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📅 Jan 14, 2026 12:47
This may be a crude question, but I’d really appreciate any answers. There’s someone who enjoys prolonged sex and cunnilingus, and I always get a yeast infection after being intimate with him. This never happens with anyone else. Treatment takes time, and I have to abstain for a while so I don’t pass it on to anyone else, so I’m considering ending things. I’ve also been bothered by how bad his breath is and how yellowed the surfaces of ...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
At the most basic level, you’re putting up with far too much.
When you get the initial offer, check his yellow teeth and bad breath before anything happens, and please don’t agree to an adult relationship (intimate).
It’s papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), where women are supposed to have the right to choose.
He might leave the club negative feedback out of spite because his papa couldn’t get an adult relationship (intimate), so you should also leave feedback saying…
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📅 Jan 14, 2026 03:50
I’m currently seeing just one papa. The allowance varies each time—does that mean his level of satisfaction varies too? I’m wondering if he decides the amount based on how satisfying the experience was for him, both physically and emotionally. I also worry that maybe he doesn’t think I’m worth giving a fixed amount to every time… I have one more question: Do men tend to become more and more frugal with women they don’t consider particul...
💬 Answer from 50半ばのオッサン:
Speaking from my position as a financially struggling office worker, I suspect the amount changing every time may largely depend on his financial situation.
That said, I think it feels completely different depending on whether you get the sense that he’s “not feeding the fish once he’s caught it,” or whether you can feel that, although the amount is small this time, it’s the most he can sincerely offer. Which does it feel like to you?
I haven’t been doing papa-katsu (compen…
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📅 Jan 13, 2026 23:49
I’m currently seeing six men through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and I’m enjoying my relationships with them. There’s just one man who makes me feel extremely shy whenever we’re intimate. I feel bad about being so shy, but whenever our faces get close, I instinctively look away or cover my face with my hands. I can kiss him, but when we’re facing each other, my shyness takes over. Each time, I tell him, “I’m embarrassed,” ...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
Women who are shy are perfectly capable of getting aroused.
Among my monthly arrangements, there’s a college girl who gets completely naked right away, and I’ve never felt excited by her. We keep seeing each other because she’s fun to be around, and we’re close enough to joke about whether we’ll end up becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, but we’re not quite that close.
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📅 Jan 13, 2026 14:32
I’m married. Should I take off my wedding ring when I’m doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? For the record, the papas already know I’m married.
💬 Answer from 片瀬(牝):
There isn’t one definitive right answer—it really depends on what you want to prioritize.
This is just my personal perspective, but I’ve never been in the habit of wearing rings, so I’ve always gone without one in my relationships as well. There was no particular reason; it simply felt more natural not to wear one.
The only exception was once, when a papa (a male supporter) gave me a ring and asked me to wear it. After we parted ways, though, that ring turned into Yukichi. …
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📅 Jan 11, 2026 15:19
The first time I met him, the older guy told me he liked foreigners. I’m completely Japanese, and I don’t look foreign in photos either. Why do you think he made me an offer? There’s absolutely nothing foreign about me.
💬 Answer from よっさん:
It’s probably just an introduction. From your perspective, all older men probably look alike, right? The same goes the other way around. If she was a young woman, perhaps she couldn’t tell foreigners and Japanese people apart either.
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📅 Jan 11, 2026 13:25
In early March, I’m planning to go to a love hotel around Umeda, Osaka, with the 26-year-old woman I’m dating. I’ve looked online, but I still can’t figure out which one is best since I don’t live in Osaka. If anyone has actually stayed at a love hotel around Umeda and had a good experience, I’d appreciate your recommendations. I’m looking for somewhere really clean—basically, a place a young woman would enjoy.
💬 Answer from 日月新:
Utagano is packed with love hotels.
There are a lot of delivery and hotel-based adult entertainment establishments, so you’ll see plenty of women over 20 wearing sailor uniforms and couples who clearly fit that scene. It has a pretty distinctive atmosphere, so I wouldn’t recommend it.
Around Umeda, I think a day-use hotel would be your best bet. Prices have settled down recently, too.
If you absolutely want a love hotel, there are some fancy ones around Sakuranomiya.
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📅 Jan 11, 2026 09:26
This morning, when I opened LINE, I noticed that the woman I’ve been seeing—she’s in her mid-30s—had changed her profile picture to a wedding photo of herself in a white shiromuku kimono. The man beside her was also showing his face and wearing a traditional haori and hakama, so I assume they got married. I’ve been seeing this woman for about three years. We even took an overseas trip together for around four days last month, and we’ve ...
💬 Answer from ダイ:
She’s continued seeing him even when she already had a boyfriend.
In that sense, getting married may not necessarily change the situation.
For now, I think you should still meet her next week.
Since she changed her profile picture to something that obvious, it would be difficult to pretend you haven’t noticed.
Normally, I’d suggest waiting for her to bring it up, but from a risk-management standpoint, it might be best to ask her toward the end of the date and then end the…
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📅 Jan 10, 2026 21:58
As someone new to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I’ve found the advice I’ve received so far extremely helpful. I’d appreciate it if more experienced members could clarify the following two points and share their guidance and experiences. ⸻ 1) I’ve seen notes such as: “Continued arrangement confirmed as of November 2025.” “Came in for a reshoot in July 2025.” I’m considering making an offer to someone I’m interested in, and I ...
💬 Answer from システムエンジニアの会員:
1)
“Continuation confirmed” means that whether the arrangement will continue has been confirmed every six months.
“New photos” means the profile was updated with a new photo shoot.
Neither has anything to do with offers.
2)
You probably shouldn’t rely too much on the support target amount.
It may serve as a rough reference, but the desired allowance for a single meeting varies from person to person, so please understand that it’s something to discuss and decide toge…
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📅 Jan 10, 2026 17:32
My papa’s breath is unbelievably bad. He’s a really nice person and gives me a pretty generous allowance. If he were a pay-per-meeting papa who gave around ¥70,000, I’d probably say goodbye, but he gives me quite a lot. So ideally, I’d like him to do something about his bad breath so we can continue seeing each other comfortably. How should I bring it up without hurting his feelings? Also, what causes bad breath in the first place? It d...
💬 Answer from よっさん:
If your stomach is rotten, you’re not alive anymore. You might be a zombie.
I recommend getting away before you’re bitten or cursed.
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📅 Jan 10, 2026 10:17
What’s with guys who keep asking to meet up without an adult relationship (intimacy)? What do they think this place is?
💬 Answer from 片瀬(牝):
Being invited to meet without an adult relationship (intimacy) isn’t necessarily a bad thing, at least in terms of the lower physical risk. If the allowance is comparable to what you’d receive with intimacy—or the terms are otherwise acceptable to you—that can be a perfectly valid arrangement in its own way.
That said, I think the source of your feeling that “What does he think this is?” is that the man doesn’t understand the expectations or atmosphere of a dating club. Bein…
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📅 Jan 8, 2026 23:16
Good evening. I recently joined a dating club for the first time and met a man. After dinner, we went somewhere else for drinks, and he gave me ¥40,000. Is that more than the going rate? Would it be better to see the same man again rather than accept offers from new men? If we were to have an adult relationship (intimate), how much would the allowance usually be?
💬 Answer from マックさん:
As far as I know, a papa (a male supporter) who offers a generous (well-paying) allowance for dinner doesn’t necessarily offer even more for an adult relationship (intimate). He may simply be satisfied with that arrangement and not necessarily be looking for anything intimate.
Be careful, because if you bring up an adult relationship (intimate) yourself, he may cut things off instead.
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📅 Jan 7, 2026 18:27
What are men in their 20s and early 30s looking for when they sign up for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? It honestly scares me a little. I could understand it if they were extremely unattractive, but if they’re at least average-looking and in their 30s, it seems like they could find someone through a dating app.
💬 Answer from カズ:
I first started seeing someone in an allowance-based relationship when I was around thirty. Relationships with women who weren’t looking for that kind of arrangement often ended up with them wanting marriage after a while, and I found that bothersome. If you ask what I was looking for, it was a transactional relationship.
Regardless of age, aren’t most people who sign up with dating clubs looking for a transactional relationship?
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📅 Jan 7, 2026 16:41
Four times a month? No way, that sounds awful. Are there really sugar babies who want to meet the same old guy four times a month? I definitely couldn’t do it. If possible, I’d rather spread it out among different people. I’d probably start seeing him in my nightmares.
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Even if you spread things out, if you’re still meeting a different papa every week, I feel like it doesn’t really make that much difference.
The ideal is probably women in their 20s to 40s who are students or work daytime jobs, and whose monthly cycle of adult activities is something like: boyfriend, fuck buddy, papa, papa, period. lol
If they don’t have a boyfriend or a fuck buddy, they don’t have much experience and it’s not as fun. And if they make their living through s…
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📅 Jan 7, 2026 13:34
I’m planning to get married next year, so I’d like to receive as many offers as possible before then. How can I get more? I only have a limited amount of time left for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and every day without an offer feels like a waste. I’m pretty tough and confident I could handle even 100 offers, so ideally, I’d like to get as many as possible. The papas (male supporters) would probably make offers to other wom...
💬 Answer from アンディ:
I don’t think getting 100 offers is something you can achieve through a few superficial efforts alone.
Since your time seems limited, if you need as many papa supporters as possible, why not actively promote yourself by posting photos and videos on a dedicated matching app or X?
Among the standard- and gold-tier women registered with Universe Club, there are probably some who, unable to get offers, promote themselves on X and target people outside the Universe membership. B…
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📅 Jan 7, 2026 00:17
Mr. Maezawa talked about receiving unsolicited offers from women, but wasn’t it successful precisely because he has an ordinary appearance? He described himself as “ordinary,” but isn’t that exactly why it worked? If a beautiful woman approaches a man, he might think, “This seems suspicious. Maybe she’s a bad bet because she’s so pushy despite being beautiful,” or “She probably does this with everyone.” But if an average-looking guy com...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
You said something along the lines of “even though she’s ordinary,” but isn’t that precisely because she is ordinary?
What do you think? “An ordinary person” would be in the standard class, right?
(“Standard” means average, typical, or conforming to the norm.)
It seems to me that when most men receive a “You seem lovely” message, they either think, “I looked at her profile, but she’s not my type,” or simply don’t look at it in the first place.
> When it comes from a beau…
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📅 Jan 6, 2026 22:39
Nice to meet you. I’m just an ordinary university student attending school in Tokyo. I currently have one papa (a male supporter) whom I’ve been seeing for about two and a half years. We have very similar tastes and values, and I always have a great time with him. I’m also happy with our relationship as it is. He’s a single man in his 50s, and we meet about once or twice a week. In addition to covering my rent and utilities, he also giv...
💬 Answer from シアトル:
Isn’t around 50,000 yen per meeting pretty standard?
If you’re meeting six times a month, that seems a little low to me.
I don’t need gifts, so personally, I’d be happy with things like Starbucks gift cards or a massage.
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📅 Jan 6, 2026 22:26
It must have been quite a while ago, but I remember a respondent named Megumi. I was wondering how she’s doing. I was reminded of her after seeing a question about women in their 30s. There were also people like Marika. I find women whose inner beauty shines through more appealing than girls who are simply young, and conversations with them are much more fulfilling. The fact that they’ve stayed in my thoughts says a lot. I hope they’re ...
💬 Answer from 迷わない70代:
Megumi… that brings back memories. She was such a wonderful person. Thanks to her, I had the chance to meet Mac and Kazu too, and our playful adventures as a group of four are fond memories. Kazu, thanks again for driving back then.
The only thing I regret is that, even though we spent so much time together, things never quite progressed to anything more intimate… haha.
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📅 Jan 6, 2026 21:35
I know it varies from person to person, but I wanted to ask: What kind of women do you think receive the most offers? I’d appreciate any insights you can share—for example, age, profile type, overall vibe, hairstyle, body type, and so on.
💬 Answer from 横断歩道:
Just going by the fact that she gets a lot of offers, she seems like someone within reach of many male members, so perhaps:
- Her class doesn’t go as high as Black
- Her type is B2 or C
- Her allowance doesn’t seem particularly high
- She doesn’t come across as a professional escort
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📅 Jan 6, 2026 17:59
I registered as a member two years ago and met several wonderful papa (male supporters). I then took a break because of job hunting and school, and when I tried logging in again after such a long time, I couldn’t log in for some reason… Does your membership get automatically canceled if you take a break from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? I was also hoping to update my profile photo.
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
If you don’t respond to the six-month renewal confirmation, your membership will automatically be canceled.
We do this because keeping women registered when they’re no longer actually available to receive offers would be unfair to the men, and we also don’t want it to seem as though we’re falsely inflating the number of female members.
There’s no penalty for being removed in this way, so if you schedule re-registration, you can register again almost like having new photos t…
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📅 Jan 6, 2026 12:38
How many months after registering do offers usually keep coming in? It says six months is the guideline for getting new photos taken, but would four months be too soon? I haven’t heard anything at all since around the three-month mark.
💬 Answer from 紙ひこうき:
If you discuss it with the staff, they may be willing to accommodate a reshoot.
It’s also possible—though only slightly—that they may offer advice or make allowances for things besides a reshoot, so it might be worth messaging them on LINE, even if you don’t expect much.
If your feedback so far has been positive, there’s also a chance the staff may recommend you or introduce you to someone.