I’ve always looked for private rooms for dinner dates, but that really limits the options, doesn’t it?
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For the first date, I naturally go with a private room, but what do people usually do for the second and third dates?
Even when I ask the women, they say a private room isn’t absolutely necessary, but I’m worried they may secretly dislike the idea because of concerns about being recognized.
Personally, I’m fine either way—I just want to enjoy some good food.
How do you all choose restaurants?
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Exactly. For the first meeting, since we’re gentlemen in the C category, we need to discuss the terms of the adult relationship, so a private or semi-private room is essential.
From the second meeting onward, there’s no need to discuss the terms so bluntly—we can naturally head to a hotel, so a regular restaurant is fine. For women who are concerned about being recognized, I arrange to meet them directly in the hotel room.
I also choose places with great views and a nice atmosphere, or members-only yakiniku restaurants. Since dinner is basically part of the buildup, taking them somewhere they’ll enjoy gets them more excited once we’re in the room, so I use those kinds of places too.
Women who genuinely enjoy the meal are usually more likely to enjoy the adult relationship as well, so those are often the women who become my monthly partners.
Lately, I’ve ended up with too many monthly partners again, so I’m dating almost every weekend. I’m building the ultimate lineup! They all have different qualities—some are very passionate, some are affectionate, and some are high-quality all around. There are even some who are mostly passive but are especially compatible in certain ways. I’m enjoying all the variety, but scheduling everything is getting tough, haha.
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Who decided that it would “of course be a private room”?
Looking at the answers here, private rooms actually seem to be in the minority.
What you’re doing isn’t consideration—it’s forcing your idea of consideration on someone else. You just need to listen to the woman right in front of you.
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I also want to eat somewhere really good, so I avoid people who insist on a completely private room.
In my case, at least, I don’t use private-room restaurants very often because they leave you with fewer options.
I do make sure to ask them in advance if there are any places they don’t want to go.
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For the first meeting, we almost always just have tea and go our separate ways, so when we meet for a meal the second time, I usually choose counter seating.
Beforehand, I make sure to confirm during the first meeting that they’re comfortable with counter seating or somewhere with other people around.
That said, on rare occasions, the first meeting includes a meal. In those cases, I always choose a private room.
Hope that helps.
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Come to think of it, I haven’t been using private rooms lately.
I’m meeting two women next week—or I guess that’s this week—who are hoping for an allowance of 100,000 yen or more. Both meetings are at ordinary cafés. One is a Platinum Premium woman, and the other is a Black woman.
I sometimes go to family restaurants or cafés from the very first meeting, and for the second meeting I might even go to a conveyor-belt sushi restaurant.
I hardly ever go to expensive restaurants in my everyday life, so I don’t like feeling as if I have to dress up and act differently. And if I’m going to take someone to an expensive private room, I feel I should add that cost to the allowance, so this is what I do.
Even today’s first meeting was at a café, and the total for both of us was just over 2,000 yen.
That said, my allowance is higher than the going rate, so maybe they’re willing to overlook inexpensive restaurants and the lack of a private room. Don’t copy me.
Also, after the second date, unless she’s an A-type, we usually go straight to a room, so I don’t have much trouble deciding where to go for dates after the second one.
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Even when you ask her, she says that a private room isn’t absolutely necessary.
She hasn’t said that she dislikes private rooms, so if you’re worried, you can choose one. Or you can take her words at face value and go somewhere that isn’t a private room.
If you’ve discussed it with her and made a decision together, worrying that she might secretly feel differently seems like overthinking.
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From the second meeting onward, I discuss it with the other person and decide together.
The reason I make the first meeting private is that we haven’t talked yet, so I don’t know what they’re thinking.
We’re all adults, so I don’t know about secretly not wanting to do something. Shouldn’t we take a certain amount of responsibility for what we say?
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That said, I do think you need to be careful about how you ask and guide the conversation. It’s completely unacceptable to force someone into saying something when the situation makes it difficult for them to be honest.
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