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📅 Jul 24, 2025 08:23
Is ¥150,000 or so per session standard with high-end soapland workers, while ¥100,000 is the going rate at clubs like these? I used to work at a high-end soapland, so I strongly made that point and somehow got the terms changed from ¥100,000 per meeting to ¥100,000 for an adult relationship (intimate) plus ¥20,000 for transportation. Are people involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) generally less financially well-off?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
A question/opinion with plenty of points to pick apart? Thank you.
There really aren’t many soaplands charging ¥100,000 or more, let alone ¥150,000 ones. And the average percentage women receive is around 60%, right?
Of course, you can earn a lot because you’ll see several customers in a day, lol, so I think you should just go back to a high-end soapland.
Am I understanding correctly that even when you were getting ¥150,000, you were seeing three people per shift?
You cou…
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📅 Jul 24, 2025 02:05
When doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), is it better to give your papa (a male supporter) the impression that you don’t have a boyfriend, even if you actually do? Also, do you think papas prefer it if you don’t mention your past boyfriends, friends-with-benefits, or dating history? If pretending to be a virgin or saying you only had one boyfriend back in middle school is better, please let me know.
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Isn’t that impossible if you’re going to stay together for a long time? Can you really keep up the act forever?
And a papa who says, “Don’t get a boyfriend. Don’t see any other papas. Be mine only”—he’s probably trouble, right? They’re likely to misunderstand things and develop serious feelings. Scary!
Personally, Fuu would rather date ordinary college students, office workers, or housewives who aren’t polished professionals like sex workers or hostesses. So I actually find…
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📅 Jul 21, 2025 15:31
I’m not very familiar with this, so I’d appreciate some insight. Are there people who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) while also working in the adult entertainment industry? If so, is the way they spend time together (dinner, then a hotel, etc.) completely different when they’re with a sex worker versus a woman doing papa-katsu? I’m sure it varies from person to person, but I’d appreciate hearing about your experiences.
💬 Answer from Fuu:
About ten years ago, before I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I went to adult entertainment venues a few times. But often the women looked nothing like their photos or seemed completely unmotivated.
Papa-katsu is overwhelmingly better. I’ve also heard that around 70% of women in the adult-entertainment industry who see multiple clients in a day may have some kind of STI, so I don’t go anymore.
There are two main types: venue-based services, where you visit…
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📅 Jul 21, 2025 04:18
I recently had my interview, passed, and was given access to the site. However, I was a little shocked to see that I looked less attractive in my profile photos than in photos taken by others, selfies, or even when I look in the mirror. (I’m not exactly gorgeous to begin with, though.) Based on how I look in these photos, I assume I’m probably Standard. That said, thankfully, around 20 people added me to their favorites within less than...
💬 Answer from システムエンジニアの会員:
Some people may make offers to Standard members as well.
As part of my own research, I’ve asked women I met what class they thought they belonged to, and most answered Standard or Gold. Of course, I never told them their actual class.
*Most of them were actually Black or Platinum.*
If you’re receiving a lot of offers from Platinum or Black members, you may have a good chance of being in the Platinum class, but there’s no way to know for sure.
As for your photos, if the sta…
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📅 Jul 19, 2025 09:08
I’m a little embarrassed to ask this, but I have a question. I’m self-conscious about having a small chest and am considering breast augmentation. What do men think about women who’ve had breast augmentation? I only get an offer about once every two or three months. I’m hoping that getting breast augmentation might lead to more offers and a higher allowance.
💬 Answer from ジョー・ルビコン:
After joining Uchu Club, I realized that I’m more into large breasts than I’d expected.
That said, I’ve never found breast augmentation particularly beautiful or sexy. However, the technology seems to be improving every day, so perhaps I just haven’t seen the latest results.
I’ve also heard that, supposedly, natural-looking breast implants can make breast cancer harder to detect. This may be none of my business, but I think you should look into the risks.
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📅 Jul 18, 2025 23:40
I’m a woman in my 40s. It seems my husband has signed up here and is doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). At first, I felt disgusted, but strangely enough, I’ve become curious. Do places like this only look for glamorous women after all? Once you’ve settled into family life, is it impossible to be seen as a woman anymore?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Even if you’re married and a homemaker, you can still be very much in demand if you:
- Have an attractive appearance
- Look clean and well-groomed, maintain your figure, and have nice skin
- Are charming and sexy
You may need to keep working on yourself, though.
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📅 Jul 16, 2025 05:58
Are there any men who are members of multiple dating clubs at the same time? Did you notice any differences? I’ve tried and compared several clubs, but in the end, I came back to Universe. It’s exciting when you find a great match at a local club, but since they aren’t as well managed, I feel that no one really takes responsibility. If it’s okay to mention names here, I’d also appreciate recommendations for other clubs.
💬 Answer from 負け男:
Universe Club, hands down.
Now that you can negotiate the allowance on PATOLO, I log in there pretty often too.
One nice thing about behaving yourself at Universe Club is that you get all kinds of perks. They’ll prioritize introducing you to attractive women, and sometimes you’ll quietly receive an invitation meant for ultra-VIPs. They’re very good at treating their loyal customers well, so I end up spending more money than I intended.
It isn’t a dating club, but men’s est…
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📅 Jul 15, 2025 10:55
The papa (a male supporter) I went on a second adult relationship (intimate) date with put 80,000 yen in an envelope, including transportation. I put the envelope in my bag, and I’m wondering if he took some out while I was in the shower. After we parted, I checked inside and found 70,000 yen. I know I’m partly to blame for not checking properly, but counting the allowance right in front of him would have kind of killed the mood… It’s b...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Would someone really go through something that risky and troublesome?
I feel like you probably mistook a 7 from the start.
Something similar happened to me—I suspected money had been taken from my wallet, but I couldn’t say anything because I had no proof. It still bothers me, but there’s nothing I can do. These days, even if I become friendly with someone, I take my bag with me into the changing room every time.
From now on, I think you should take your bag into the chan…
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📅 Jul 14, 2025 21:28
I’ve been meeting this woman for tea two or three times a month for about four months. I suspect she’s probably dinner only (no intimacy). We only make small talk, too. I’m so shy that I haven’t been able to bring up the subject of an adult relationship (intimate). I’d like to move things forward, and since I agonize over it every time, I want to talk to her and decide whether to move on. So my question is: when during the one-hour tea ...
💬 Answer from アンディ:
As everyone has said, if you’ve continued meeting for tea only during that period, either he’s come to believe that’s all you want, or your allowance is attractive enough to him that he’s happy just meeting for tea. Given how many times you’ve met, men usually bring it up themselves, so the fact that he hasn’t probably means he wants to maintain the relationship as it is.
He may really like you, but since you’re thinking of calling it quits, I think you should just ask him o…
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📅 Jul 13, 2025 12:18
How much do you think this businessman is actually worth? A papa (a male supporter) who was denied a mere ¥20 million bank loan… Apparently, he’s struggling with his cash flow after being turned down for the loan. The stress made him binge-eat sweets and gain 4 kg. When I asked him, “Why don’t you pay for it yourself?” he said he didn’t have that kind of money. Apparently, he also has over ¥1 million in unpaid tabs at a Ginza hostess cl...
💬 Answer from 横断歩道:
I’m also a business owner who struggles with cash flow.
Many successful business owners have gone through difficult times in the past. Conversely, even those who are doing well can go bankrupt in the blink of an eye.
You can’t judge someone that simply.
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📅 Jul 13, 2025 11:31
A papa who gets denied a mere ¥20 million business loan by the bank... Apparently, he was denied the loan and is struggling with his cash flow. Because of the stress, he binge-ate snacks and gained 4 kg. When I asked him, “Why don’t you pay for it yourself?” he said he didn’t have that kind of money. Apparently, he also has over ¥1 million in unpaid tabs at a Ginza hostess club. He supposedly goes there about twice a month just to order...
💬 Answer from アンディ:
I don’t know if he’s an idiot, but the previous owner may have had better management skills.
That said, I’ve seen people turn things around in an instant, so it’s impossible to say what will happen from here.
I’m not a banker, so I can’t say for sure, but maybe the plan was seen as impossible to recover the money from, rather than simply being a matter of the amount involved.
Besides, does worrying about that really accomplish anything? If he’s stingy with the allowance, j…
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📅 Jul 12, 2025 20:02
I’d like to hear about the events or things a woman said that made you promote someone you’d considered a secondary option to your favorite—and, conversely, what happened or was said that made you consider demoting your favorite woman. Also, when do men start feeling like things have gotten a bit stale?
💬 Answer from だて◎ゆめ:
First of all, I don’t have a side partner.
Also, I wouldn’t say we’ve fallen into a rut, but it’s nice that our relationship is stable.
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📅 Jul 12, 2025 10:06
The club arranges the first date, but after that, which person usually does the asking? I had assumed that the woman simply coordinates her schedule when the man invites her, but I’ve seen several people here say that the woman should be the one to ask, so now I’m curious.
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Since I’m seeing multiple people, coordinating schedules can get complicated, so I reach out and arrange everything myself.
Usually, at the end of a date, we tentatively set the next one. Then I coordinate with everyone else and contact them once the schedule is finalized.
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📅 Jul 12, 2025 09:31
I use both Universe and Patro. Sometimes I see discrepancies, like someone being Black on Universe but Platinum on Patro, or Gold on Universe but Platinum on Patro. Is there any reason for this?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
There’s probably no particular reason. The people and systems managing them are separate.
Even if they were managed by the same people, or even if Patro were the higher-class service, it’d still be lucky if Patro’s offer fees were cheaper.
And if there’s a gap and the cheaper one offers better value, that’s even luckier.
Changing the subject, I’ve recently started seeing Patro ads on Instagram. I’m hoping they’ll attract more female members.
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📅 Jul 11, 2025 03:51
This is my first post. I joined Universe Dating Club in June, and I’ll be meeting the woman I made my first offer to earlier this month. Does the club tell the woman about the male member’s rank when they pass along his offer? I was wondering because some women might react differently or be more guarded depending on the man’s rank.
💬 Answer from 負け男:
I keep my own class private when making offers.
Sometimes women ask things like, “What’s my class?” but I just reply,
“I’m not allowed to tell you under the club’s rules.”
By the way, the new girl I met today was completely Black in person, but her class was Gold. She was young and incredibly cute, too… Gold for someone like her?
> She was the girl who had another woman hold her hand when I helped her graduate from virginity.
I remember her. I’m jealous of how well Mac i…
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📅 Jul 10, 2025 14:48
What would be a reasonable allowance for an adult relationship through a dating club? I know it depends on the woman, but when a 19-year-old asked for ¥80,000, I was taken aback for a moment. She said that as long as I gave her ¥80,000 or more, she didn’t really care about extras like going out for meals. That kind of put me off, so things didn’t work out. Personally, I was thinking around ¥50,000–¥60,000 for an adult relationship plus ...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Allowances vary.
There are women like that from time to time, right? I’ve had women quote me 70,000 or 80,000 yen too.
I tell them my amount, and if that doesn’t work for them, we just part ways after I cover their transportation.
For some reason, I imagine younger, strong-willed women or women who seem like they work at a cabaret club will be expensive, so I don’t make them an offer. Alternatively, I’ll confirm the allowance beforehand on Patro and then make an offer.
Pe…
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📅 Jul 9, 2025 21:21
Is it true that Black profiles hardly get any offers?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
If black-class members didn’t receive offers, there’d be no reason for the black class to exist in the first place.
The black class exists precisely because it gets offers.
I do wonder how you know you’re black class if you haven’t received any offers, though. If no offers are coming in, perhaps you’ve been placed in the black class despite not being suited for it.
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📅 Jul 9, 2025 15:45
Question about how often to invite a man to meet My papa is married and lives alone during the week because of a work assignment away from home. I’m always the one who reaches out and asks to meet, and he agrees to see me. He’s also told me that it’s okay to contact him even if we don’t have plans, and—probably because he was tipsy—said he’d like to see me once a week. But since he has to pay my allowance and the hotel costs every time ...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
If we go by the idea that the person who wants to meet should be the one to initiate, it sounds like you’re the one who wants to meet more.
Since they said they’d like to see you once a week, I think you should stay in touch at a pace that allows you to meet once a week.
That said, this question is very similar to the one right before it. Could it be the same person testing how to make it look like they’re not the same person?
No, I may be reading too much into it—it could…
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📅 Jul 9, 2025 14:59
I confessed my feelings to someone I like, and he told me he wants to keep things transactional with me. He’s an older healthcare business owner. Does “I want to keep things transactional” mean exactly what it sounds like? He doesn’t want to date me, but he’s fine with continuing to see me—he just wants to keep things transactional. What do you honestly think?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
““What do you think?”” is a stock phrase used by someone who’s been obsessively hanging around here for a while. I assumed they were just studying the respondents’ behavior and that no one would answer, but someone actually did.
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📅 Jul 9, 2025 14:42
I currently receive ¥100,000 for each overnight stay when we meet. At first, I was only thinking about myself, so I was simply happy to receive that much. But the more often we meet, the more I’ve come to like him. Whenever we meet, he prepares various drinks and arranges a hotel, so I feel I must be putting quite a financial burden on him. I also understand that, since he’s married, he has expenses related to his family. If I told him ...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
> From a man’s perspective, which would make him more likely to want to meet: continuing to meet for the current allowance, or reducing the allowance?
You’re the one who knows the man in question. I think you should first carefully gauge his personality and what he does and doesn’t like before taking action.
There’s also a chance he’ll cut ties as soon as you bring up reducing the allowance, and you’ll no longer be able to see him.
So the safest option is probably to leave…