I tend to become dependent on people. There’s someone who currently likes me, but I can’t help doubting them. I’m always suspicious of people, and my lack of confidence has caused problems at work. Even when opportunities have come my way, I’ve turned them down because I didn’t believe in myself.
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When it comes to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I feel like someone would dislike me if they got to know me for who I really am instead of just seeing my looks.
People compliment my appearance, partly because my skin looks good for my age. But I end up putting the other person through a lot emotionally.
Should I avoid papa-katsu until I can get my mental health under control? Would you be able to handle your partner’s emotional ups and downs, or would it just feel like too much work?
For women, being mildly dependent might actually be a good thing.
Too much can be exhausting, of course, but there are men who prefer someone a little emotionally needy.
As for whether you’ll be disliked, there’s no way to know, so why not try papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and see how it goes? I think some men actually enjoy being led around by their partner.
Personally, Fuu can’t deal with that. I prefer papa-katsu to be upbeat and fun, so emotionally needy papa-katsu isn’t for me—but everyone has different preferences.
You could write something like, “I’m a little emotionally needy—is that okay?” in your profile. I’m sure offers will come from papas who like that type ^_^
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If you’ve already built a certain level of rapport with someone, that’s one thing, but dealing with it from someone you barely know is just a hassle.
I believe compensated dating is something adults who can take care of themselves should engage in.
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> “I always end up doubting people.”
You should doubt people. Many misunderstand this, but doubting someone is really an attempt to get to know them.
“Trusting” someone is undoubtedly a noble thing… but what many people do in the name of “trust” is actually giving up on trying to understand others.
That isn’t “trust” at all… it’s indifference.
Many people fail to realize that indifference is far more contemptible than doubt.
Doubt isn’t evil.
True evil is becoming indifferent to others.
Doubt them. Doubt them, and look closely into what’s in their heart.
People often can’t put the things that hurt them most into words.
> “Should I avoid papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) until I can control my emotions?”
If your papa (a male supporter) likes you, a little emotional instability may be okay, but I feel that if it shows on the outside, it could lead to the relationship ending.
With that in mind, I think that regardless of papa-katsu, you need to be able to control your emotions to some extent in just about anything.
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I can somewhat understand how you feel. I don’t become dependent on others, but people often become dependent on me. I don’t trust women, so I always keep my distance from them. I see—I had attachment issues after all.
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That’s called an “attachment disorder.” It means having trouble gauging the right distance in relationships with other people.
If you ask AI, “What is an attachment disorder?” it can tell you about the symptoms, causes, and ways to cope.
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