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📅 Jul 9, 2026 22:05
I can’t fall in love with anyone. I may long for romance, but my feelings don’t follow. What kind of mindset do I need in order to develop romantic feelings for someone?
💬 Answer from フラーレン:
Fullerene here!
Is there really any problem with not being able to fall for him? I think you’re fine just the way you are!
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📅 Jul 9, 2026 12:04
I’m a married man in my 50s, and I’ve been seeing a papa-katsu girl in her 20s for dinner only—no adult relationship (intimate) so far. I give her an allowance of ¥100,000 a month, with taxis paid separately. We met through PATOLO at the B1 level, and it’s been 10 months. Since we both enjoy good food, we meet for dinner twice a month, spending at least ¥20,000 per person. Around our fifth date, she once reached for my hand. However, I ...
💬 Answer from 紙ひこうき:
If you’re thinking, “Am I just a meal companion to him??”
then you should make an offer to someone who’s B2 or above.
Men don’t like women who are only after their money, and women don’t like men who are only after their bodies. A B1 woman wants to move toward an adult relationship with a man who seems not to be interested solely in her body. So if, at the second meeting, you reveal that you do want an adult relationship but
> don’t want to rush into anything physical,
it…
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📅 Jul 9, 2026 12:04
I’ve been active in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for just under 10 years. Recently, I’ve noticed that around 10–20% of the women I meet for a first date wear pants, including jeans. It seems more common than it used to be. We usually meet at places like hotel lounges. I understand that some women may be coming straight from work and need to dress accordingly, but in most cases, when I ask, that doesn’t seem to be the reason....
💬 Answer from フラーレン:
It’s Fullerene!
I think you could simply tell her what kind of outfit you’d prefer, but if you deliberately chose not to, then you should blame your own lack of judgment for not picking a girl who’s your type, haha.
Sorry, but that part didn’t sit right with me!
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📅 Jul 5, 2026 22:24
Question about my papa’s possible attachment I’m wondering whether I should end things sooner rather than later, because if my papa’s feelings become too intense, I’m worried ending the relationship will become complicated. I’ve been seeing a papa for about two months, including an adult relationship (intimate), and he gives me a monthly allowance of ¥700,000. Apparently, he had relationships with various women for more than a decade, a...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
The question is whether the poster’s feeling—that the more time and money someone invests, the stronger their attachment becomes—is correct, right?
Generally speaking, that tendency may exist, but it depends on ① the papa’s financial situation and ② his personality.
At least when it comes to time, the papa is probably enjoying himself, so it doesn’t feel like a burden at all. In other words, it doesn’t necessarily lead to attachment.
The amount of money may seem shockingly…
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📅 Jul 2, 2026 21:35
Today, I upset my papa (a male supporter) over where we were supposed to meet for dinner. I’d really appreciate some objective feedback from those with more experience on what I could have done differently and how I should handle things going forward. We had arranged our second dinner date through Universe (the first had also included an adult relationship), and he had sent me the restaurant’s address. Since the restaurant started seati...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Unless he’s offering an exceptionally generous allowance, you have no other papas, or you aren’t getting any offers, I don’t think papa-katsu is worth doing if it means putting up with unpleasant experiences.
I’d say it’s perfectly fine not to make another arrangement and simply block him on LINE.
Even if you explain how you feel, he’ll probably get angry and only make you feel worse. So I’d just leave without saying anything.
Wait for an offer from a papa like Fuu—someone…
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📅 Jul 1, 2026 18:36
The other day, I saw a news report about an incident in Hyogo Prefecture where a male customer and a female employee at an adult entertainment establishment died. I did some research on my own into other cases at similar establishments, bars, and men’s esthetic salons, and it seems that conflicts between male customers and female employees aren’t all that uncommon. Does anything like this happen in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japa...
💬 Answer from 横断歩道:
The proverb “The pot calling the kettle black” came to mind.
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📅 Jul 1, 2026 14:17
What do women in their 20s who are unemployed and make a living solely through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) usually do once they reach their 30s?
💬 Answer from シアトル:
Women who can land a generous (well-paying) papa (a male supporter) in their 20s will probably be able to keep finding generous supporters—not just into their 30s, but for life.
It’d be great if they could save around ¥200 million.
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📅 Jul 1, 2026 01:35
I’m not comfortable with using saliva as lube. I get the impression that quite a few people use saliva instead of lubricant. I don’t mind it being used to help with lubrication during foreplay, but if they keep applying it during penetration, I end up feeling irritated afterward, which is really uncomfortable. I try to stop them by saying things like, “You don’t need to use that,” or, “Sorry, but it irritates my skin,” but it ruins the ...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
As Mac mentioned, I think it would be a good idea to buy and use the type of product you insert there right beforehand.
However, as Kazu also mentioned, there are men who may think, “Is she a sex worker—or someone with experience in that industry?” In those cases, it could affect your relationship afterward.
That said, I think most people won’t notice (although I feel it may be closer to a 60–40 split). So if you use it and they don’t say anything, it’s probably safe to ass…
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📅 Jun 30, 2026 00:50
I previously asked about my sincere papas having partial phimosis. After reading everyone’s answers and doing some research, I believe they probably have true phimosis. We shower separately, and I have them soak in the bath, but I just can’t get rid of the smell… There are two people like this, and one of them smells unbelievably strong. Since it retracts slightly while I’m licking it, I mistakenly thought it was partial phimosis. Thank...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
In papa-katsu, basic manners mean not making the other person uncomfortable and avoiding anything that would count against you.
That’s what makes a papa (a male supporter) sincere and gentlemanly, in my opinion, lol.
If he can’t even take care of his hygiene, he’s inconsiderate and oblivious to his surroundings—in other words, a papa who fails the test.
If he smells bad and you can’t stand it, I think it’s perfectly fine to end things. On the other hand, if you can put up …
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📅 Jun 29, 2026 18:56
When I go to a hotel with a papa (a male supporter) who is seeing multiple girls, would it be rude to ask that we always brush our teeth and shower before any physical contact? Alternatively, would it be rude to ask for no mucous-membrane contact, even if I accept a lower allowance? He works overseas and only comes back to Japan for a few days at a time. I assume he wants to see several girls during those few days. It seems he started p...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
Since user ixiXq-/ asks questions here so often, I think it’s about time they started answering some too.
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📅 Jun 29, 2026 17:50
I’m struggling with a man who has an uncircumcised penis. He’s a really nice person, and I’d like to keep seeing him. However, during intimacy, I find it quite difficult to go down on him because of his phimosis. Even just getting some of the fluid on my hand produces a very strong odor, which is honestly the only disappointing thing. Since he goes down on me, I feel like I can’t just tell him directly, and I’m unsure whether I should d...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Personally, I just can’t deal with odor.
If someone naturally smells, they’ll probably still smell even after a quick wash.
I’ve met someone who had an intimate odor, and we ended things without going any further. Even after washing, the smell was still there, so it was a no-go. I’d also be horrified if using my fingers made my own fingers smell.
Odor builds up over time, doesn’t it?
If someone doesn’t take care of themselves regularly, it might be impossible.
I’m glad…
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📅 Jun 27, 2026 23:07
Falling for a Woman You Met Through a Dating Club For men who use dating clubs, is it possible to develop feelings for a woman they continue seeing—feelings that go beyond merely agreed-upon terms or a transactional relationship? I’m currently seeing someone on an ongoing basis. I don’t have any major complaints about her; if anything, I think she’s a wonderful person. I believe there are many different kinds of “liking” someone. It mig...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
This is almost exactly what I would have asked. I’ve been thinking about the very same thing over and over for years, and I still haven’t found an answer. Would you like to grab tea together sometime? lol
There’s no doubt that I care about my monthly arrangement partners. But it’s completely different from being in love. I’m definitely not the type to become emotionally dependent or unstable.
If I had to choose one word, “love” is probably the closest. I want to protect the…
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📅 Jun 27, 2026 10:19
The first woman I ever made an offer to. It was our first meeting. We hit it off over dinner and moved on to an adult relationship (intimate). Things progressed, and while she was taking the lead, I said I wanted to put it in. She grabbed me and tried to do so without protection in the cowgirl position. Does this happen often?
💬 Answer from マックさん:
That woman almost certainly has an STI, so the person asking should get tested.
STIs don’t show up positive immediately. Unless you wait about two weeks after the possible exposure, you might test negative right away and mistakenly assume everything is fine.
HIV in particular would be devastating. That’s why I take Tafero, which I bought from Osaka堂, every day as a preventive measure. There’s one girl who has sex without a condom with me and says she doesn’t do it with anyo…
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📅 Jun 25, 2026 21:17
Are papas who try to pay your allowance as a salary or business expense being stingy? One papa has offered to hire me at his company and assign me simple clerical work, paying me a monthly salary of ¥300,000 plus ¥100,000 in cash allowance. He also says he’ll rent an apartment for me under the company’s name and let me use a car purchased under the company’s name. Is he being stingy? If we break up, I’d lose everything, so it would make...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
To determine whether he’s being cheap, you’d first have to define what “cheap” means.
What matters most is whether you can actually trust him.
If you agree to work for his company, you’ll have to hand over all your personal information, which could leave you vulnerable to blackmail later.
For example, he might say, “My accountant got suspicious, so could you wait until next month?” and then keep putting off your allowance for a couple of months. Once you start feeling that…
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📅 Jun 24, 2026 10:53
I’m probably ranked as either Gold or Standard, but is that because I’m not cute enough? I don’t get any offers at all. I don’t have much of a bust, but I’m very slim—almost skinny—and I think I’m pretty good at communicating. I’m currently wearing traditional braces on the front of my teeth; could that be affecting things?
💬 Answer from 日月新:
I looked over your profile.
I’m in a different region, but the area the questioner belongs to has a large number of female members, so there’s a lot of competition.
At present, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is a male-dominated market. However, because men are limited by both money and time, I think many can only meet a few women a week—or, in some cases, just one.
From the men’s perspective, it’s probably a matter of competing for slots—one or a few women per we…
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📅 Jun 23, 2026 19:32
I’m a female member. Has the club been running any campaigns for male members lately? I ask because, thankfully, I’ve been receiving more offers recently, and the men I meet through new offers all seem to be a type I’ve never really encountered before. It’s hard to put into words, but many of them seem inexperienced with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), in both good and bad ways. I’m wondering whether the club is running a camp...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Just my personal impression, but given the nature of this activity, I feel like both men and women tend to register for shorter periods rather than stay registered long-term.
That’s only my impression, though—there’s no evidence to back it up.
It seems like new users of both genders are always joining, especially since Patro appears to have broadened the entry point.
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📅 Jun 23, 2026 01:11
I tend to become dependent on people. There’s someone who currently likes me, but I can’t help doubting them. I’m always suspicious of people, and my lack of confidence has caused problems at work. Even when opportunities have come my way, I’ve turned them down because I didn’t believe in myself. When it comes to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I feel like someone would dislike me if they got to know me for who I really am ins...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
For women, being mildly dependent might actually be a good thing.
Too much can be exhausting, of course, but there are men who prefer someone a little emotionally needy.
As for whether you’ll be disliked, there’s no way to know, so why not try papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and see how it goes? I think some men actually enjoy being led around by their partner.
Personally, Fuu can’t deal with that. I prefer papa-katsu to be upbeat and fun, so emotionally needy pa…
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📅 Jun 22, 2026 22:29
I’m the person who asked about sex (blowjobs) on June 10. Thank you to everyone who took the time to answer. The way I worded my question was confusing, and it didn’t come across correctly. Since I hadn’t registered an email address or anything, I couldn’t add a clarification in a reply, so I’m posting this here as both a follow-up and an update. When I give him a blowjob, he lies on his back while I sit between his legs. The issue was ...
💬 Answer from カズ:
I don’t think there’s any point in asking something you’re so uninterested in that it takes you two weeks to reply.
I also don’t understand the assumption that cuddling and touching each other isn’t sex, or that you shouldn’t get him aroused just because there’s no penetration.
Rather than asking complete strangers, I think you should talk it over with the person involved.
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📅 Jun 21, 2026 22:19
A man I’ve met twice asked me to see him from now on under a plan of hotel → dinner → hotel. When I turned him down, he canceled at the last minute. After that, he said he’d lost interest because I rejected him, and asked why I had no stamina despite working out at the gym regularly. Even on our usual dates, he spends about two and a half hours at the hotel and has difficulty getting aroused, so I’m worried that this plan would last an ...
💬 Answer from アンディ:
They’re already saying they’ve lost interest, and the fact that they’re canceling at the last minute is reason enough to cut them off immediately. But you could also tell them exactly how you feel, then block them on LINE and say goodbye.
Time to move on to the next one!
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📅 Jun 21, 2026 11:01
He’s asking for my address. He said he’d like to send me some local specialties and asked me to give him my address. However, I’ve read posts here saying that no matter how close you become, you never know how things might turn out in the future, so it’s better not to share your real name or address. I’m worried he might take it badly if I refuse, though. Would he be offended if I asked him to send it anonymously instead?
💬 Answer from マックさん:
Although it says anonymous shipping, even if you have it sent to a convenience store or held at a delivery center, you still have to provide your real name and phone number, so your personal information will be exposed.
He’s a man you met through Univa since he’s a Univa member, right? How about saying something like:
“I’m really happy you feel that way! But I’m sorry—I have a policy of protecting my personal information. If you don’t mind, since we had such a nice connecti…