After matching on PATLO, it seems the woman changed her requested transportation allowance from ¥10,000 to ¥20,000.

This can happen on Universe Club too, where someone changes from C to B2 after you’ve already applied, so it’s a pretty frustrating issue. You were planning to invite her somewhere after dinner, but if she’s B2, does that mean the first date is dinner only? Is priority given to the terms at the time you applied, or to her current status? That’s the question. If you think of it as reflecting her current feelings rather than being a contract, then naturally the current status should take priority. Still, I can understand why it doesn’t feel entirely satisfactory. I assume you’re asking because PATOLO has a similar issue that doesn’t quite sit right. But if it really comes down to feelings, and paying more means things are likely to work in your favor afterward, then even if you pay an extra ¥10,000 here, it doesn’t seem like a major issue when you look at the total picture. Once you enter an adult relationship (intimate), you may not need to provide a separate dinner allowance anyway. In the context of paying several million yen in allowance overall, ¥10,000 is… You’re making her an offer because you like her, so I think it’s better to take a broader view and not worry too much about it.

Try asking: “Sorry, I was under the impression that transportation would be ¥10,000. Were you hoping for ¥20,000?” If he says ¥20,000, you could cancel by saying: “Sorry, but ¥20,000 for transportation is outside my budget, so I’ll have to cancel. Even if we meet once, it wouldn’t be sustainable. I’m sorry for having you make plans.” It’s a buyer’s market for men, so just move on to the next one. If you can’t agree on the transportation fee, your expectations for the allowance probably won’t match either. At least you saved yourself time and money.

I think your only option is to give her the 2. You have no proof, and since the screen clearly shows “2,” if you only gave her 1 on the day and said, “Wasn’t it 1 before?” her heart would shut down completely. Even if you somehow made it to an adult relationship and she made noises of pleasure, she’d still be emotionally unresponsive. Also, with Universe Club, they notify you that a woman who was dating Type C when you made the offer may change to B2 or B1 by the time you meet her, so please understand that this can happen.

Patro has a messaging feature, so before applying, I confirm things like, “I’ll pay ¥10,000 for transportation. Is that okay?” or, “If we meet and don’t click, I’ll give you ¥10,000 and we can part ways right away. If we do click, it’ll be ¥50,000 for an adult relationship, including transportation. How does that sound?” Then I apply. What does the questioner use the messaging feature for? I find it strange. That said, if they applied without confirming, I’d probably give them ¥20,000 since they said they wanted ¥20,000. Giving them ¥10,000 at that point would basically mean there’s no chance of anything continuing afterward, so wouldn’t that just be a wasted effort? It would also be a way of reminding myself that I should have confirmed the terms beforehand. The 21-year-old sleeping next to me now is on her third date with me. She has an identical twin sister who apparently also does papa-katsu. I thought it would be interesting and asked if her sister could come too. She said she’d ask her, and her sister said she could come right away if I paid for a taxi. So I had her come over for ¥10,000 plus the taxi fare. We hit it off while talking in the room, so I gave her an additional ¥40,000 and became intimate with her too. I wanted a threesome, but apparently they weren’t comfortable with that, so I was with them one at a time while the other waited in the next room. She said it felt unpleasant, as if she were watching herself. Even so, it was a fresh experience being intimate with identical twins for the first time. What was interesting was that their way of giving oral sex and even the way they arched their backs when climaxing were exactly the same. It felt strangely like being intimate with the same person twice. The younger sister went home, while the older sister stayed overnight with me as originally planned. It cost me twice as much, but I got to have a rare experience. As I was writing this, I had another thought. Since you can probably still use the messaging feature, why not write, “Regarding transportation expenses, your application stated ¥10,000, so that’s what I had in mind. Are you hoping for ¥20,000?” and confirm what they want? If they reply, “I’d like ¥20,000,” then just accept it and pay ¥20,000. If they reply, “¥10,000 is fine,” whether you give ¥10,000 or ¥20,000 is up to you.

It depends on how serious you are about it. If you still want to go through with it and continue seeing her, not offering an allowance will probably dampen her enthusiasm. If you don’t really care either way, you could let her know beforehand by message. Her interest will likely drop anyway, so it would be pretty much impossible to build things back up from there and start seeing each other. Good luck!

If it’s through PATORO, it’s better to discuss things beforehand via messages. That way, you can avoid wasting each other’s time by meeting up only to find that the terms are different and having to part ways. If the 20,000 yen is what concerns you, that probably means you’re more focused on the amount than on wanting to meet him. Rather than directly questioning the point above, I think you could simply confirm it by message, such as, “Would 10,000 yen for transportation on the day be okay?” If things get awkward at that point, you can just say, “Sorry, I misunderstood,” and cancel.

If it’s one person when the date is arranged, wouldn’t one be fine? There are even adult videos featuring twins in a threesome, but it could be quite an interesting experience. “It feels like I’m looking at myself”—I can see why that would be off-putting.

This is Fullerene! That makes me realize just how reassuring it is to receive offers through a club. The transportation allowance is basically ¥10,000, and if there are any special considerations, they’re usually noted in the staff member’s introduction. Even if the relationship type changes after the date has been arranged, the staff will go out of their way to ask whether you still want to meet or cancel. PATOLO is good too, but I’m getting a little tired of all the women who carpet-bomb me with copy-pasted messages without even properly reading my profile. I hardly reply anymore, lol.

Please discuss your desired allowance by message beforehand. Since it’s about money, I don’t want any issues later. For the record, if someone tells me a different amount afterward, I won’t meet with them.