I just turned 30, so I’m no longer young. I’m an ordinary office worker with average looks and no particularly impressive academic background.
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I understand that men tend to be interested in women who are young, intelligent, and well-endowed.
If I’m accepted, I’d like to register with a dating club. Of course, I first need to pass the club’s screening, but what does an ordinary woman need to do to make men take an interest in her?
Humility is appreciated, but negativity tends to put people off. Being humble and cheerful is the best combination.
From the way your question is written, you come across as more negative than humble, so I’d start by working on that. You must have some strengths, so highlight those. It’s just like job hunting.
A 32-year-old standing right in front of me says, “Could you sell a product at an electronics store if you didn’t think it was any good? Even if you don’t think highly of it, you find some strength and sell it—that’s what sales is. In papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you are the product. If you don’t have the confidence to sell yourself, then you don’t qualify to step onto the field in the first place.” I see.
A 26-year-old I met at lunchtime said, “I think it depends on whether you want offers from lots of men to boost your self-esteem, or whether you’d be happy if you really connected with just one man. For me, there’s only ◯, but simply having one man accept me as I am now makes me want to praise myself.”
“Knowing when you have enough”—that’s true humility.
I just thought of this and wanted to add on: in that sense, maybe “humility” and “negativity” are complete opposites. Perhaps negativity comes from a greedy desire that isn’t truly humble.
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Long time no see.
People in their 20s and early 30s are still pretty young and inexperienced, so you’re still very young too.
You can’t lump all men’s preferences together. Some like curvier women, while others prefer a model-like figure. And of course, some don’t care about breasts at all and are happy with someone slim and beautiful-legged.
I don’t know why you’re considering papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but you should be prepared for a certain level of commitment. There are hardly any cases where you can make money just from dinner dates. Please think that through carefully before emailing us to register. I look forward to hearing from you.
♡ Nana Ayase
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If I had to choose:
- Around 28–35 is ideal.
Too young isn’t really my thing.
- A little ditzy is cute.
I lose interest when someone starts talking business.
- I’m not into huge breasts.
They make her look like a cow, lol. Balance is important.
Here, I’d like to date an ordinary office worker—someone with no experience in the sex industry, not a Minato-ku girl who’s always out partying.
It depends what you mean by an average-looking face, but if she has a good figure or a classy, wholesome look, she might get offers.
And if she’s tight, she might even qualify as a Fuu Girl, lol.
The other day, I went on a date with an ordinary 40-year-old woman—the oldest I’ve dated. She looked much younger than her age, was tight, and took really good care of her skin and body, so it was great.
These days, I actually enjoy a regular arrangement with an ordinary-looking woman in her late 20s or early 30s who genuinely responds more than I do with some gorgeous 20-something who just lies there.
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Breast size varies from person to person (personally, I don’t care about it), but I don’t think many people are concerned about educational background.
As long as you can behave reasonably and appropriately, that should be enough, shouldn’t it? Looking at the feedback, though, there seem to be some people who can’t even manage that—for example, constantly looking at their phones during a meal.
Just my personal opinion, but I also don’t think it’s good to be overly deferential toward men.
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> I understand that men are interested in women who are young, intelligent, and large-chested.
But not all men at an upscale dating club are looking for that kind of woman. Many men feel that women who are too young aren’t much fun to spend time with. It’s like asking whether you prefer fruit that’s still green and unripe or fruit that’s fully ripened.
Men like that are more likely to make offers to women around 30. So if you turned 30 this year, you’re right in the age range those men are looking for.
> What does an ordinary woman need to do to appeal to men?
Generally speaking, women who seem a little refined—women who don’t look like they’d work in the adult entertainment industry, and make you wonder, “Why is someone like her registered here?”—seem to receive a lot of offers.
Even an ordinary woman can give off that kind of impression. I think it has a lot to do with the way she has lived her life and the kind of lifestyle she’s led.
Also, if you’re enjoyable to talk to, the relationship is more likely to continue. So it might be worth working on that aspect as well.
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I’ve never cared about a partner’s educational background in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). People in their 30s seem to be popular too, so I definitely encourage you to take steps toward signing up.
If you receive an offer and find someone you really click with, just be yourself and approach things honestly.
Good luck!
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I’m not interested in youth, educational background, or breast size.
What matters to me is your figure, the kind of dates we go on, and how enjoyable the adult side of things is.
Everyone has different preferences, so think about what sets you apart from others and highlight that.
Even if you received 100 offers, you couldn’t date everyone, so why not aim for something that really resonates with a smaller number of people?
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You’re young enough that some men may even feel you’re too young, being around thirty.
What seems ordinary to one person may seem extraordinary to another. You never know what about you might resonate with someone, so why not start by simply being considerate and devoted? That said, I personally find excessive devotion uncomfortable—even a little creepy—so I think it’s important to take things gradually and not overdo it.
With that in mind, I don’t think your age or breast size is an issue. Why not start by letting go of the silly assumption that you already know what men are like? Everyone has different tastes.
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