Reading a question about STIs got me thinking: even if you avoid sex before an STI test and everything comes back okay at that point, you’re still going to sleep with a new papa (a male supporter) or a new private guy eventually, so isn’t the test kind of pointless?

I don’t want to make you an offer, so please add this comment to your profile: “Going to a gynecologist for an STI test sounds like too much of a hassle.” I think the questioner may already have an STI in their throat. If the papa (male supporter) is taking antibiotics, they probably won’t catch it, so maybe it’s chlamydia? Honestly, it could be cured if you went to the hospital. If you don’t, the infection will just keep spreading.

> Honestly, I can’t be bothered to go to a gynecologist. People like that scare me the most. I think there’s a good chance they already have an STI, and the fact that they say STI testing is pointless is a serious red flag. I really think they should stop papa-katsu. Because of you, a lot of papas may have ended up with STIs, and those infections may then have been passed on to even more women. You should stop immediately. For everyone’s sake.

It’s a question of which option is safer, not whether it’s completely safe. If it were completely safe, there’d be no need for regular testing. Avoiding relationships with women who think like the person asking the question is also a way to reduce risk. I may be willing to accept the risk of getting infected myself, but I want to avoid passing it on to other women.

Sorry, but I’m having a hard time understanding the Japanese here… >Even if you avoid an STI test and everything is okay at that particular time, once you have a new papa, you’re obviously going to have sex with him at some point… >So isn’t the test pointless? ← I can finally make sense of it if I interpret 性病検査「受けて」 as “get an STI test,” so is that what you mean? Yes, exactly. You’re absolutely right. >Do you really think that after meeting you, I’ve only been with you? >← I wouldn’t even dream of assuming that… Honestly, I’d find it pretty heavy if someone did that. Ah, now I get it—this person is complaining, “STI tests are pointless, and I can’t be bothered to go to the gynecologist every time!” By the way, can bacteria associated with periodontal disease cause inflammation in the throat? I’m no expert, but it seems much more likely to be psychological.

In my case, I chose my female companions based on their personalities and social circles. Once I’d settled on someone, I stayed involved with her until she told me she wanted to end things. Oh—and I only see one woman at a time.

What I wrote earlier was about how I handle the first meeting; things are different from the second meeting onward. Since subsequent arrangements are handled individually, it’s difficult to discuss them in general terms, but at the first meeting I ask about: 1. Any history of sexually transmitted infections 2. Her past relationships with men (boyfriends, friends-with-benefits, one-night stands, papa-katsu, hosts, etc.) 3. Whether she currently has any man she is intimate with, regularly or occasionally Then, based on those things, along with: 4. Her test results 5. Her appeal, including our intimate compatibility I decide what direction the relationship should take. Even if a woman has had an STI or has a boyfriend or friend-with-benefits, I’ll continue seeing her if she currently takes STI prevention seriously. By that, I mean things like getting regular checkups at a gynecologist or having a firm policy of always using protection. Even then, though, I’d probably avoid oral sex while having protected vaginal sex. On the other hand, as I mentioned before, I’ve even met a virgin who tested positive for chlamydia in her throat. I confirmed her hymen, so she definitely was a virgin. In the end, you have to consider each person individually and decide what precautions to take. It’s like trying to protect yourself from bullets on a battlefield—there’s no such thing as a foolproof method. But you still have to take every precaution you can. Even if a woman tests positive for an STI, if she has the appeal mentioned in point 5 and becomes aware of the risks involved, I’ll continue seeing her. I tell her, “Contact me again once your treatment is complete.” So there’s also: 6. How seriously she takes STI risk management And there’s one more thing: 7. Whether she seems to be telling the truth This is the trickiest part. Lies are basically bugs in the information. I generally take what I’m told at face value, but I’ve been burned in the past. Thanks to that, though, I’ve developed a fairly good intuition. One way to deal with lies is to introduce the women to one another and have them become friends. They’ll sometimes casually reveal the truth to a close friend, and that woman will usually tell me. Women are women’s greatest enemies. I’ve also benefited from papa-katsu producer Yuto’s group LINE chat. People speak pretty honestly there, but sometimes you can recognize someone from their LINE icon and realize, “Oh, this is that girl.” They may think, “It’s easy to fool a papa,” and there may indeed be plenty of easy-to-fool papas, but things do get found out fairly often. I do have the desire for unprotected sex, so there are women I’m intimate with that way. However, I only do that with one woman at a time, never with multiple women simultaneously. Rather than “one-hole-at-a-time,” I’m a “one-lifetime-hole-at-a-time” kind of person. I call them my “unprotected partner.” She has to meet two conditions: A) she has no other sex partners, including a boyfriend or another papa, and B) I decide that she doesn’t seem to be lying and is trustworthy. I’ve set her allowance at a flat ¥50,000, so I show my appreciation by buying her things as well. My current unprotected partner is 21. She lost her virginity privately a year ago and started papa-katsu six months ago. Before meeting me, she had adult relationships with two men she met through an app, but she says that after meeting me, she chose to be with only me and hasn’t been intimate with anyone else. Nothing is ever certain, but she doesn’t seem to be lying. For women who need money, I sometimes introduce girls I met through apps to Universal Studios Japan through a scout. I introduced two women just the other day. Having more papas does increase the risk of STIs, but that’s something I can deal with by strengthening my own precautions. A woman’s freedom to have multiple relationships conflicts with STI prevention, but her circumstances come first. I would never tell her, “Don’t sleep with any man except me.” However, I often tell them, “If you’re intimate with another man, just be honest and tell me. I won’t end things over it.” If a woman gets another papa or boyfriend and becomes intimate with him, I may sometimes pay for her STI testing myself. > Whenever I kiss this person, my throat starts hurting. Could it be periodontal disease? Chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, and herpes can all be transmitted through oral sex. Go to a gynecologist. There are quite a few women like the questioner. I don’t want to introduce any bacteria into my community, so no matter how attractive she is, I would never continue an intimate relationship with her. But if her personal story is interesting, I may want to hear more, so I might still meet her for dinner only—no intimacy. My biggest motivation for this activity is sexual desire, but curiosity comes second.