I want to tell a papa (a male supporter) I’ve only met once or twice—and whose allowance is on the lower side compared with my other papas—that I’d be willing to see him again if he could raise it by about two, but otherwise I won’t be able to because my schedule is limited. Should I phrase it more indirectly?
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If negotiating for a higher allowance like this rarely works, I’m also considering simply saying I’m busy and gradually fading out, without leaving a bad impression.
I really don’t want to offend him or make an enemy. What do you think I should do?
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I’m not the type who can speak up about things like that, so I’d probably just say, “I’m sorry,” part ways, and wait for the next opportunity to meet someone~ (T^T)
If he’s two sizes off from what you ideally want, I do think that’s a significant difference, but I wouldn’t say anything.
Still, like the other male respondents said, maybe it’s worth being honest first, then deciding whether to end things afterward!
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What’s in it for the papa if you add two to the amount? That perspective seems completely absent from the way this is written.
It sounds like the title of a lousy self-help book, but I do think “the courage to be disliked” is one of the things you need to carve out your own path in life.
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If you haven’t shared any personal information, I don’t think it’s a problem even if they dislike you or become hostile, so you should just be upfront.
If the papa (male supporter) blocks you, take it as a lucky break—then there’s no problem at all.
Ideally, you should state your desired allowance upfront and refuse anything below that.
You’re very kind, though.
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You’ll probably get cut off by papa with a high probability, though there may be some who agree—maybe around 10%.
I’m the type who prefers to increase the allowance myself, so if someone asks me to raise it, I lose interest and end things.
The look of delight on a woman’s face when she says,
“Wait, you’re increasing my allowance?”
is more satisfying than ejaculation. But if she asks for an increase herself, she doesn’t seem nearly as happy when I agree, and it’s not really a surprise anymore.
That said, I’ve been feeling pretty stuck lately. Aside from one of my long-term monthly arrangements of four years, whose standing in my eyes has somehow skyrocketed recently, there’s nothing particularly new.
My ace still treats me well as always, so I suppose I am happy, though.
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Why not simply ask for an additional ¥20,000?
If he doesn’t want to lose you, he’ll agree. If not, he’ll just cut things off. Personally, even if I wanted to continue, I’d be fully prepared to end it immediately if she tried to negotiate.
If you’re already considering fading out, it’s just a waste of time, so wouldn’t it be better to ask directly and get it over with? Hopefully he’ll choose to increase the allowance!
Hope this helps.
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I think you can just be straightforward and say, “Could you increase my allowance by 20,000 yen?”
If he doesn’t think you’re worth it, he’ll end things himself. If he does, he’ll agree to the increase.
If you’re planning to break things off anyway, there’s really no downside to asking for a higher allowance.
Normally, I think people struggle because they don’t want to end things, but still want their allowance increased.
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