I’m divorced and have a child.

I honestly think you should lower your expectations. With a one-year-old, you’re probably quite limited in terms of where and when you can meet. And even setting aside whether someone would be okay with you bringing your child, finding a papa (a male supporter) who’s willing to make the effort to meet you will be challenging—more so than any particular technique. Try taking action and see whether you can register. If it doesn’t work out, look into other options. I haven’t personally met with married people or parents, so this is just speculation, but I hope it helps.

In that situation, if three women could each get ¥500,000 a month, the number of people signing up here would skyrocket. We’d see a lot more divorced mothers joining, lol. It’s difficult even for someone with celebrity-level looks, so for a divorced mother with kids, it would be even harder. It’s not that easy. I haven’t met many people from the sex industry who were particularly skilled. Once someone seems too experienced, they might not get much support here. I like the type where a college girl with little experience gradually becomes more sensual through this. I avoid women who used to work extensively in the sex industry or are currently working there. I wouldn’t make them someone I see regularly.

Personally, giving 500,000 yen a month isn’t particularly difficult for me. But when it comes to maintaining that arrangement, it’s a different story. And as for finding three papas who would each continue giving you 500,000 yen every month, I honestly think the chances are zero. Even if you were a single, childless college student with no boyfriend and a stunningly beautiful figure, it would still be the same. That’s how difficult it is to maintain a long-term arrangement. A stunningly beautiful college student with a large bust isn’t exactly impossible to find. Even wealthy older men can find one without too much trouble. So even if he gives one stunning beauty 500,000 yen a month, he’ll keep looking for someone even better. That’s why these arrangements don’t last. Today I met a new B1 woman, unusually for me, she was 30—but she was incredibly beautiful. We hit it off, so I debated inviting her to an adult relationship right away, but we decided to leave that for next time. Tomorrow I’m meeting a new C-type woman, which I’m really not good at. Even if she turns out not to be my type, I end up inviting her out anyway, out of some sense of obligation, I guess… It’s not that I can’t say no exactly… And then I feel empty afterward…

As the other respondent mentioned, you should be able to register. 1. Some people may be hesitant because having a one-year-old child increases the risk of last-minute cancellations. 2. Quite a few men may be put off by prior experience in the adult entertainment industry. That said, I think it’s best to be honest about your circumstances during the interview and wait for a man who is willing to make an offer based on an accurate profile.

> I currently have a one-year-old daughter. Can I still register? Having children doesn’t affect your eligibility, so yes, you can register. That said, some men may choose not to make an offer because having a child can mean: - Not being able to travel - More last-minute cancellations if your child gets sick However, those men are only a minority. In general, the number of offers you receive will depend on your own appeal. > I’d like to receive support of ¥500,000 a month from around three men. I think it depends on how many men feel, “I want to help her, and I wouldn’t mind giving her ¥500,000,” as well as whether you can make men feel that way about you. There probably aren’t many women who receive ¥500,000 a month from a single man, so while it may not be impossible, you should understand that it won’t be easy. It’s fairly common to hear about men who provide ¥200,000–¥300,000 a month, so ¥250,000 a month from six men might be a more realistic possibility. That said, women who seem overly focused on money tend to be disliked. So if you’re asked during the interview, “What’s your monthly goal?” I wouldn’t recommend answering ¥1.5 million.

You could probably register, but I don’t think it’s realistic to expect something like “starting with three people paying ¥500,000 a month each.” Also, why not work in the adult-entertainment industry? I could understand going from papa-katsu at 20 to that after becoming a divorced single mother. But you’ve got it backwards. If you had done papa-katsu with me at 20, gotten pregnant, and had my child, I would have given you a ¥100 million lump sum and ¥500,000 a month for living expenses for the rest of your life. What a shame. I’m not bluffing—I really would have done it. > I’ve heard that a lot of girls offer NS services to get regulars, so I don’t think things would work out if you approached it with the same mindset as before. Personally, I’m too scared of syphilis to go to those establishments. As you know, Kazu, I have every woman I’m seeing get tested for STIs, and if anyone tests positive, I press them about where they got it. In over 90% of cases, the source isn’t a papa but a private friend-with-benefits. Host-club workers in particular. Almost 100% of the girls who got hooked on a host and are—or were—living with one have caught something, because they all do it raw to stay in the host’s good graces. I interpreted “¥500,000 a month × three people” to mean “¥500,000 total from three people.” If that’s what you meant, then the wording was poor and it makes you sound unintelligent. If you meant ¥1.5 million in total, then that’s strange in its own way.

Being rejected just because you have children shouldn’t be an issue. As for whether you can register, that depends on you, so I can’t say. I also can’t say anything about the allowance, since it depends on the man you meet. Generally speaking, though, finding a partner who will give you ¥500,000 a month is extremely difficult. If finding someone willing to pay ¥500,000 a month were really that easy, the number of women working in the adult-entertainment industry would have dropped dramatically. Some male members of dating clubs avoid women with experience working in adult entertainment. As for technique, there have only been a very small number of women I personally thought were truly good. I assume you’re considering a dating club because business in the adult-entertainment industry isn’t doing well. However, if your experience working there was enough to make you expect a monthly income of ¥1.5 million, you’d probably earn more by continuing to work in that industry. That said, perhaps because business has been slow lately, it seems that many women at condom-only establishments are offering bareback services to gain regular customers. I don’t think things will go well if you approach it with the same mindset as before. Personally, I’m too afraid of syphilis to visit adult-entertainment establishments. Adding this after reading Mac’s answer: > The source of STIs isn’t papa supporters—it’s private friends-with-benefits partners. That’s the case more than 90% of the time, especially hosts. Hosts and friends-with-benefits partners are intimate with numerous people, after all. There also seem to be many women in the adult-entertainment industry who provide bareback services even to first-time customers, which sounds like a high-risk situation. On top of that, STI testing at these establishments apparently doesn’t work on a system where women can only work if their results are negative. So it seems they may continue working for a while without realizing they’ve tested positive. > I interpreted “¥500,000 a month from three people” as meaning ¥500,000 total from the three of them. A total of ¥500,000 a month seems achievable for women who are fairly good at managing these arrangements, but getting that amount from three people sounds difficult. From what I’ve heard from women, most men meet them only once or twice a month. Adding this after reading Maezawa’s answer: > You often hear about men who pay ¥200,000–¥300,000 a month. > With six men paying ¥250,000 each, it seems like a realistic possibility. I do hear about arrangements in the ¥200,000–¥300,000-a-month range, but it seems those relationships usually involve people who have grown very close and treat each other well. Finding and maintaining six such relationships is more realistic than finding three people who each pay ¥500,000 a month, but it would still be extremely difficult.

I’m not affiliated with the club, but I don’t think registering would be particularly difficult. As for your desired allowance, my opinion is that it’s a very high bar, but not impossible to reach. That said, there are only so many papas who can pay ¥500,000 a month, and they’re likely to demand fairly strict terms. Possible conditions might include: 1. Unprotected intimacy 2. Seeing each other at least twice a week, with each meeting lasting eight hours or more 3. An overnight stay or trip every month Since you’re working hard as a single mother, your child is naturally your top priority. However, I suspect that most papas won’t take your child’s circumstances into consideration at all. I’m sure you have your own reasons, but this will be a difficult path.