When I go to a hotel with a papa (a male supporter) who is seeing multiple girls, would it be rude to ask that we always brush our teeth and shower before any physical contact?
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Alternatively, would it be rude to ask for no mucous-membrane contact, even if I accept a lower allowance?
He works overseas and only comes back to Japan for a few days at a time. I assume he wants to see several girls during those few days. It seems he started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) again last month, and there are already about five first-meeting reviews about him on the community message board.
Also, when we were arranging our next meeting, he said his schedule was packed, so he only wanted an adult relationship (intimate)—even though we had originally discussed dinner plus two hours. Maybe he’s meeting several girls in one day as part of a second-round screening of the ones he liked at the first meeting.
I understand that seeing multiple people is unavoidable, but the thought that he might be meeting girls one after another all day scares me.
Based on your experiences, could you please share any good ways to protect myself? 🙏
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> Would it be rude to ask him not to have any mucous-membrane contact, even if I lower my allowance?
Your allowance is already 20,000 yen, right? That’s practically the lowest rate—are you really going to lower it even further yourself?
I don’t think saying no to mucous-membrane contact is inherently rude, since everyone has different preferences. But if it was okay before and you say no this time, he’ll probably wonder why.
> I’m terrified that he might be meeting lots of other girls in a single day.
Whether it’s all in one day or not, statistically speaking, the more women he meets, the higher the chance of catching an infection.
If you’re scared, taking precautions is only natural. That would probably mean using condoms and taking preventive medication beforehand.
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It sounds like it’s the same person as always.
For me, it’s normal to shower and brush my teeth beforehand when becoming intimate with a woman. Are all the men around you really the kind who don’t do that?
I think you should simply tell him that you don’t want to continue unless he showers and brushes his teeth. It’s better to speak up when something makes you uncomfortable.
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Brushing your teeth and taking a shower are such basic things that it’s perfectly fine to bring them up.
And if something feels like too much, it’s absolutely okay to say you don’t allow mucous membrane contact so you don’t have to put up with it.
That said, if someone said that to me, I’d simply wish them well and say goodbye. I’d also reflect on the fact that I’d made them uncomfortable.
Hope this helps.
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So there are times when you do it without brushing your teeth or taking a shower? That sounds pretty rough.
Why not ask a woman who uses X to arrange back-to-back papa-katsu meetings at a manga café, bringing men into the room one after another and making a lot of money, how she manages it and what precautions she takes?
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