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📅 Sep 16, 2025 13:05
A man contacted me through Universe. I’ve already told him twice that I’m unavailable on certain dates but can meet from a certain date onward. However, he keeps saying things like “As soon as possible!” and “As early as you can,” which feels a little pushy. Would it be too rude to tell him, “If you’re willing to offer a higher allowance than the person I already have plans with, I’ll cancel that appointment and prioritize you”?
💬 Answer from システムエンジニアの会員:
I’m not a legal expert, so I may not be completely accurate, but with PATOLO, having members negotiate the allowance directly with each other may be right on the legal borderline.
If it’s through Universe Club, I assume a staff member would always be involved. However, even if the staff member says they’re merely passing along a message, having them negotiate the allowance in advance on your behalf seems a little risky. I’m not sure whether the staff would be willing to go t…
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📅 Sep 16, 2025 04:08
Nice to meet you. I’d like some advice about a papa (a male supporter) I’ve been close to since I was in my twenties. We’ve been seeing each other for five years. I’ve gotten older too, but his aging has progressed much faster than mine, and I’m struggling because more and more of his behavior has become difficult for me to be around. ・He’s become more inconsiderate → He repeatedly clears his throat loudly throughout the day in front of...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Once something starts bothering you, it’s hard to let it go.
Wouldn’t this be a good time to say goodbye?
If he’s already aging that much at 55, I’d be worried about what’s ahead.
If you have a reasonably attractive appearance and are getting offers, it might be better to move on to a new papa (a male supporter).
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📅 Sep 15, 2025 11:48
With Universe Club, do you pay the woman every time you meet after the first meeting? Also, if you get along well with her, could it develop into a relationship? I’m considering using Universe Club, but there’s still a lot I don’t understand.
💬 Answer from アンディ:
Yes. Universe Club is for people who want to receive an allowance every time they meet someone. You’ll need to pay Universe Club an introduction fee the first time, but there’s no offer fee from the second meeting onward.
Personally, if your idea of dating doesn’t include an allowance, I’d recommend avoiding it.
The system is explained in detail online, on social media, and YouTube. Rather than asking here, you could apply for an interview with Universe Club, ask them about…
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📅 Sep 14, 2025 19:55
If you change your type, you can still see your previous one, but does it only keep the most recent type? Is the one before that deleted?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
I’m generally wary of people who change their dating type too often, so I start wondering about all sorts of things.
B → C → B
Like, maybe they started as B but didn’t get any offers, so they switched to C—but then realized they couldn’t do an adult relationship after all and switched back to B?
That kind of thing.
I’ll make an offer if they’ve only changed it once.
For example, if they went from B to C and their club comment says something like, “I tried being active as…
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📅 Sep 14, 2025 11:52
My question was deleted. Was it not allowed? 😭 I have a business-owner papa (a male supporter) who gives me a monthly allowance, and he said he wants to set up another company separate from his current one, make me the president, and pay me the allowance as executive compensation. He also says he’ll buy a house, use it as the office, and have me work there. I’m currently renting an apartment, and I use the allowance from my papa to pay ...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
Following up on my answer to the previous question, I thought of something else I wanted to mention. Apart from the risk of becoming the company president—even if you’re only being paid as an employee—if the company is audited by the tax authorities and expenses are disallowed on the grounds that you’re a “specially related party,” the woman may also be subjected to an in-person tax investigation.
In other words, they’ll look through the questioner’s bank records and ask abo…
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📅 Sep 14, 2025 10:49
My papa (a business owner) currently gives me a monthly allowance. He told me he’s going to set up another company, make me the president, and pay my allowance as executive compensation. Is it safe to go along with this? He says he’ll buy a house and use it as the office, and that he’ll come there to work a few times a week. Apparently, he’ll also have me do some simple tasks. At the moment, he’s renting an apartment for me under my nam...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
Normally, if the goal is to treat something as a business expense, they would hire you as an employee of the other company and pay you a salary—not make you the president of a separate company. The unusual part here is the decision to deliberately create another company.
There are all kinds of possibilities. For example, the tax accountant may be leading you into it because adding another company means higher fees for them. And realistically, a small company with little busi…
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📅 Sep 14, 2025 05:36
Nice to meet you. I live outside a major city and recently re-registered with Universe, but time has passed without receiving any offers. I’ve read through various past questions, and I assume it’s because I’m not particularly young or attractive, so I’ve also started going to the gym. I’ve also wondered whether there are simply fewer active papas in my area, or whether they already have girls they’re seeing regularly. I understand that...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
If you’re not chosen based on your looks first, it might be pretty difficult.
Another option would be to register on Patro and lower your desired allowance.
You might have a chance if you work out and improve your figure. If you post swimsuit or lingerie photos on your profile, you’d probably get offers from a certain number of seriously horny papas.
Fuu: I basically make offers to ordinary college students or office workers and turn them into monthly arrangements. But whe…
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📅 Sep 12, 2025 17:47
Would it be too presumptuous for a Gold-class girl to ask for an allowance of 70,000 yen when negotiating? Of course, I know it depends on the person, but would offering 70,000 yen for a Gold-class girl seem excessive?
💬 Answer from 負け男:
That’s not presumptuous at all.
There’s a woman from the Gold Class B category who’s been in a monthly arrangement with me for four years, at 11 per pay-per-meeting. She’s basically the behind-the-scenes boss of all my regulars, and we’ve built a solid relationship of trust—but she hardly ever agrees to meet me at all (；∀；)
I wonder if she’s the only one I’m the one reaching out to and saying, “I want to see you.”
The other women tell me they like me or love me even outsid…
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📅 Sep 12, 2025 14:59
I understand that you can blur profile photos, but would it also be possible to blur videos or keep my face out of them?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Personally, I wouldn’t make a high-paying offer to someone whose photos are blurred. I think many papas feel the same way as Fuu.
Unless she’s exceptionally beautiful or recommended by the club, someone with ordinary blurred photos probably won’t receive many offers.
If you have to blur your photos, you shouldn’t expect much from papa-katsu here in the first place. You might get a few offers by chance, if you’re lucky.
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📅 Sep 11, 2025 16:40
I have a question about a man who never calls me by my name in bed. He calls me by name when we’re eating or chatting, but as soon as things become more intimate, he absolutely never says my name. I wondered if he might be avoiding accidentally calling me by my name when he’s back home with his wife, but I’m also worried that maybe I just don’t mean that much to him… I’d like to hear what men think about this.
💬 Answer from 負け男:
In my case, during intimacy:
Calling her by name = a high-ranking monthly arrangement
Not calling her by name = a low-ranking monthly arrangement
It’s pretty clear-cut.
I never accidentally call someone in a high-ranking monthly arrangement by the wrong name. But with someone lower-ranked, her name doesn’t immediately come to mind unless I think about it, so I don’t call her by name.
There’s also a consideration that I’ll use the name of a girl who seems happy to be cal…
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📅 Sep 11, 2025 11:05
I’m a guy in my 30s who does papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)! I regularly see one girl, and two months ago she told me she had chlamydia and wanted me to get tested. I went to the hospital and got tested, but the result was negative. However, it’s been a month since then, and lately I’ve been needing to use the bathroom a lot, so I may have developed chlamydia. Apparently, there can be an incubation period. What I’m getting at ...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
“Can you really be that casual about STIs? That’s what caught my attention!”
Wouldn’t that be better than being told, “You’d better take responsibility for this. How are you planning to make amends for giving someone an STI?”
She may have said it that way because she’s a kind person.
Rather than simply dismissing it as being casual, I think you should at least consider that it may have been an expression of her kindness.
You still haven’t been through enough hardship. Go …
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📅 Sep 11, 2025 10:07
I don’t really understand how dating clubs work. I’d appreciate it if women or men could explain. ① If condoms are used, how much does the allowance usually start at? ② I’m worried because I’ve been given an STI in the past. Do you take any precautions? Also, I’m thinking of only doing oral with a condom. Are there men who would be willing to negotiate that? I’d also like to know the going rate for the allowance in that case.
💬 Answer from ダイ:
Using the term “condom blowjob” makes it sound as though you’re advertising your experience in the adult-entertainment industry.
The women who are popular at dating clubs tend to have an innocent, non-professional vibe.
So realistically, if you have experience in the adult-entertainment or nightlife industry, your popularity will drop noticeably.
I suspect there are also quite a few women who register while hiding that experience.
If you’re particular about condom blowjob…
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📅 Sep 11, 2025 01:12
I received a LINE message and email saying I passed on the same day as my interview, but it’s now been exactly a week and I still haven’t heard anything about setting up my profile. Since I’ve already been told I passed, I don’t think they’ve changed their mind or anything, but can profile registration ever take more than a week?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Can it take more than a week for a profile to be registered?
We have an internal rule that profiles should be registered within a week, so we tell women that their profiles will usually be registered within about a week.
However, when the staff are busy, it can occasionally take longer than a week. We also have a system that issues a warning when a week has passed, so sometimes registration may happen a little later than that.
That said, if you still haven’t heard anything…
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📅 Sep 11, 2025 00:16
If several years have passed since joining without any activity, will my membership be canceled automatically, or do I need to complete any procedures?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
You should receive a message confirming whether you wish to continue after six months. If you haven’t received one, it seems you may not be connected to the new LINE account.
The LINE account has changed several times, and you should have been notified of each new account. However, since many people don’t check their email these days, you may simply have missed it.
If you haven’t replied to the continuation confirmation, your profile will be removed from the member list, le…
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📅 Sep 10, 2025 01:16
I’m a female member. If I refer a male acquaintance and he joins, can I receive a referral fee? From what I’ve found, there seems to be quite a difference between doing it normally and going through Frein. Is it correct that the compensation is higher through Frein?
💬 Answer from カズ:
If by “usual” you mean the system where male members refer other men, both the person making the referral and the person being referred receive points that can be used toward the setting fee.
With Frein, only the person making the referral receives a reward, so it seems the payout is higher.
If a woman wants to refer a man, Frein may be the only option.
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📅 Sep 8, 2025 13:10
I used to be registered with Universe. I was active for about a year, but it’s been several months since I left. I believe my rank was Gold. I used to have a few monthly arrangements, but I stopped altogether and am no longer in touch with any of them. Do you think any of them would be willing to meet me again if I re-register?
💬 Answer from 負け男:
Please register again—I’ll still make offers even if you’re a returning member.
That said, today at noon I went on a date with a C-type woman (Platinum class), which is really not my thing. Her face was all hyaluronic acid.
I wanted to turn her down, but I’m so bad at saying no that things snowballed and we ended up going to a hotel and having sex. The allowance was 10.
How are you supposed to turn down sex with a C-type woman?
Do you say something like, “My dick isn’t wo…
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📅 Sep 8, 2025 00:07
I’ve started working in the nightlife industry—at a girls’ bar. I had decided to quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and sex work, and was aiming to get a full-time job. But in the end, I went back to it. I’m planning to do papa-katsu too. The reason is money. I feel like I’ve become numb to it all. Does this mean I’ve already crossed over to the other side?
💬 Answer from シアトル:
Why not work in the adult entertainment industry again and make sure you save properly this time? If you save around ¥50 million, the dividends could help cover your living expenses.
I once heard a story about someone taking a billionaire’s daughter to a conveyor-belt sushi restaurant with touch panels for the first time, and she loved it. Apparently, her parents hated conveyor-belt sushi, so she’d never been.
Personally, I dislike counter-service sushi even more.
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📅 Sep 7, 2025 21:26
In one of your answers, you wrote: “Even if a woman asks for ¥60,000 pay-per-meeting and you think, ‘That’s cheap—she looks worth about ¥100,000 per meeting,’ and go through with it, the relationship still doesn’t continue.” Does this happen often? I’d also like to know the various reasons these arrangements don’t continue. I’m currently seeing a woman I met outside a dating club. Apparently, she used to be registered with one in the pa...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
It sounds like you’re asking this after seeing my answer to another question.
For about three years after joining Universe Club, I worked with the goal of receiving an allowance of at least 100,000 yen per meeting, and I tried to raise the going rate at Universe Club to 50,000–60,000 yen or more.
Along the way, I ended up competing—or maybe fighting—with men offering 50,000 yen per meeting. After a while, I started wondering what that world was like, so I made offers at 50,…
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📅 Sep 7, 2025 06:49
Is there really such a thing as “what lies beyond papa-katsu”? I’ve been doing papa-katsu for quite a long time, and I’ve heard both girls and papas talk about reaching “the other side” of papa-katsu. Part of me feels envious, but another part wonders if it’s just a fantasy. For example: - Falling seriously in love with a papa and proposing to him - Meeting the best girl ever—someone you’d be happy to give any amount of money to—and now...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Sometimes miracles happen, but getting hooked on the money can also lead you in a strange direction.
Personally, I feel the ideal end goal is not to aim too high, but to keep working a regular daytime job and do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for a little extra enjoyment—beauty treatments, hobbies, good food, and so on. Choose a papa (a male supporter) you feel comfortable with, keep things within your limits, and eventually either get married normally or find a bo…
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📅 Sep 7, 2025 00:15
I’m a guy in my 30s who does papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)! There’s one girl I’m currently seeing on a monthly arrangement. She says she’s doing papa-katsu because she wants to live on her own, but she also told me that once she achieves that, she’d be willing to keep seeing me without money involved. Is this one of those common lies? I saw her today, and when I asked her to delete the Twitter account she uses to attract peop...
💬 Answer from 横断歩道:
A relationship involving money is easy to end, but in a conventional relationship, breaking up is often many times harder than getting together.
Still, that’s part of life experience, so maybe it’s fine to follow your heart and go all in.
Your 30s are great.