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📅 Aug 12, 2025 12:28
Would I still get offers with a curvy build at 155 cm and 53 kg??
💬 Answer from アンディ:
It’s hard to say without seeing her profile, but since there are plenty of low-paying girls out there, she might be worth considering if you prefer curvier women.
Personally, with those specs, I’d pass regardless of her looks—but it really comes down to personal preference.
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📅 Aug 11, 2025 23:52
I’m already feeling gloomy thinking about getting back to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) after Obon. Maybe it’s just not for me… But I need the money, so I can’t bring myself to quit. How do you all get through those depressing feelings?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
It’s all about your mindset, so saying you’re not cut out for it is ultimately just a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Since the whole point of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is that you can choose who you see, why not date someone you actually don’t mind being with?
My regular partners are all cheerful and seem to be having fun. Then again, I only keep seeing people I enjoy being around, so that might be the key. I probably couldn’t handle someone gloomy like the person…
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📅 Aug 9, 2025 23:55
While I was out on a date with my papa (a male supporter), he said, “If I meet someone prettier than you, I might switch to her.” (“You” is my name.) I don’t know whether he was joking because he’d been drinking, or whether he’s always felt that way and the alcohol simply lowered his inhibitions enough for his true feelings to come out… He’s a man who cares a lot about his appearance, so I do feel that I may be making him think I’m not ...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
I think Aya, one of the female members, would answer like this:
“He isn’t thinking anything of it. It doesn’t mean anything deeper.”
I wish Aya would come back.
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📅 Aug 7, 2025 14:33
I ended things with my monthly papa, who had developed genuine romantic feelings for me over the six years we were together. He turned into a stalker, waiting for hours outside my home, at my nearest station, and at my workplace, and sending me countless messages on LINE. “You really don’t have a boyfriend? I’m just an old guy anyway, so…”
💬 Answer from 負け男:
The only way for a papa (a male supporter) to be liked by girls is to admit that you’re an “old geezer.”
I often use the word “old geezer” to describe myself in front of women. Strangely enough, it puts them at ease and makes them feel closer to me. Sometimes they even get worked up and say, “Mr. Loser isn’t an old geezer!”
It’s a shame that the papa in this question can’t even admit he’s an “old man,” let alone an “old geezer.”
I’m having an absolute blast seeing a Type A…
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📅 Aug 6, 2025 09:20
I’m 158 cm and 55 kg with an F cup—would it be okay for me to go to an interview?? Should I lose a little more weight first?
💬 Answer from ダイ:
If you’re asking whether it’s okay or not, yes, it’s okay.
There are quite a few women registered with a similar build.
That said, whether you actually receive offers is a separate matter.
The men here don’t make offers as an act of charity.
Each man has his own preferences, so women who don’t meet those standards are immediately ruled out as potential candidates.
Also, the men at these clubs generally prefer women who have just registered. And if you have no experience …
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📅 Aug 4, 2025 17:00
I’m the one who asked the question, “I’ve genuinely fallen for my papa (a married man in his 40s).” I’m not quite sure what you mean by “the usual person,” but hearing everyone’s various opinions helped me regain my composure. Being told there’d be no allowance is almost like being told to offer your feelings instead of money. That is, admittedly, a little scary. Rather than forcing my romantic feelings on him, I think I’ll do my best t...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
Money is a condom for the heart.
Even so, the romantic feelings that develop can feel like a baby you want to raise—but they’ll bring the questioner little but unhappiness. The moment you develop romantic feelings for a married person, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) stops being papa-katsu and simply falls into an affair.
You’ve never heard of an affair that brings happiness, have you? Even if you managed to win over your papa (a male supporter), you’d make his wif…
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📅 Jul 31, 2025 21:47
Are there men who’d be okay with me being in my 40s and plus-size, even though I’m around a K cup?
💬 Answer from 負け男:
I’m way too curious about what happened with Fuu getting blocked on LINE. I hope Darling comes back soon and tells Fuu the whole story.
This kind of thing scares me, so I always keep my distance from other women. And Ace’s wedding window is getting closer by the day...
I prefer slender women, so I wouldn’t make an offer to the person asking this question, and I doubt she’d have much demand on Universe Club. That said, plenty of men like curvier women, so why not try your lu…
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📅 Jul 30, 2025 03:26
I’ve genuinely fallen for my papa (a married man in his 40s). I’d like to keep our relationship as it is, but stop receiving an allowance. However, he doesn’t seem like the type to develop real romantic feelings, and I feel he may be paying the allowance to maintain clear boundaries. He’s even told me that it’s important for him to pay. Would he find it too heavy if I brought this up? I don’t want us to end, so I’d rather choose the opt...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Why not try telling him, “Just this once, you don’t have to give me an allowance”?
If he says no, you can always add, “That’s fine too—I was just asking,” to keep your options open.
If you want it to last, though, you’ll probably have to keep things the way they’ve been.
That said, I also got serious for the first time in my seven years of doing this and told her I’d fallen for her—only to get blocked, lol.
Being serious is taboo here. To keep yourself from getting too at…
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📅 Jul 29, 2025 01:19
I received a notice that there’s going to be an event at Universe Lounge next week. Will the women attending mainly be young women from the Black and Platinum tiers? I’m probably not considered young by the club’s standards. I’ve heard that you normally need to be exceptionally attractive to get into the lounge. Should women outside the Black and Platinum tiers avoid attending? If anyone has been to one of these events, I’d really appre...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
> I read that you can’t get into the lounge unless you’re exceptionally attractive.
That’s just promotional wording.
That said, standard-class women aren’t allowed in, so if you assume you need looks good enough for GOLD or above, then saying you need to be quite attractive isn’t entirely untrue.
> Should women below Black or Platinum avoid participating?
Even when they call it an event, the details vary each time, as does the mix of women attending.
So there may be time…
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📅 Jul 29, 2025 00:04
How do you go about finding hotels that are available for daytime use? I’m considering asking out a Type C woman whose dates are “daytime only.” I understand that, depending on the chemistry, she might be open to going to a hotel even on a first meeting, but I can’t seem to find a suitable day-use hotel, so I end up hesitating to ask her out in the first place. There wouldn’t be any financial issue with a regular overnight stay, but che...
💬 Answer from ダイ:
I usually use regular love hotels for daytime dates.
Hotels in the Bali An resort group are convenient because you can make reservations even for a short stay, and they’re reasonably clean.
Day-use hotels can really vary in quality.
Once, I booked a day-use room at a hotel I wasn’t familiar with, and regretted it—the place was so bad that even an APA Hotel would have seemed better.
If I were going for a luxury hotel during the day, I’d book an overnight stay at a JR-affil…
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📅 Jul 27, 2025 00:47
My papa (a male supporter) said he’d like to give me something I want as a gift and asked me to tell him what I’d like. I told him that I’m happy just spending time together and that nothing came to mind when he asked me so suddenly. He asked me to decide by the next time we meet, but I’m worried that continuing to hold back might actually come across as rude, so I’m not sure what to say. Honestly, I’d like something I can wear—like a n...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
In situations like that, it’s important to think, “What does this papa (a male supporter) actually want to give me?” and respond accordingly.
If he mentions clothes, bags, or a hotel he wants to visit, there are several possibilities: maybe he wants to choose the woman’s clothes together, show off while shopping at a brand-name store, or visit a hotel he himself wants to try, with the questioner encouraging him by saying she’d like to go too. People’s preferences vary, but t…
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📅 Jul 26, 2025 10:48
A question for both men and women: What usually prompts you to want to end things with someone you’ve been seeing through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for several months or more? (For example, simply getting bored, them becoming distant, their body changing, etc.) There’s a papa (a male supporter) I really like right now, and I absolutely don’t want us to break up, so I’d like to prevent that from happening in advance… (cryi...
💬 Answer from アンディ:
Since it depends on the papa (male supporter), it’s difficult to say there’s one fixed way to do things.
Speaking only for myself, I continue seeing various people—around ten in total—while considering the timing and how we communicate.
I also really enjoy meeting new people at first meetings, so I get opportunities to meet someone new every month.
There is some turnover among the ten, but usually around five of them continue each month. Sometimes the women are the ones wh…
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📅 Jul 26, 2025 09:20
My papa has fallen seriously in love with me and is starting to act like a stalker. I’m scared. He gives me ¥150,000 a month, and I rent an apartment, paying the rent out of that allowance. He also covered all the initial costs, appliances, and everything else. Since renting the apartment, we’ve been meeting there. But on days when I cancel our plans, he’s started coming by to check on me. I haven’t given him a spare key, so whenever he...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
If you really can’t stand it, should you find another papa before ending things, get back the money for your security deposit, key money, and appliances, prepare to move, and then break up?
That does sound pretty difficult, though.
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📅 Jul 26, 2025 08:34
I was deeply impressed when I once saw Makeo-san answer a question by saying, “I absolutely love one-star ratings.” I don’t have the emotional capacity to enjoy them like that. How can I reach that kind of mental state? If anything from your own experience comes to mind, I’d be grateful if you could share it. Thank you in advance.
💬 Answer from 負け男:
Mountain climbers want to climb challenging mountains, right? It’s the same kind of mindset.
A ★1 woman is probably someone with nothing but problems—bad attitude, high allowance demands, constant last-minute cancellations, and so on. But then I think:
“Alright, maybe I’ll be the one to crack her.”
That’s how I am. Hearing about a woman no other man can handle—someone considered impossible to win over—gets me fully motivated.
On the other hand, I’m sure there are plenty o…
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📅 Jul 26, 2025 03:40
I’m new to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and am still deciding whether to start. Do you have to become physically intimate with your papa (a male supporter)? I’m a little scared of the idea of that.
💬 Answer from ダイ:
You don’t necessarily have to become intimate, but it’s important to offer something else in return for receiving an allowance.
No one is going to give money to someone who brings nothing to the table.
For most people, if all they want is to have dinner with a young woman, they can simply treat someone from work and get the same thing.
Being beautiful is a given, so I think you can do dinner only (no intimacy) if you have something extra to offer.
For example, having a ra…
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📅 Jul 26, 2025 03:14
What kinds of restaurants do you usually go to when dining with a woman? If you’ve met several times, do you generally tend to choose more casual places?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
For a first-offer date, I make a reservation at a booth or private room serving the woman’s favorite cuisine and take her there.
As Fuu, who considers himself—perhaps a little too proudly—the epitome of a papa-katsu papa, I keep a list of restaurants in various genres with a pleasant atmosphere and either semi-private or private rooms.
You can’t really discuss the terms unless you have a private room.
Once, I went to an open café in a hotel lobby, but there was a loud grou…
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📅 Jul 25, 2025 13:16
I recently signed up and I’m curious about my class. I know it’s not appropriate to ask someone to tell me directly, so I’d just like to get a general idea based on what I can figure out myself. When I receive a favorite from a man, sometimes his class is displayed and sometimes it isn’t. Does that mean his class is set to private? Also, when a man with a Standard membership favorites me, will “Standard” appear on the screen showing who...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
There’s no point worrying about it since it won’t change anything.
Just decide on your non-negotiable minimum for your allowance and the terms of the arrangement.
Being Platinum doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll get a surprisingly generous allowance. Sometimes, being Gold and receiving lots of offers can actually lead to earning more allowance overall.
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📅 Jul 25, 2025 12:36
The female respondents have disappeared—did their papas break up with them? I enjoyed Ayaka’s and Marika’s answers, and I was a fan of Misato’s, so I’m feeling a bit lonely. I haven’t seen Flag Maker around lately either.
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Meg, long time no see!
Six years with the same arrangement is amazing. She must be incredibly attractive.
Changing the subject, Fuu has been doing papa-katsu for seven years, but I’m now seeing a woman in her mid-30s who’s been registered with the club for ten years—the first woman I’ve dated with more club experience than me.
She has kids, but she works incredibly hard on her appearance. Her stomach is flat, she has a nice waist, and her body and skin might even look bet…
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📅 Jul 24, 2025 17:36
I’m not sure if this is the right place to ask, but I’d appreciate some guidance. I signed up for PATOLO and saw that completing an interview for identity verification would get me verified, so I went ahead with the interview. I don’t actually intend to join Universe Club—I just thought it might be better to have the verification. During the interview, I clearly explained to the interviewer that it was for PATOLO. It’s been a few weeks ...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
At PATOLO, women who have completed an interview and those who haven’t are clearly separated. So from a man’s perspective, you should appear as a woman who has been interviewed, which is reassuring since you’re less likely to stand him up.
I can’t say for sure without checking with the PATOLO staff, but perhaps there’s no indication visible on the women’s side, or the display may simply be difficult to understand.
Even if you don’t join Universe Club, the fact that you comp…
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📅 Jul 24, 2025 08:23
Is ¥150,000 or so per session standard with high-end soapland workers, while ¥100,000 is the going rate at clubs like these? I used to work at a high-end soapland, so I strongly made that point and somehow got the terms changed from ¥100,000 per meeting to ¥100,000 for an adult relationship (intimate) plus ¥20,000 for transportation. Are people involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) generally less financially well-off?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
A question/opinion with plenty of points to pick apart? Thank you.
There really aren’t many soaplands charging ¥100,000 or more, let alone ¥150,000 ones. And the average percentage women receive is around 60%, right?
Of course, you can earn a lot because you’ll see several customers in a day, lol, so I think you should just go back to a high-end soapland.
Am I understanding correctly that even when you were getting ¥150,000, you were seeing three people per shift?
You cou…