Female members can send reverse offers to male respondents they like by emailing the administrator to express their interest. Male members can learn which female members are interested in them by answering questions and sharing their opinions.
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📅 May 22, 2026 11:41
Is it okay to tell him how I’m using the allowance I receive for an adult relationship, or is it better not to? I’m a streamer, so I have a lot of expenses for equipment, supplies, and advertising. That’s why I joined this club and currently see just one person on a monthly arrangement. Since I started receiving the allowance, I’ve been able to buy equipment I couldn’t afford before, run ads, and get the supplies I need. I’m genuinely g...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
I think it depends on what the gift was for.
More importantly, though, why do you want to tell him?
If you simply want to show your appreciation, I think sincerely thanking him is enough—you don’t necessarily have to explain how you spent it. What matters isn’t so much what you used it for, but expressing your gratitude.
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📅 May 22, 2026 09:05
I’m the person who asked the question on May 21. Thank you all for your answers. Even after doing a lot of research, I still had some concerns, so I ended up asking. I’m also sorry that the way I phrased my question may have come across as unpleasant. I wrote it that way because I wanted to ask what I was wondering as directly as possible. I’ve also realized that I still have a lot of growing to do as a person. There are so many wonderf...
💬 Answer from カズ:
Oh, I see this is going to be made public.
It’s not that I was offended. I just thought you shouldn’t say things like that, because it makes you come across as unintelligent.
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📅 May 21, 2026 20:22
Nice to meet you. I went to an interview today and had some photos taken. I’m in my late 30s, and this is my first time doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Apparently, I won’t officially start until the end of the month or sometime in June or later, since there’s registration paperwork to complete. My basic stats are: - 156 cm, around 46 kg - More on the youthful-looking side (I’m told I look more mature with makeup, though ...
💬 Answer from カズ:
As I’ve said several times, unless you’re deliberately trying to stand out with that kind of persona, I’d avoid using words like “specs” and “demand.”
Beyond the content of your question, they make you come across as lacking intelligence.
If you were a girl barely in her twenties, I might chalk it up to being influenced by social media. But in your late thirties, it really doesn’t come across well.
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📅 May 19, 2026 22:43
I’m scared that I’m about to lose my monthly arrangement. We agreed to meet twice a month, and at first he saw me a lot, but this month he only met me once because he said he was busy. He did suggest having a phone call instead, though… His allowance is generous, and he’s handsome and kind. I like him so much that I almost wish he could become my real parent. I’ve been doing my best to keep him interested by wearing clothes he likes and...
💬 Answer from 片瀬(牝):
The fact that he suggested having a phone call to make up for not being able to meet makes me feel that you don’t need to be quite so pessimistic.
When a man is genuinely losing interest, he often tries to minimize anything that feels like a hassle. So the fact that he’s trying to make time for you in another way, instead of simply accepting that you can’t meet, may actually be a sign that the relationship has become more stable.
That said, I do feel that your anxiety may b…
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📅 May 19, 2026 20:20
I’ve ended up genuinely falling for a woman I met through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and I’d like some advice. It’ll soon be a year since we met. We’ve been in touch every day from the beginning, and she always replies immediately. She regularly sends me photos and updates about what she’s doing every few hours. Apparently, she doesn’t meet anyone else and insists that I’m the only person she sees. Her parents own a compa...
💬 Answer from フラグメーカー:
Instant replies, sending you photos every few hours without fail, telling you “you’re the only one”…
Isn’t that basically being completely hooked on papa-katsu? Would someone do that in a romantic relationship? We’re not high schoolers anymore.
To me, love is more about feelings than words or actions.
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📅 May 18, 2026 21:26
I’d love to hear everyone’s thoughts on relationships through an upscale dating club. I know everyone has their own approach, but I feel that to maintain a relationship over the long term, it may be necessary to spend some time deepening the connection—not just meeting for a meal and having an adult relationship (intimate). For example, going out together, meeting in a different setting than usual, or occasionally meeting in the evening...
💬 Answer from 福岡まさと:
People in these arrangements have all kinds of attitudes and expectations, so women who are a good match for you may be in the minority—but I’m sure they’re out there.
My condition for continuing is that the other person has genuine romantic interest in me as a man. In other words, I want to feel at least a little like we’re boyfriend and girlfriend. I proudly consider myself one of those relatively rare “delusional papas who dream of romance” (lol).
No matter how beautiful…
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📅 May 18, 2026 06:14
I’m a male member who joined six months ago, and I’d appreciate some advice about dating Type B women. I’ve gone on dates with women who are classified as B1 and B2, but things rarely progress to the next stage. I went on three dates with one B1 woman, but she told me, “I’m a B1 who’s as close to Type A as you can get. At this point, I have no intention of taking things any further.” With a B2 woman, we agreed on the allowance and arran...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
I usually only make offers to C-type women, but I’ve offered to B-type women twice in the past, and neither went any further.
B-type women tend to either:
- Become intimate if they meet someone they really like—meaning someone who offers a high allowance; or
- Even as C-types, hint at an adult relationship, keep you coming back for meals, and collect only the dinner allowance.
So if that’s the case, there are probably even more dinner-only girls among the B-types.
I don’t…
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📅 May 17, 2026 18:48
I registered the day before yesterday, but the staff seemed a little cold, and I was intimidated by their attitude, so I couldn’t really promote myself. They also told me that there were many girls with a similar vibe, so I might get lost in the crowd. I assume they meant that there are a lot of women in their early twenties, making the competition fierce. Is there anything I can do at this point?
💬 Answer from りんご先生:
I first signed up in my early twenties, too. Back then, the site didn’t yet have features for editing your profile or uploading photos, so I remember desperately trying to live up to the expectations of the people who approached me.
One thing I worked hard on was making sure I matched my profile. Profile photos are retaken every six months, so for now, try going on dates wearing clothes with a similar feel to what you’re wearing in your current photo, along with the same hai…
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📅 May 17, 2026 01:49
Once a papa (a male supporter) offers you a date, will his profile no longer show up in search after the date is over?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
We’d need to check whether the man’s profile is being hidden from the woman’s side.
If there’s any misunderstanding, it may be because men can choose to make their profile visible only to women they’ve sent an offer to. With this setting, the profile is visible for about a week after the offer, and then becomes unavailable.
It may seem like the profile is being hidden, but it’s actually only visible for about a week after the offer. So if there are two weeks or a month betw…
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📅 May 16, 2026 21:41
Could you tell me how likely it is to date a woman who does papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? Thank you!
💬 Answer from 片瀬(牝):
It probably depends on how you define “dating,” but if you mean a typical romantic relationship, I do think the chances are quite low, as everyone else has said.
That said, if you ask whether the chances are zero, I’d say they aren’t.
I’ve been active in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and have met all kinds of people. Among them, there have been a few I genuinely felt were special.
Having met and experienced so many different people is what makes you appreciate t…
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📅 May 16, 2026 21:23
I’ve been seeing a woman through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for about 11 months. Is that considered a long time? Also, we met for an adult relationship (intimate) the day before yesterday and yesterday, and she felt looser than usual during penetration. She says she hasn’t seen anyone else during the 11 months since meeting me, but I’d appreciate your thoughts. She apparently doesn’t want me to suspect that she’s been seei...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
“I want you to be mine alone.”
I can understand where that feeling comes from. But being controlling never does anyone any good. We papas have lived plenty of life already, but their lives are only just beginning. I hope you can give young, beautiful women the freedom they deserve.
Edit:
I’m dead 😂😂😂😂😂
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📅 May 16, 2026 14:42
I’m going on a three-day, two-night trip with a papa who loves to travel. It’ll be our first trip together. It all started when I became interested after hearing him talk about his travels and said, “I’m jealous—I’ve never been on a trip like that. I’d love to take a trip like yours someday.” From there, things progressed and we decided to go. We’ve been seeing each other for almost a year. We share hobbies and have great adult chemistr...
💬 Answer from 片瀬(牝):
What to be careful about really depends on the relationship you’ve built with your papa (a male supporter), so it’s hard to say for sure. I think it also depends quite a bit on how often you’ve been seeing each other over the past year or so and how much of your true selves you usually show each other.
So if you’re both still putting on somewhat of a front, it might be more peaceful not to force yourselves to reveal everything on your first trip and to keep a little of that …
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📅 May 15, 2026 17:02
Has anyone ever asked their papa (a male supporter) to cover the cost of cosmetic surgery for a body part they feel self-conscious about?
💬 Answer from 負け男:
I was busy with my “slave girl” this morning. Both the relationship and the training are going great.
I pay for cosmetic surgery separately from her allowance. If I have the money available at the time, I’ll cover the surgery even if she isn’t a monthly arrangement. One girl disappeared the moment I gave her money for breast augmentation, while another stayed with me after I paid for hers and she got a larger bust. My slave girl hasn’t had any hair removal yet, so I’ll proba…
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📅 May 15, 2026 09:28
I’m a university student, and this was my first Universe date. At our first café meeting, the man I met as a B2 type told me, “Since you take such good care of your hair, I can regularly send you money through PayPay each month for your salon and clothing expenses. If there are any clothes you want, just send me the URL and I’ll buy them for you. I can have them delivered to your home, or I can bring them to our next meeting after they’...
💬 Answer from 片瀬(牝):
On a first date, both people are often excited, so some men may say all kinds of nice things.
However, once they part ways and get home alone, they may calm down and suddenly feel that things moved a little too quickly. It seems there are quite a few men like that.
So when a man says things during the first date like, “I’ll pay for your hair appointment” or “I’ll buy you some clothes,” it may be emotionally easier to take those offers seriously only after the relationship h…
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📅 May 14, 2026 22:39
If I leave Universe Club, will I also be removed from PATOLO?
💬 Answer from カズ:
When leaving Universe Club, I think it’s best to clearly state what you want to happen with Pato.
Adding just a brief note can prevent misunderstandings, so I recommend doing that when you withdraw.
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📅 May 14, 2026 20:26
Nice to meet you. I’m in my 30s and will have been registered for two months soon. I’ve met four men so far. Because my child is still young, the amount of time I can make available each month is limited. So while I’d like to build a long-term relationship with one person, I’ve also lived in a very small world and would like to meet a variety of people. I’d appreciate your thoughts on my situation. There was someone who seemed to like m...
💬 Answer from 片瀬(牝):
It’s flattering that he likes you enough to want you all to himself, but you clearly told him from the start that you ideally wanted a straightforward, uncomplicated relationship, didn’t you?
Even so, someone who comes on strongly and tries to monopolize you may become even more demanding over time, so I don’t think you should ignore that feeling of discomfort.
If it were me, I’d say:
“I might consider it if the terms and relationship made me feel secure enough to willingl…
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📅 May 13, 2026 13:43
I’m in my mid-30s and my overall “specs” are just over 110. I don’t have a nightlife-industry look at all—I have more of a regular day-job appearance. My biggest concern is my age, but is it still possible that I might receive offers?
💬 Answer from マックさん:
Personally, I’ve only ever made offers to women in their 30s or 40s a couple of times—both were women who answered questions on this site. But a friend of mine was really into women in that age range for a while, and his only criterion was “as sexy as possible.”
I’ve met one of those women, and she has exactly what you’d call a “professional working-woman” look.
So as a strategy, maybe it would be good to have that kind of professional look while filling your profile with a…
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📅 May 12, 2026 12:57
What traits are popular among women these days? - Age - Appearance (refined, idol-like, youthful-looking, etc.) - Personality (affectionate, sincere, cheerful, easygoing, etc.) When it comes to appearance, I’m also curious whether men generally prefer women with the polished, surgically enhanced look often seen in the nightlife industry, or a more natural, everyday look with little or nothing done.
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Looking at the women who received the most offers last month, one stood out: she was a teenager with a natural, girl-next-door look, the kind of petite, slim build—just over 40 kg—that you might have seen in a girl group from years ago, and an F-cup figure.
Some people even wrote in their post-date feedback, “I was amazed by how good her figure was!”
However, much of the feedback after meeting her wasn’t particularly positive.
It seems to follow the usual pattern:
Looks a…
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📅 May 12, 2026 11:57
About Being Late I got the time wrong for dinner with someone I was meeting for the second time and ended up being 30 minutes late. I called and messaged him as soon as I realized, but he seemed really disappointed. Is there any chance I can turn things around? I’ve been doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for over five years, and this is the first time I’ve ever been late. I completely misunderstood the time, and I feel trul...
💬 Answer from 片瀬(牝):
How your partner takes it will probably depend a lot on whether you realized your mistake before or after the agreed-upon time.
That said, if this was your first time being late in over five years of doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and you called and contacted them as soon as you noticed, I think your sincerity probably came through.
Of course, being late isn’t ideal, but we’re all human, and misunderstandings and mistakes happen. What matters is how you han…
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📅 May 11, 2026 13:10
Have you ever become so deeply involved with someone that it nearly ruined your life? What made them different from everyone else? What kind of relationship did you have, and how did it ultimately end? I’m asking because I’d love to hear about a world that makes you think, “I didn’t know something like that existed!”
💬 Answer from フラグメーカー:
I’ve had two times in this scene where I just completely broke down crying.
It was kind of around saying goodbye, I guess. I didn’t actually say anything clearly—the tears just came first.
And no, it wasn’t just me. The woman I was with cried too.
I remember trying to take off her panties while crying, and her saying, “That’s not what this is about.”