked me, “How much would you pay for anything except penetration?” and I burst out laughing, haha. Update: Mac Exactly. I suppose it’s a particular fetish. Maybe she’s like one of Mac’s training challenges. I’m not even sure what I’m aiming for myself. I’m aware that I’m operating under this grand hypothesis: that through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I can forge myself into a stronger man, broaden my capacity as a person, and ultimately turn that into something positive in business.

All of the women I’m still seeing take the pill. Women who don’t take it face a higher risk of pregnancy, and I feel that women who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) without taking the pill are being careless, so I don’t continue those relationships. Breakthrough bleeding does happen occasionally, but when it does, the woman usually contacts me, so we generally reschedule. If she was counting on that day’s allowance, she tells me, and in those cases I advance her the next allowance. Separately, there are times when we meet during a gap in our schedules just to have a meal together. I make it clear from the beginning that I don’t pay an allowance for dinner only (no intimacy), so there’s no allowance in those cases. If I’ve had higher-risk sexual encounters—such as group sex, unprotected sex with another woman, or going to a sex club as a social obligation—and haven’t been tested to confirm that I’m negative yet, I refrain from having sex with the women I’m seeing. In those cases, I explain the situation, and since it’s a cancellation on my end, I don’t have sex with them but still pay the usual allowance.