Even when I’m sufficiently aroused during an adult relationship (intimate) with my papa (a male supporter), penetration hurts every time. I end up writhing in pain whenever he tries to go deeper.

The best thing to do is consult a professional. Advice from amateurs is the most dangerous, since they may say something incorrect. That’s why asking a medical professional—the expert—is the best option. So if someone only wants to hear opinions from nonprofessionals, it seems like they’re merely conducting a survey or market research, not actually trying to solve the problem. Were you hoping to hear something like, “If you’re poisoned by pufferfish, burying yourself in the ground will cure you”? If you genuinely want to get better, of course you should ask a professional. The same goes for this Q&A forum. It’s useful because people who are actually involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), or who know about it, share their experiences. But if someone with no experience in papa-katsu just writes whatever comes to mind, it’s unlikely to be of any help.

Sorry for the male perspective. Apparently, my regular partner found me too well-endowed. The day after we were intimate for the first time, she started experiencing pain down there, so sex has been off-limits ever since. At her suggestion, we agreed that anything except penetration is okay. She takes care of me with her mouth or hands, and I finish either in her mouth or on her face. It’s enjoyable in its own way, so you could try suggesting: “You’re so well-endowed that I’m still sore down there no matter how wet I get. Would you be okay with using your hands or mouth instead, and letting me finish on your face or in your mouth?” There’s a good chance your allowance may be reduced, but it’s still much better than ending things.

I had ignored this as a prank post because, just 27 minutes after posting this question, the person also posted that they were “debating whether to ask a question.” However, since the next question is about to be published with an answer, I’ll respond. If the questioner doesn’t even have the sense to search online for “pain during sex,” I think they should consult a doctor. Not everyone experiences pain—two of my partners actually ask me to “go deeper” once they get into the mood. So being a woman doesn’t automatically mean you know how to solve this. If you’re uncomfortable consulting a doctor face-to-face, you could ask on AskDoctors instead. It costs money, but if you’re unwilling to spend a few thousand yen, perhaps it isn’t much of a concern to you in the first place.