I joined last year, and thankfully, I’ve been enjoying a good relationship with one woman.

The woman you’re currently seeing is probably seeing other papas as well. I think it’s fairly common for people in papa-katsu to date multiple partners. So you might want to consider seeing several women too—for example, finding a few more regular partners you meet once a month. If she’s still the only woman you’re seeing, you probably have plenty of availability on the other days. People looking for a transactional relationship often go to sex-work establishments or upscale delivery services, so I get the impression that many women in papa-katsu are looking for a generous, stable papa (a male supporter). If you really only want something occasional, a sex-work establishment might be a better option for you.

Even if you initially intend for it to be a one-off, you may find yourself wanting to meet her repeatedly once you’ve actually met. Ultimately, whether the relationship continues depends on compatibility. So even if you’re looking for someone to see regularly, it often ends up being a one-time thing. And even if you think you only want to see one person, you may change your mind if you meet a woman you’re exceptionally compatible with. So whether she’s a B1 or a B2 woman, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the way you want to enjoy papa-katsu.

I can relate to this, too… In my case, I had a hard time finding the right person after joining Universe, but I’ve now been seeing a woman introduced to me by the club for eight years. We still meet every other week, with an allowance. For about the first year after joining the dating club, I was eager to make offers, but I ultimately never did. Once more than a year had passed, my relationship with my partner had become firmly established, so I thought, “I’m fine with things as they are,” and stopped making offers. For me, the main reasons are avoiding sexually transmitted infections and keeping my identity private. She wants to get married, so I’ll have to end things with her soon. But now I’m the one getting turned down repeatedly, and I still haven’t been able to find a replacement. The world is complicated.

Whether this becomes an “offer club” arrangement or a genuine dating-club relationship is ultimately up to you. Since you went through the trouble of attending an interview and joining, I doubt there are many women who don’t want a long-term relationship. If they meet a good man, they’ll probably want to continue seeing him. That said, one of the advantages of a dating club is that both women and men can look for someone else if they feel even slightly uncomfortable. There’s no need to force yourself or put up with anything. Whether the two of you develop a miraculous connection that shines brilliantly depends not on either person alone, but on the bond you build together. You both have hearts and bodies, compatibility, desires, and feelings. It comes down to whether you can fulfill each other in a comfortable balance—what needs you satisfy and what you find attractive in one another. If you only pursue one-off encounters or keep looking around, you’ll never experience—or even try to understand—the depth and true appeal of that kind of relationship. Personally, I believe happiness comes from a one-on-one relationship with a single person, where you feel safe enough to trust each other and consider one another among the best partners of your lives. Of course, I think there are also people in this world who wouldn’t consider that kind of relationship happiness.

Once you’ve gone through 180 first meetings, most of them ultimately end up being one-offs. That said, I’m not specifically looking for one-time encounters. I’m looking for a “miracle connection,” but when that miracle doesn’t happen, things end up being one-off arrangements. That’s how it is for me. You’re the same, aren’t you? If a woman who surpasses your current monthly arrangement came along, you’d switch to her, right? You’re looking for that miracle connection too, aren’t you? Targeting one-offs isn’t ideal, but when things end up being one-offs, there’s nothing you can do about it. That’s my low-life excuse.

> Is that kind of approach frowned upon at Universe Club? As long as you don’t violate the rules, I don’t think it’s strictly prohibited. However, if more men start treating women in ways that make them uncomfortable, the number of women will gradually decline. Then men who are using the club as intended will start thinking, “There aren’t any good women here anymore. Maybe I should look elsewhere.” In the end, it could become a place where even you, the person asking this question, can’t be satisfied. Wouldn’t a dating site be the obvious choice for that kind of arrangement? My impression is that many men on dating sites want to have sex with various women on a one- or two-time basis, and that more women there tend to be looking for a transactional relationship as well. As a result, agencies targeting men who want that kind of arrangement create大量 accounts pretending to be women, and when the men go to the meeting place, a professional sex worker shows up. I feel like this happens quite often. You may think there are no agencies because women at dating clubs are interviewed, but it may simply be that they don’t join because there are currently so few men seeking that kind of transactional relationship. If agencies seriously set out to do it, they would create accounts using every method available, and I don’t think it could be completely prevented. That’s why I think dating-site operators are working desperately to eliminate agency accounts, but they still can’t get rid of them all, which is why things remain as they are. > Wouldn’t this make the women feel uncomfortable? Women who aren’t okay with a one-off arrangement would probably feel uncomfortable. That said, if you can pay an allowance of at least ¥200,000 per meeting, I don’t think they would feel as uncomfortable. I’ve heard stories of women not continuing the relationship but being satisfied because they received ¥200,000, so perhaps that amount is enough for them to accept it. > If I want to pursue that kind of arrangement, should I avoid making offers to B2 women? (Even among C and D women, I imagine many still want a long-term relationship.) The fact that you had that impression means most people probably feel the same way. Since more women are likely to think that way too, I believe you should avoid them. C women seem questionable as well, so statistically speaking, D women might be your safest option—but that’s only a matter of probability.

I feel exactly the same. Rather than maintaining long-term arrangements, I found myself getting distracted by other options, and the proportion of one-off meetings gradually increased. Most women also see it as a transactional relationship. As long as you pay the agreed allowance and observe basic manners and promises, I don’t think you’ll make them uncomfortable. Even women who choose B2 often seem motivated by the fact that it’s easier to say no, so I don’t get the impression that they’re all looking for something long-term.

Universe Club is a dating club, not a prostitution club. Personally, I don’t consider it a relationship if you go in from the start intending it to be a one-off. Women may each have their own views, but that’s how I see it, so I wouldn’t use a dating club to look for someone to have sex with once or twice. If I feel someone is only worth meeting once, I either don’t make an offer in the first place or, if I get that impression during dinner, I simply end the evening there.