As Mac-san said, I think most of the female respondents also enjoy their club activities.
If you think about it that way, can’t you imagine that there are probably very few female respondents suffering from pain during intercourse, even if the question is addressed to women?
You also say to ask women, but women generally don’t know how other women date.
For example, if you ask a woman during sex, “You get wet easily, don’t you?” she’ll usually say she can’t answer because she doesn’t know how other women are.
By contrast, men who have relationships with many women know from experience that some women start feeling pain quickly, while others don’t feel pain at all.
Of course, there are men who are good at it and men who aren’t.
A woman who starts feeling pain quickly may understand the pleasure of dating if she happens to meet a skilled man, but if she meets an unskilled one, it will only be painful.
But that’s nothing more than luck.
I’ve heard that even many adult film actors can cause pain.
Also, if the inside becomes sore during prolonged sex, the cause is usually a lack of lubrication, so I recommend having some lubricant on hand.
First of all, I don’t think amateurs should casually give answers in certain fields, especially when it comes to specialized matters.
Even doctors wouldn’t answer questions outside their area of expertise, and even a doctor in the relevant field wouldn’t casually advise a patient they haven’t examined. So I think this is a question that should be directed to a doctor.
Also, if you look at this Q&A site enough to complain about people nitpicking, you’ve probably noticed that there are virtually no women answering questions these days.
Among those nonexistent female answerers, the chances of finding someone who experienced pain during sex for the same reason as the questioner, found an effective solution, and can answer about it are close to zero.
In that case, consulting a doctor is at least more likely to help resolve the problem, so that’s what I recommend.
This answer is fully serving the purpose of this Q&A site.
I answer normally when the questioner doesn’t say anything that comes across as malicious. The reason this answer sounds the way it does is that I’m in complaint-handling mode.
Do you really think women who suffer from pain during sex would be answering questions here? This isn’t even limited to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so a site like Yahoo! Answers would probably be more appropriate. Bringing up a question like that in the first place makes it feel like they’re maliciously trying to say, “There are women who put up with painful sex, you know!” Why go out of their way to pick a fight? It’s disgusting.
For what it’s worth, among the 14 or 15 women I have monthly arrangements with, there are some whose pain during sex just won’t go away. One of them was a virgin when we met, and it’s been three years. I told her, “You’ll get used to it eventually,” but it hasn’t improved at all. After her first time with me, she had sex with two or three men who approached her through Uni-ba, but apparently it didn’t hurt with them. I guess it really does come down to thickness and size.
When the pain started getting worse instead of better, she went to a gynecologist and was told that the area around her cervix had become chronically irritated, almost like an erosion. The doctor apparently told her to discuss with her partner how to avoid hitting too deeply.
So I’ve tried to adapt as well. We use a missionary position with a pillow under her hips to raise her pelvis, and I insert very, very slowly—literally advancing about a millimeter per stroke. Once I’m about halfway in, I have her straighten both legs, and I hold her legs together with mine while we have sex. Half of my penis is inside, while the other half is more like rubbing between her thighs, which lets me finish somehow.
Why go to that much trouble? Because I like her, and she has cut ties with her other papas (male supporters) and left Uni-ba, so I assume she doesn’t dislike me, at least. She lives in the Kanto area and comes to see me about twice a month, traveling three hours each way. She has a stable daytime job and still lives with her parents, so it must be difficult for her. Her allowance is 50,000 yen plus train fare.
She went to an all-girls’ school and enjoys meeting women, so we often have threesomes. My policy is that no allowance is paid unless there’s penetration, so I first do about three strokes with her, then penetrate another woman from behind, have the first woman straddle her, and spend the time embracing and kissing her upper body until I finish. It feels good and makes me happy, almost as if I were having vigorous sex with the woman whose vagina hurts.
It’s not that I have sex because I want sex. I want sex because I like them. Even though it’s only a substitute, borrowing someone else’s vagina and feeling as if I’m having intense sex with her makes me happy.
There are two more women who have pain deep inside and only do the legs-straight, half-insertion, thigh-rubbing version of sex. Sometimes it doesn’t hurt, and when they say, “It doesn’t hurt today,” we high-five afterward or hug for a while.
Even if someone has pain during sex, I guess it’s no problem as long as she recognizes you as a good papa (male supporter) overall.
Anyway, what I really wanted to say is that even if a woman has pain during sex, she can still continue seeing a papa she wants to stay with. Because there’s love and money involved, haha. The woman who travels three hours to see me gets picked up at the station. As soon as she sees me, she presses herself against me, takes my hand, and clings to me without caring who’s watching. Honestly, I’d like to give her the 50,000 yen without penetration, but that would go against my policy.
Writing this made the naked woman who was sleeping beside me—the one who spent the night cuddling with me—come over and hug me. She never feels pain at all and can orgasm from deep penetration, so she doesn’t require much effort. But she’s wonderful in her own way. Everyone is different, and everyone is good as they are.
If a papa—or a boyfriend, host, or anyone else—keeps thrusting hard even after being told that sex is painful, then there’s no love there. To me, love means consideration for the other person, and money is also part of love. I hardly ever look at the women’s faces, but I’m sensitive to love. I don’t do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), or relationships between men and women in general, without mutual affection. That may also be why I’ve never been to a brothel in my life and have never felt the urge to go.
