I have a question about offers. I’d prefer to avoid men who are older than my father.

You can discuss it at the first meeting, or even afterward (｀・ω・´)ゞ If you have such a specific age range in mind, you should be able to avoid people outside it and still get offers.

You can state in your profile the oldest age you’re willing to see. Just let the club staff know. Even if you put that in your profile, some people may still send you offers, so I think you can also turn them down based on age when they contact you. Still, it feels like a waste to rule them out entirely. Right now, people aged 60 and over own two-thirds of Japan’s total wealth. Many papas in their 50s and 60s who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) have money and are probably more well-groomed than your own father. If it feels uncomfortable because they remind you of your dad, you might actually find it easier with someone around 60—or older than your father. Start by getting used to papa-katsu with someone in their late 40s, then try seeing someone older as well.

Of course, I think it’s important to tell the club—and have it noted—that you only accept offers from men up to their mid-50s. Accepting an offer and then turning it down with some lie about your schedule or whatever, when age was the deciding factor all along, makes no sense. It’s disrespectful to the other person and to the club staff as well. You should stop dragging other people into this just to protect your own image. Anyway, it sounds like you’re currently receiving offers without any issues, but I hope this helps.

Since most of the men making you offers are in their 30s or 40s, I take it you’re already registered and receiving plenty of offers. If that’s the case, then you’ve probably already received offers from men in their mid-50s and older and turned them down. So I can’t help wondering why you’re asking here now. If you’re getting so many offers that you can pick and choose, I think you should simply tell the club that directly. That said, there probably aren’t many people in that position, and most women do receive offers from men in their 50s and older as well. Also, can you really tell the difference between someone in their mid-50s and someone in their late 50s? Rather than ruling men out based on age, why not meet them first and decide afterward? Suppose there’s a man in his early 50s who looks 60, and a 60-year-old man who looks like he’s in his early 50s. Would you really be fine meeting the man who looks 60, but not want to meet the 60-year-old who looks younger? Also, from what I hear from women, many say, “When I met him, he wasn’t nearly as old-looking as I expected.” The men in their 60s at dating clubs may be different from what you have in mind when you picture men in their 60s. Maybe they’re active because they’re healthy enough to register and pursue these relationships—or maybe they’re healthy because they stay active. I’d recommend meeting them first without judging solely by age.

I think it would leave a better impression to tell the club and have them include it in your profile, so neither the club staff nor male members make a wasted trip.