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📅 Nov 26, 2024 16:34
I emailed another dating club to apply for an interview, but I haven’t received a reply. How long does it usually take to hear back from Universe Club?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Why not try sending it to another dating club one more time?
Not sure, though.
If you’re interested, you could also try Universe Club or Padro.
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📅 Nov 24, 2024 19:47
I always find myself wondering whether I should speak politely to male supporters. I always use polite language the first time we meet, but as we continue seeing each other—on the third or tenth meeting, for example—I’m never sure whether I should keep speaking politely unless he tells me otherwise, or mix in some casual speech. I feel like it might be better to feel a little closer, but would it be rude to speak casually when he hasn’t...
💬 Answer from トシ:
Personally, I think that’s part of whether you’re compatible.
I want women to feel comfortable around me, so by about the second meeting, I tell them they don’t have to use formal language. I find it cute when they continue mixing casual and polite speech for a while. And once they get more comfortable and their regional dialect or accent starts to come out, it’s really enjoyable—it makes me feel like they truly feel at ease with me.
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📅 Nov 24, 2024 19:37
About a Man Who Keeps Messaging Me but Won’t Meet Up There’s a man I meet about once every three months. He sometimes sends me photos or videos saying things like, “I’m traveling right now.” I reply enthusiastically and ask when we can meet next, but he just brushes me off with, “I’ll get back to you,” so we never actually meet, and I end up feeling lonely. Even so, he continues messaging me on LINE afterward, which leaves me unsure whe...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Hide them and keep leaving their messages on read. Won’t they eventually stop messaging you?
It’s such a hassle, and if they’re not going to meet you anyway, I don’t think you need to force yourself to reply.
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📅 Nov 23, 2024 23:32
About men who invite me out on the day or the day before There are several male members I met through this site who ask me, “Are you free tomorrow?” either on the day itself or late the night before. I’m a busy person myself, so most of the time I have to decline because our schedules don’t line up. When I do, they seem a little annoyed. Even though I’ve told them that it’s difficult for me to arrange plans at the last minute and that I...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
One of the good things about papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is that women get to choose too. If you don’t like someone, you can simply end things. Don’t force yourself to accommodate them—just block people like that.
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📅 Nov 22, 2024 13:56
Dear Club Staff, I’m the person who just asked about being blocked by a gentleman. When I switched from 4G to Wi-Fi, two questions were accidentally posted back-to-back. Could you please delete them? I’m sorry for the inconvenience.
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📅 Nov 22, 2024 13:54
The first man I met through Universe canceled on me at the last minute and blocked me on the day of our date. It made me really sad, especially because this happened with a man I had been seeing for about six months, after our fifth or sixth date. From our second date onward, he often talked at length about other girls, and I increasingly heard stories about girls he had supported in the past. I frequently felt down, wondering if he had...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
That’s their problem, so there’s really nothing you can do.
Just be glad you were able to part ways with someone who would cancel at the last minute, and wait for the next offer.
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📅 Nov 22, 2024 09:43
Are there many men who belong to dating clubs and also use dating apps? For those of you answering, do you use them too?
💬 Answer from トシ:
When I first started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I tried using an app briefly to see what it was like, but these days I only use a club.
With apps, no matter how many photos you receive beforehand, you never really know what kind of person will show up. At a club, though, you can get a general sense of someone from their photos and videos, so I feel there’s less chance of wasting my time.
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📅 Nov 21, 2024 20:39
I’d like to ask for advice on how to accept my allowance. When I’m given it in an envelope, I simply put the envelope in my bag. But when I’m handed cash directly, I feel like putting it in my wallet right away might look a little too eager, so I usually put it in an inside pocket of my bag instead. What do men think about this? Am I overthinking it? Also, when I receive it, I’m never sure whether I should smile and say thank you, look ...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Receiving it in a purely businesslike way feels a little cold, so as long as you say, “Thank you,” with a smile, I don’t mind whether you put it in your wallet or your bag.
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📅 Nov 20, 2024 19:05
I told the person I’m seeing that I wanted to stop by their workplace to see them while they were working, but they turned me down. Is it generally considered unwelcome to visit someone at their part-time job?
💬 Answer from マックさん:
When I owned a Magic Mirror van, I once drove it up in front of a college student’s part-time job at a pizza place and had sex with her from behind while naked, letting her coworkers watch through the windows. She got really wet and excited.
I did something similar in front of an office worker’s company on her day off. I do have women I genuinely like, too.
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📅 Nov 20, 2024 08:45
This isn’t a question. I was curious, so I looked into it. Antibiotics are taken after an infection has been established (which can take anywhere from a few days to several weeks), once the specific infection has been identified and an antibiotic thought to be effective against it has been selected. Preventive medication is generally not very effective, and the drawbacks—such as the risk of antibiotic-resistant bacteria—likely outweigh ...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
I seem to remember having unprotected sex with more than five women at the first meeting about two years ago, but since the beginning of this year, it’s only happened once.
I take Zithromax after being intimate with a woman I’ve just met—of course after unprotected sex, but also after oral sex and kissing. I do this on the recommendation of an acquaintance who’s a doctor.
It was the women who wanted to have unprotected sex, not me. I just couldn’t bring myself to say no.
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📅 Nov 19, 2024 22:17
I haven’t had an adult relationship (intimate) yet, but is it normal to do it without a condom? Several people have asked me to do it without one. I was surprised because I thought using a condom was standard, even outside papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Some even offered 1.5 for an adult relationship (intimate) without a condom, but I feel that’s awful considering the risk of pregnancy for women.
💬 Answer from Fuu:
If you did papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) through a reputable dating club and thought things through beforehand,
you wouldn’t end up being negotiated with based on the allowance rates offered online or by street solicitors.
Or, I’m sorry if your looks aren’t good enough to pass an interview at a dating club.
If you don’t want to go without a condom, you can simply refuse. Just keep working on standing your ground.
For men, going without one feels so good that it…
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📅 Nov 19, 2024 21:25
Would a man be turned off if I showed up to a date carrying a designer bag and wearing a designer coat? Should I avoid wearing too many designer items when meeting a papa? I’d appreciate your advice.
💬 Answer from 紙ひこうき:
If you’re looking for someone who shares your values and is compatible with you—someone you can have a good relationship with and stay with long term—I think it’s best not to put on an act. Just dress and present yourself naturally, as you normally would. For a short-term relationship, though, I can understand putting on an appearance and playing a role.
It also depends on your age.
If someone says she started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) because she really need…
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📅 Nov 19, 2024 21:24
I’d like to ask for advice about receiving more than ¥10,000 for transportation. I went on a date with a man who said it was his first time dating a woman through Universe. We had a really enjoyable time, and although it was dinner only (no intimacy), he gave me more than the usual transportation allowance. During dinner, he mentioned that he wasn’t very familiar with the rules, so I think he may have believed he was supposed to give me...
💬 Answer from 太郎:
You should talk to the man before writing it in the survey.
If you haven’t exchanged contact information, you probably won’t see him again, so you might as well accept it.
If you have exchanged contact information and think there’s a chance you’ll see him again, you should communicate with him properly.
Whether it was a misunderstanding or not, if the man offers it, that was his decision, so most women would probably gratefully accept it.
On the other hand, if you feel yo…
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📅 Nov 19, 2024 15:06
Is going to karaoke with an older man I’m meeting for the first time dangerous??
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Taking his claim that he’s a member of another dating club at face value, lol—
If you’re doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) on the assumption that sex will happen, the main dangers for women are probably:
- Being subjected to violence
- Having your money taken
That’s about it, right?
Assuming sex itself isn’t considered dangerous, lol.
At a chain karaoke box, the security cameras are running, and the staff would help you if you tried to escape. So in that…
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📅 Nov 15, 2024 15:31
Sorry for the question. There’s something about a papa I used to see that I’ve been wondering about for years. He was a single dentist who had been divorced twice. He lived with one of the dental hygienists at his clinic, a woman in her 40s, in what was practically a domestic partnership. He also had a mistress in her 30s whom he paid a monthly allowance of ¥150,000, and kept another girl on a pay-per-meeting basis. I was only ever his ...
💬 Answer from だて◎ゆめ:
I’m Date.
It’s been a while. I’m glad to see that all the other contributors are doing well too.
I happened to check the Q&A box for the first time in ages and found a good question, so I wanted to answer it.
Well, I’m a bit of an idiot, so my experience may not be much help, but I’ve been seeing a woman for seven years now, whom I met through Universe.
I met her when she was a student and needed money. Now she’s working and, in my eyes, has grown into a wonderful young w…
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📅 Nov 15, 2024 15:02
I’d like to get your opinions on STI testing. Through Universe, I meet one or two new people each month, have a few monthly arrangements, and also have a boyfriend. We use protection, but I’ve previously contracted oral chlamydia and oral gonorrhea and received treatment. Ideally, I’d like to get tested for STIs every month, but would that be too often? If I have symptoms, I assume I can get tested at a gynecology clinic, but is it poss...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Even with regular testing, sometimes you still end up catching something, so I focus on treating it as soon as possible.
I have a clinic lined up that’s open for long hours, provides test results immediately, and can prescribe medication right away. If anything feels off, I either go straight to that clinic, or contact a friend who’s an internal medicine doctor. If I explain my symptoms, they can prescribe something immediately, so I go with whichever option can respond fast…
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📅 Nov 15, 2024 14:09
Sorry ↓ This wasn’t related to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Please ignore this post.
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📅 Nov 15, 2024 13:59
The guy who’s only after my body— I’m the one who asked the previous question. We’ve been messaging every day since then. He looks young for a man in his 40s, and I like how confident he is. However, he calls me by my first name without any honorific and seems to think I’m his girlfriend. On the day we last met, he said, “Let’s get married,” and, “We’re officially dating as of today.” Of course, I assumed he was joking. He’s not a bad p...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Someone who talks about getting married when you haven’t even had sex yet is quite something.
Since he’s an older guy who’s only after your body, I don’t think being friends is really an option.
Why can’t he just be a papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) partner? If you enjoy seeing him and he has money, you might as well do papa-katsu. If you like him and can get an allowance too, that sounds like the ideal papa-katsu arrangement to me...
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📅 Nov 15, 2024 01:46
About highly educated women in papa-katsu and the adult entertainment industry I’ve worked in various nightlife businesses, including adult entertainment and hostess clubs, as well as through this club, so I’ve met many papa-katsu girls and women working in the nightlife industry. However, I’ve almost never come across women with elite academic backgrounds. (Personally, I consider graduates of former Imperial Universities or higher, med...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
I’m not really sure.
Even if you put a label on it, I’d just think, “So what?”
There aren’t that many people to begin with, so I guess there aren’t many opportunities to meet them either.
Since not many women here disclose the names of their universities, it’s hard to say, I suppose.
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📅 Nov 14, 2024 20:33
For those of you who have a monthly arrangement, do you have any tips or things you pay attention to in order to keep it going long-term? Also, from the papas’ perspective, are there any common traits you’ve noticed in girls whose arrangements tend to last? Thank you in advance.
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Hmm…
- Sex feels good (we’re compatible)
- It doesn’t get boring
- She’s beautiful and has a great figure, yet surprisingly willing to accommodate some spicy requests (a little submissive, maybe?)
- Considerate—not too much, not too little
- Not overly demanding and happy with the allowance
- Easy to coordinate schedules with
- Willing to work around my availability
Something along those lines, I guess.
It’s just papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but I feel like th…