That papa is wording it like an idiot, but if a woman with pretty much the same qualities as you came along and was open to an adult relationship (intimate), I think he’d go with her instead.
It sounds like a really good arrangement, so I think you should be grateful…
I wouldn’t go for a dinner-only girl, so I honestly don’t understand that papa’s feelings at all.
That said, it would be a different story if he were an extremely creepy papa who couldn’t find anyone willing to date him, and you were doing him a favor by entertaining him…
papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) refers to going on dinner dates.
(That was how it was described when it was first introduced on television.)
In reality, it’s more common for the date to continue afterward in a way that resembles a romantic relationship, but I think the “having dinner” part is still accurate.
With that in mind, I don’t think there’s anything particularly problematic about the dates you’re having with your papa (a male supporter) as papa-katsu.
Also, ¥30,000 for dinner only (no intimacy) is exceptionally generous (well-paying).
I think you should continue seeing him going forward.
> Since it’s around ¥100,000 for an adult relationship (intimate)
Are you talking about a different man?
If that man has adult relationships (intimate) with other women for ¥100,000, then I suppose it would mean that you don’t have enough adult appeal for him.
However, since he clearly finds you appealing enough to pay for dinner dates, if you want to improve things, you might want to think about how to bring out more of your adult appeal.
That said, he may simply be categorizing women by age:
- Teenagers to women in their early twenties: children, so dinner only
- Women in their mid-twenties and older: adults, so an adult relationship (intimate)
He may simply be making that distinction based on age.
If you’re talking about a different man, I don’t see why you’re comparing the two here.
I think your current papa is someone who genuinely enjoys meeting you for meals. Perhaps he doesn’t see any particular benefit in having an adult relationship (intimate) with you.
> The other day, he said he wanted to go to Disneyland.
> Is he confusing me with a rental girlfriend or something?
Since it’s a date, I think wanting to go to Disneyland is perfectly reasonable.
With a rental girlfriend service, unlike a dating club, the company takes around 40% every time—each time you go on a date. So even if the man pays ¥30,000, you’d probably only receive around ¥18,000.
In exchange, men aren’t allowed to touch the women, so being chosen by men through a rental girlfriend service may actually be quite difficult.
> I’d be fine with dinner only if he paid me ¥100,000 for three hours, though.
I’ve heard of cases where a papa who previously had an adult relationship (intimate) with a woman later decided that dinner only was enough, but still paid her the same amount—hence the ¥100,000.
But in those cases, it was because he had lost particular interest in an adult relationship (intimate) and still wanted to continue seeing her as a person.
I may have heard of people offering ¥100,000 for dinner only from the start, but it’s extremely rare.
If you were in the opposite position, it might help to think about what kind of person would make you want to pay ¥100,000.
“I’m ¥15,000 an hour. Would a little wink do the trick? Hehe.”
He’s the type of guy who won’t take a hint, so tell him gently. He’s not very bright, so if you play your cards right, he might become your wallet.
He probably wants to fall seriously in love after getting close to you, so it may be time to say, “I want us to be together soon. I love you.” You could probably pull six figures from him per meeting.
If that’s what you think, then negotiate 100,000 yen for three hours of dinner only (no intimacy).
Oh, I didn’t answer your question. Dinner-only papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) arrangements do exist, so I don’t think there’s anything strange about it. If the terms of the arrangement don’t work for you, you can simply decline.
