I’ve asked questions here twice before, and your advice was very helpful—thank you.

I see multiple women about once a month each. I meet three or four women once a month, and then see someone different every week. If you’re meeting just one person every week, don’t you get bored after about six months of seeing the same woman? Since there are so many female members, I think it’s more fun not to limit yourself to just one. Otherwise, it feels like a waste.

I mostly have girls on monthly arrangements, and since they benefit more when we don’t meet, I don’t see them all that often. For the girl I see most, it’s maybe three times a month at most. Sometimes I even give the monthly allowance to girls I haven’t seen, so I’m really casual about it. I never feel like I’m getting a good deal from a monthly arrangement. With pay-per-meeting girls, the Type A girls come over to hang out a lot, but there are plenty of adult-relationship girls I see once a month at most—or not at all. I’m also worried about STIs, so I’m gradually becoming more distant from the pay-per-meeting girls. I don’t contact them first, but if they reach out, I’ll see them. If there’s a woman you’ve fallen for, wouldn’t it be enough to see just her every week? There’s no need to spread things out. Update: I see… I think I’m starting to understand a little. Even if the other guy is a young, handsome man—or an attractive older guy—I don’t feel like I could easily lose to him. If anything, I think, “I’m going to win anyway,” lol. Maybe I’m just a bad person, lol. When I meet a Type A girl, if she doesn’t have a boyfriend, I’ll get her to find one first. I put on this face like, “I’m a gentleman, right?” But underneath that thick skin, I’m secretly smiling and thinking, “I’m the one who’ll win in the end anyway. There’s no way I’m going to lose.” I suppose there really is a part of me that thinks like that. Even if the other guy were an extremely wealthy papa (a male supporter), I’m fairly confident I could definitely win. Wow, I’m seriously messed up. I’m awful. Where does this completely unfounded confidence come from, and when did it start? So I guess it’s just a fetish of mine. With such a twisted personality, maybe I’m incapable of loving a woman—or of accepting love from one. Ugh. The one saving grace is that I will absolutely protect the women in my life. Even if people connected to organized crime showed up, I wouldn’t back down an inch. That’s the one thing I take pride in. But now that I’ve written it out, maybe even that shows how twisted my personality is. I’m starting to feel like I can’t believe anything anymore.

https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/17720 https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/17840 That’s right. I’m currently seeing 14 or 15 women on an ongoing basis, and almost all of them come about four times a month. There’s an adult relationship involved—or rather, that’s the main purpose. I’m not looking for romance. During the day, I’ll meet one for dinner and a quick one- or two-hour visit. At night, I’ve recently been having all of them stay overnight. Sometimes I’ll add another woman between around 5 and 8 p.m., so I see three in one day. I’ll even invite several at once. It’s practically a harem. So although I pay 50,000 yen per pay-per-meeting allowance, I spend around three million yen a month on allowances alone. Are you married? If so, even once a week would probably make your spouse suspicious. If you fall for people easily and are satisfied with one woman, I don’t see any reason to go looking for several. Is there some problem with that? I read your previous questions and now I understand: you want your partners to be exclusive to you. That’s why you said having several women would be better, so you could spread out your feelings. If I had to guess, you’re not “someone who falls in love easily”—you simply have a strong sense of possessiveness. If you truly loved someone, you could get divorced. Rather than romanticizing those feelings by calling them “being in love,” it would be better to recognize them for what they are: possessiveness and jealousy. That realization brings you down to earth and helps you become more humble. “Liking,” “loving,” and “falling in love” mean naturally wanting to cherish the other person and wanting them to be happy. I see several women and my main goal is adult relationships, but I love all of them. In that sense, I only date women I’ve fallen for. Loser Guy, feel free to argue if you have a counterpoint, lol. As I’ve written before, falling for someone and feeling jealous or possessive are completely different things, but many people confuse them. For some people, perhaps the two are inseparable because they’re connected at the root. Here’s one way to tell them apart: imagine that the woman chooses another man instead of you. If you can still wish for her happiness, then I think you can say that you’re truly in love with her. Although, in Loser Guy’s case, it’s just a cuckold fetish, so this test doesn’t really apply. This is pretty difficult after all, lol. I don’t think Loser Guy actually likes or cherishes the women he sees. He may not even really see them as people in the first place—he simply has no interest in them. He says he likes beautiful women, but isn’t he really just in love with himself for dating beautiful women? Rather than being unable to love women, perhaps the root issue is a mild “lack of empathy toward others”—Asperger syndrome. I’m just speculating, so forgive me if I’m completely off base. It’s only casual conversation. The decisive difference between the way I write about women and the way Loser Guy does is that I focus on the women, writing things like, “I met this fascinating woman.” Loser Guy seems to be writing about women, but he’s really only writing about himself, lol.

I date multiple people. Once a week is enough for adult dates, so over the course of a month, I balance things out among four to six people: three or four dinner-only dates and three or four adult dates. With women who are more on the A side of B1, it sometimes stays dinner-only the whole time.

I adjust my pace to each woman, so it varies from person to person and from one occasion to the next. When it comes up to decide when we’ll meet next, we simply compare our schedules and make a plan. I’ve never even thought about it in the way described in the question. If I feel that meeting a particular woman twice a month would be enough for me, then when she asks about my availability for the week after next, I can just say, “I’m a little busy this month, so next month would be better.” For example, if a woman says, “I expect to have a lot of expenses next month, so I’d like a little more allowance this month,” she’ll tell me why and how much she needs. I can then respond accordingly and schedule several meetings. As an aside, when I no longer feel like meeting someone, I say, “I’ve been a little busy lately, so I’ll get in touch again when things settle down.” If we’ve only met once or twice, they usually understand what I mean. The only time I really had to think about time management was when I was meeting several women in a single day. Even then, I managed by using the approach above and simply adding the preference of, if possible, limiting myself to one ejaculation per day as another factor in my planning. Adding this after reading Mac’s answer: > “So you want your partner to see only you as well.” When I first read the original question, I found it creepy and skipped over it. As Mac pointed out, I also find it creepy that someone would become possessive and fixated before even meeting the woman—or after giving her an allowance and having sex only a few times. To put it more specifically, what I find creepy is the way he goes off the rails while ignoring the other person’s feelings, or the attempt to buy someone’s feelings with money. A one-on-one relationship is something that may happen as a result. It’s perfectly fine to hope that it develops that way, but I don’t think it’s something you should demand from the other person. If his position is that he wants to enter into an exclusive mistress arrangement from the outset, then my view is that it would be an extremely transactional relationship. Perhaps he feels somewhere inside that his own behavior is creepy, which is why he asks whether it’s creepy and tries to describe it as something like romantic feelings. I assume that when Maezawa previously answered: > “The questioner should date other women at the same time. > Your thinking gets warped because you’re dating only one woman.” he meant that becoming fixated on one person happens because you try to focus on only her, and that seeing multiple people might lessen—or eliminate—your fixation on any particular person.

In my case, I’ve only ever seen one woman, meeting with her every other week. With safety and peace of mind as my top priorities, it’s been a little over seven years now. I’m planning to move on to looking for a marriage partner next spring, so we’re scheduled to finish in March. When we first met, she was just a very strong-willed student, but she’s grown into such a wonderful young woman.

In my case, I’ve narrowed it down to three or four people I see once every one to two weeks. My back has been bothering me, so once a week is about my limit lately. Recently, I’ve mostly been seeing people once a month, so this arrangement works well for me.

First off, I still think it’s strange that the part asking, “How often do you all meet your partners?” is basically an investigation into the respondents’ behavior. But since the rest is a genuine question, I’ll answer it. > I’m considering dating two or three people so I can keep my mind occupied, but isn’t it difficult time-wise to meet multiple people regularly? If you’re currently seeing one person once a week, then dating two people would simply mean seeing each one once every two weeks. So I don’t think it would be particularly difficult time-wise. I also feel that the question itself—“Isn’t it difficult time-wise to meet multiple people regularly?”—comes from being stuck in a certain way of thinking. If you think of seeing one woman once a week at the same pace, then dating two women just means seeing each of them once every two weeks. And if your schedule allows it, you could see each of them once a week. Why does once a week feel non-negotiable even though meeting multiple people feels difficult time-wise? I think it might be worth thinking about that.