Isn’t it because you’re wandering around places like Shinjuku’s Toyoko area or under Osaka’s Glico sign, dressed and made up in a way that makes it obvious?
You should probably go somewhere more low-key, where people aren’t likely to approach you.
I’ve never heard of women being approached while simply waiting at a traffic light or walking through a shopping district with offers like, “How about 30 minutes in that public restroom?” or “How about ¥___?”
Is this made up?
If it’s true, it sounds like something that only happens to you.
That said, I have occasionally heard of women being approached while waiting at a meeting spot.
Apparently, they back off as soon as you refuse, so maybe they’re just asking on the off chance—if you say yes, great.
If it’s something ordinary like, “Are you interested in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?” that sounds more like a scout, but what you described this time doesn’t seem to be scouting.
To take it a step further, there are even men who try to steal someone else’s date at meeting spots.
At Universe Club, for example, a man may contact the club saying that the woman hasn’t shown up. When the club calls the woman, she might say, “I’m already with the man.” Then they realize, “That’s a different person,” and discover that someone tried to steal the meeting.
Apparently, some men deliberately target these spots and pretend to be the man the woman is supposed to meet. Pretty bold, if you ask me.
Since Universe Club responds quickly when a man contacts them, I don’t think there have been any successful cases of this. Even so, I suspect these men are trying to steal women waiting for dates arranged through matching apps. Those apps don’t offer that kind of support, after all.
> Maybe it’s because women soliciting on the street have become common lately…
The situations are completely different, so I’m not sure why you’re connecting the two. It would make sense if you were being approached in an area where women solicit on the street, though.
> Is there any way to avoid feeling uncomfortable when being approached, or to make it less likely to happen?
I don’t think men approach women who look like they might cause trouble if spoken to. Maybe you could try giving off that kind of impression, although it may be difficult since it also depends on your overall aura.
Another possibility is to dress head to toe in luxury brands. That might stop this kind of approach—but on the other hand, you might get approached more by scouts instead, such as nightlife recruiters offering to help you switch venues.
The women I know may get hit on or approached by touts, but they’re never propositioned by strangers trying to negotiate a sex-for-money arrangement.
As you suspect, people are probably approaching you because they think you’re someone they can have that kind of conversation with. You may want to reconsider where you walk and how you dress.
