How can I end things with my papa without hurting him?

③ If you can establish the “parent” angle through conversation beforehand!

Oh, no… If you’ve revealed that much personal information, you’ve got the full combo. Once you move, they won’t know your address anymore, so you’ll probably have no choice but to tell them all of ①–③ and end things. As a temporary measure, find a lawyer in advance in case they threaten you in writing, such as, “If you don’t continue the relationship, I’ll tell your workplace.” If they start stalking you, consider gathering evidence and contacting a lawyer or the police. Make your preparations beforehand. P.S. Adding ④ “I got a boyfriend and we’re moving in together” might work too… maybe.

A few things I’d like to point out about this question: ① “Breaking up without hurting the other person” basically means finding a way not to hurt yourself. Do you really think there’s a solution that convenient? Nothing ventured, nothing gained. This golden rule hasn’t changed in over 2,000 years. ② Have you actually tried the methods you came up with yourself? If you haven’t, why are you asking for other ideas? And for free, at that. I think the solution is already in your question. Try your own ideas 1–3 first. That said, you’ll need to tweak them a little. The important thing is having the courage to make yourself the bad guy. For example: 1. “I’m truly grateful for everything you’ve done for me. Thanks to you, I’ve been able to move up into a position with more responsibility. That’s precisely why I feel it’s time to bring things to a close. I don’t think I’ll be able to meet your expectations time-wise anymore, Kazuhito (仮名).” 2. “Because of my carelessness, my relationship with Koichi (仮名) was discovered by my family. I’m no longer able to continue seeing you.” You may be worried about trouble because your papa (a male supporter) has a short fuse. When that happens, just think about how many Fukuzawa Yukichi bills you’ve received. Hang in there! Parting from your papa (a male supporter) on good terms is one of the best parts of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)!

Would it be okay to say: “My parents found out, and they may disown me. I really care about you, but my parents are important to me too, so I won’t be able to see you for a while. I’m sorry. They’re monitoring my LINE as well, so I’d appreciate it if you didn’t message me. I’ll contact you once things have calmed down.”

This isn’t exactly a way to break things off without hurting him, but you could tell him that you won’t continue seeing him unless he increases your allowance, effectively making it a case of “when the money stops, the relationship ends.” As for ending things without hurting him, I think Joe’s previous answer was spot-on, so I recommend reading it: https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/12244 Also, I feel that your proposed options ① and ② are too vague, and that he would probably just pressure you into backing down. I also don’t think whether a man becomes a stalker has anything to do with how quick-tempered he is or whether he can accept the situation.