I feel like emotions can’t really be changed just by changing the way you think, so I think it might be best to make lots of offers and meet a variety of women.
If you meet around 1,000 people, you might come across someone who sends an electric shock through you.
But if you’re a man in your 20s, finding the money to make that many offers would be difficult too.
Maybe you just don’t feel that way toward women, but you do toward men… Perhaps that’s simply the kind of person you are.
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As for “What kind of mindset do I need?”—you need to understand that love takes many forms, and different people have different ideas of what it means.
You say you long for romance, but the kind of romance you’re dreaming of is probably just one of many possible forms.
You say you can’t fall for anyone, but you do have sexual desires, right? The whole process of dealing with those desires is, in a sense, the essence of romance. If you think, “I want to sleep with her,” then pursue her and end up doing it, that still counts as romance in the broad sense. You can’t climax while feeling nothing but disgust toward someone, surely. You just haven’t realized that, for a very brief moment, you did fall for someone. Stretch that moment out over a long period, and that’s probably the kind of romance you’re longing for.
Basically: don’t wolf it down—chew your food properly and savor it.
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If you’re seriously struggling with this, I think you’d be better off talking to a counselor instead of asking random older men on a site like this.
Take care.
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Are you a man in your 20s? I don’t know whether you’re just extremely popular or simply dealing with some kind of mental issue, but I understand how you feel.
I may like young, beautiful girls, but I’ve never had romantic feelings for them. I’m always able to stay calm. And because I stay calm, young, cute girls tend to feel comfortable around me—so it works out in the end.
When I do fall in love, the other person sometimes runs away. Maybe the same is true for you. If you develop romantic feelings for girls too quickly, they’ll become wary of you. As a result, you won’t be popular. So maybe you’re better off just staying the way you are.
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For Fuu, who falls for people so easily, I’m afraid this feeling is hard to understand.
Maybe you should meet and spend time with lots of different women, one after another.
Eventually, you may meet someone you click with—someone who shares your values and makes you feel comfortable and happy.
Even if you try to think it through logically, it really does seem to come down to chemistry…
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