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📅 Jan 16, 2026 21:23
With Type B1, is there a rule that you have to agree to an adult relationship by a certain number of meetings? I’ve gone out to eat with my papa a few times, and although I chose B, he’s been complaining and making snide remarks, saying that deep down I really intended to choose A. There seems to be a papa in the question below who’s angry about B2, but in my case it’s B1. That means he’s the one in the wrong, right?
💬 Answer from よっさん:
There are no hard-and-fast rules. In my case, I make it clear from the start that I’ll only meet for dinner up to the second time. (Of course, there’s no actual rule like that.) Personally, I recommend it because it doesn’t waste your time.
If you’re saying things that could give him the wrong idea, just assume that an older guy who misunderstands may get angry—that’s pretty much the standard reaction—so it probably won’t come as much of a surprise.
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📅 Jan 16, 2026 10:41
I’ve gone out to dinner several times with a woman whose dating-club type is B2. I feel like we’ve grown fairly close, but she keeps saying she’d like to get to know me a little better first, so things haven’t progressed to an adult relationship. We’ve had dinner only at least five times now. Do you think she’s actually interested in moving things forward? I could understand it if she were B1 or A, but I’m wondering why she chose B2. Ar...
💬 Answer from シアトル:
At B2, meeting a second time for dinner only causes trouble for the other members—both men and women.
I think it would have been better to part ways when you were discussing the second meeting over LINE.
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📅 Jan 15, 2026 23:01
I’m a man in my mid-50s. I haven’t been doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for very long, so I’d like to ask the women here. - I’ve only met women who list their relationship type as B or C. B means they meet with the understanding that they won’t have an adult relationship (intimate) on the first meeting, while C means they may or may not. However, almost all of them ask, “What shall we do after this?” In B cases especially...
💬 Answer from 片瀬(牝):
First, regarding your first point, I think most women meet someone after having a basic understanding of their dating type. At the very least, it’s not common for someone to meet without knowing whether the woman is type B or C.
With that in mind, the question, “What would you like to do after this?” is often meant as an invitation when she’s type C. However, for type B, it can also simply carry the nuance of asking, “Shall we call it a day here?” or “Would you like to go so…
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📅 Jan 15, 2026 16:20
I’m the one who asked about braces earlier. If possible, I’d like to stick to dinner only (no intimacy). About how much could I expect to earn?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
My friends who receive help with their rent are doing the adult relationship thing. If anything, I think it’s probably the kind of arrangement where their papa can come into their home whenever he wants and have his way with them. They just don’t talk about it.
Unless you’re exceptionally attractive, you’ll probably get fewer offers and won’t earn much without agreeing to an adult relationship.
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📅 Jan 15, 2026 16:13
I’m getting my teeth straightened. Will I still get offers if I sign up for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? I don’t have braces behind my teeth—I’m wearing clear braces on the front. A friend signed up here and had her rent paid, so I thought I’d like to try it too.
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
If you’re attractive, you’ll get offers regardless of whether you’re wearing braces or anything else. For someone who’s more average-looking, though, some men may hesitate about making an offer.
That said, if they’re clear braces, they probably won’t look noticeably unusual at first glance, so I think you’ll be fine.
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📅 Jan 14, 2026 12:47
This may be a crude question, but I’d really appreciate any answers. There’s someone who enjoys prolonged sex and cunnilingus, and I always get a yeast infection after being intimate with him. This never happens with anyone else. Treatment takes time, and I have to abstain for a while so I don’t pass it on to anyone else, so I’m considering ending things. I’ve also been bothered by how bad his breath is and how yellowed the surfaces of ...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
At the most basic level, you’re putting up with far too much.
When you get the initial offer, check his yellow teeth and bad breath before anything happens, and please don’t agree to an adult relationship (intimate).
It’s papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), where women are supposed to have the right to choose.
He might leave the club negative feedback out of spite because his papa couldn’t get an adult relationship (intimate), so you should also leave feedback saying…
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📅 Jan 14, 2026 03:50
I’m currently seeing just one papa. The allowance varies each time—does that mean his level of satisfaction varies too? I’m wondering if he decides the amount based on how satisfying the experience was for him, both physically and emotionally. I also worry that maybe he doesn’t think I’m worth giving a fixed amount to every time… I have one more question: Do men tend to become more and more frugal with women they don’t consider particul...
💬 Answer from 50半ばのオッサン:
Speaking from my position as a financially struggling office worker, I suspect the amount changing every time may largely depend on his financial situation.
That said, I think it feels completely different depending on whether you get the sense that he’s “not feeding the fish once he’s caught it,” or whether you can feel that, although the amount is small this time, it’s the most he can sincerely offer. Which does it feel like to you?
I haven’t been doing papa-katsu (compen…
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📅 Jan 13, 2026 23:49
I’m currently seeing six men through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and I’m enjoying my relationships with them. There’s just one man who makes me feel extremely shy whenever we’re intimate. I feel bad about being so shy, but whenever our faces get close, I instinctively look away or cover my face with my hands. I can kiss him, but when we’re facing each other, my shyness takes over. Each time, I tell him, “I’m embarrassed,” ...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
Women who are shy are perfectly capable of getting aroused.
Among my monthly arrangements, there’s a college girl who gets completely naked right away, and I’ve never felt excited by her. We keep seeing each other because she’s fun to be around, and we’re close enough to joke about whether we’ll end up becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, but we’re not quite that close.
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📅 Jan 13, 2026 14:32
I’m married. Should I take off my wedding ring when I’m doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? For the record, the papas already know I’m married.
💬 Answer from 片瀬(牝):
There isn’t one definitive right answer—it really depends on what you want to prioritize.
This is just my personal perspective, but I’ve never been in the habit of wearing rings, so I’ve always gone without one in my relationships as well. There was no particular reason; it simply felt more natural not to wear one.
The only exception was once, when a papa (a male supporter) gave me a ring and asked me to wear it. After we parted ways, though, that ring turned into Yukichi. …
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📅 Jan 11, 2026 15:19
The first time I met him, the older guy told me he liked foreigners. I’m completely Japanese, and I don’t look foreign in photos either. Why do you think he made me an offer? There’s absolutely nothing foreign about me.
💬 Answer from よっさん:
It’s probably just an introduction. From your perspective, all older men probably look alike, right? The same goes the other way around. If she was a young woman, perhaps she couldn’t tell foreigners and Japanese people apart either.
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📅 Jan 11, 2026 13:25
In early March, I’m planning to go to a love hotel around Umeda, Osaka, with the 26-year-old woman I’m dating. I’ve looked online, but I still can’t figure out which one is best since I don’t live in Osaka. If anyone has actually stayed at a love hotel around Umeda and had a good experience, I’d appreciate your recommendations. I’m looking for somewhere really clean—basically, a place a young woman would enjoy.
💬 Answer from 日月新:
Utagano is packed with love hotels.
There are a lot of delivery and hotel-based adult entertainment establishments, so you’ll see plenty of women over 20 wearing sailor uniforms and couples who clearly fit that scene. It has a pretty distinctive atmosphere, so I wouldn’t recommend it.
Around Umeda, I think a day-use hotel would be your best bet. Prices have settled down recently, too.
If you absolutely want a love hotel, there are some fancy ones around Sakuranomiya.
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📅 Jan 11, 2026 09:26
This morning, when I opened LINE, I noticed that the woman I’ve been seeing—she’s in her mid-30s—had changed her profile picture to a wedding photo of herself in a white shiromuku kimono. The man beside her was also showing his face and wearing a traditional haori and hakama, so I assume they got married. I’ve been seeing this woman for about three years. We even took an overseas trip together for around four days last month, and we’ve ...
💬 Answer from ダイ:
She’s continued seeing him even when she already had a boyfriend.
In that sense, getting married may not necessarily change the situation.
For now, I think you should still meet her next week.
Since she changed her profile picture to something that obvious, it would be difficult to pretend you haven’t noticed.
Normally, I’d suggest waiting for her to bring it up, but from a risk-management standpoint, it might be best to ask her toward the end of the date and then end the…
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📅 Jan 10, 2026 21:58
As someone new to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I’ve found the advice I’ve received so far extremely helpful. I’d appreciate it if more experienced members could clarify the following two points and share their guidance and experiences. ⸻ 1) I’ve seen notes such as: “Continued arrangement confirmed as of November 2025.” “Came in for a reshoot in July 2025.” I’m considering making an offer to someone I’m interested in, and I ...
💬 Answer from システムエンジニアの会員:
1)
“Continuation confirmed” means that whether the arrangement will continue has been confirmed every six months.
“New photos” means the profile was updated with a new photo shoot.
Neither has anything to do with offers.
2)
You probably shouldn’t rely too much on the support target amount.
It may serve as a rough reference, but the desired allowance for a single meeting varies from person to person, so please understand that it’s something to discuss and decide toge…
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📅 Jan 10, 2026 17:32
My papa’s breath is unbelievably bad. He’s a really nice person and gives me a pretty generous allowance. If he were a pay-per-meeting papa who gave around ¥70,000, I’d probably say goodbye, but he gives me quite a lot. So ideally, I’d like him to do something about his bad breath so we can continue seeing each other comfortably. How should I bring it up without hurting his feelings? Also, what causes bad breath in the first place? It d...
💬 Answer from よっさん:
If your stomach is rotten, you’re not alive anymore. You might be a zombie.
I recommend getting away before you’re bitten or cursed.
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📅 Jan 10, 2026 10:17
What’s with guys who keep asking to meet up without an adult relationship (intimacy)? What do they think this place is?
💬 Answer from シアトル:
Woman: I enjoy spending time with you. I’m happy when you ask me out.
Man: Let’s go have drinks at those three places again. Here’s your 10,000-yen allowance.
Woman: Thank you. That always makes me happy.
At this point, look slightly downward and put on a sad expression.
I’m no good, am I? Maybe I’m not attractive enough… Pretend to hold back tears.
I enjoy being with you. But since this is the kind of relationship we have, I guess I’m not someone you can have anything m…
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📅 Jan 8, 2026 23:16
Good evening. I recently joined a dating club for the first time and met a man. After dinner, we went somewhere else for drinks, and he gave me ¥40,000. Is that more than the going rate? Would it be better to see the same man again rather than accept offers from new men? If we were to have an adult relationship (intimate), how much would the allowance usually be?
💬 Answer from マックさん:
As far as I know, a papa (a male supporter) who offers a generous (well-paying) allowance for dinner doesn’t necessarily offer even more for an adult relationship (intimate). He may simply be satisfied with that arrangement and not necessarily be looking for anything intimate.
Be careful, because if you bring up an adult relationship (intimate) yourself, he may cut things off instead.
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📅 Jan 7, 2026 18:27
What are men in their 20s and early 30s looking for when they sign up for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? It honestly scares me a little. I could understand it if they were extremely unattractive, but if they’re at least average-looking and in their 30s, it seems like they could find someone through a dating app.
💬 Answer from カズ:
I first started seeing someone in an allowance-based relationship when I was around thirty. Relationships with women who weren’t looking for that kind of arrangement often ended up with them wanting marriage after a while, and I found that bothersome. If you ask what I was looking for, it was a transactional relationship.
Regardless of age, aren’t most people who sign up with dating clubs looking for a transactional relationship?
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📅 Jan 7, 2026 16:41
Four times a month? No way, that sounds awful. Are there really sugar babies who want to meet the same old guy four times a month? I definitely couldn’t do it. If possible, I’d rather spread it out among different people. I’d probably start seeing him in my nightmares.
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Even if you spread things out, if you’re still meeting a different papa every week, I feel like it doesn’t really make that much difference.
The ideal is probably women in their 20s to 40s who are students or work daytime jobs, and whose monthly cycle of adult activities is something like: boyfriend, fuck buddy, papa, papa, period. lol
If they don’t have a boyfriend or a fuck buddy, they don’t have much experience and it’s not as fun. And if they make their living through s…
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📅 Jan 7, 2026 13:34
I’m planning to get married next year, so I’d like to receive as many offers as possible before then. How can I get more? I only have a limited amount of time left for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and every day without an offer feels like a waste. I’m pretty tough and confident I could handle even 100 offers, so ideally, I’d like to get as many as possible. The papas (male supporters) would probably make offers to other wom...
💬 Answer from アンディ:
I don’t think getting 100 offers is something you can achieve through a few superficial efforts alone.
Since your time seems limited, if you need as many papa supporters as possible, why not actively promote yourself by posting photos and videos on a dedicated matching app or X?
Among the standard- and gold-tier women registered with Universe Club, there are probably some who, unable to get offers, promote themselves on X and target people outside the Universe membership. B…
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📅 Jan 7, 2026 00:17
Mr. Maezawa talked about receiving unsolicited offers from women, but wasn’t it successful precisely because he has an ordinary appearance? He described himself as “ordinary,” but isn’t that exactly why it worked? If a beautiful woman approaches a man, he might think, “This seems suspicious. Maybe she’s a bad bet because she’s so pushy despite being beautiful,” or “She probably does this with everyone.” But if an average-looking guy com...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
You said something along the lines of “even though she’s ordinary,” but isn’t that precisely because she is ordinary?
What do you think? “An ordinary person” would be in the standard class, right?
(“Standard” means average, typical, or conforming to the norm.)
It seems to me that when most men receive a “You seem lovely” message, they either think, “I looked at her profile, but she’s not my type,” or simply don’t look at it in the first place.
> When it comes from a beau…