Ideally, you would have the staff inform the man in advance.
However, this seems like something the staff can’t communicate due to the nature of the information. (They apparently can’t even tell him that you’re on your period, so I doubt they’d be able to explain this.) That makes going through the staff difficult, but since it’s information the man would want to know beforehand, I still think it would be best to consult the staff.
Then, if the subject comes up with the man, you could say something like:
“I did consult the staff about this, but it seems they didn’t pass the message along?”
or:
“I asked the staff about it, but they told me they couldn’t tell you.”
That way, it seems you could shift the responsibility to the staff.
You could also consider changing your dating type from C to B, but the staff would dislike a change before the date, and the man probably wouldn’t like it either. It could even lead to the date being canceled, so I don’t think that’s an option.
> How should I explain this so that the man will accept it?
I think you could simply explain what happened, but some men may feel uncomfortable if you share too much detail. As Kazu-san suggested, I think it would be best to say:
“I’m experiencing some irregular bleeding, so could we do this another day?”
Then, I think it would be a good idea to arrange the next date on the spot. That way, he won’t mistakenly think he’s being rejected.
P.S.
After reading Joe-san’s answer, I realized that while you can’t tell a man, “I can’t be intimate because I’m on my period,” you can tell him, “I’m feeling so unwell from my period that I can’t even go out for a meal.”
My apologies.
So when a woman tells me she’s on her period, I sometimes ask her something like, “Would even having dinner be difficult?”
Simply say, “I’m not feeling well, so could we reschedule for another day?”
On the other hand, forcing yourself to meet and then being unable to have an adult relationship (intimate) would probably leave a worse impression, and the arrangement likely wouldn’t continue.
Irregular bleeding or a yeast infection could also leave a bad impression, so I don’t think you should share unnecessary details.
That said, both are symptoms that shouldn’t be ignored, so it may be best to put papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) on hold for now and focus on getting properly treated.
I actually think this is a common concern for many women.
Men understand that an adult relationship (intimate) isn’t guaranteed 100% of the time.
But conversely, many men believe that if a woman is able to have an adult relationship (intimate), it’s only proper to do so once that day.
If she tells him after they’ve met, his disappointment can be significant, and even if she really is experiencing abnormal bleeding, he’ll often take it as an excuse to turn him down.
The club probably takes the position that it can’t tell men in advance, so it won’t appear to be facilitating prostitution.
For now, the important thing is to make sure it isn’t perceived as an excuse to turn him down.
That might mean agreeing on the allowance beforehand and making plans for the next meeting.
Mr. Maezawa says it’s difficult to let them know in advance, but I’ve received messages about periods several times in the past. Rules are rules, but my understanding is that some staff members may be able to accommodate you. It might be worth asking.
I think you should simply say, “I’m experiencing some unexpected bleeding, so could we reschedule for another day?”
If you take the initiative to arrange your next date, they’re less likely to misunderstand and think you’re just making up an excuse to cancel.
