The other day, I saw a news report about an incident in Hyogo Prefecture where a male customer and a female employee at an adult entertainment establishment died.
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I did some research on my own into other cases at similar establishments, bars, and men’s esthetic salons, and it seems that conflicts between male customers and female employees aren’t all that uncommon.
Does anything like this happen in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
Which do you think is safer: nightlife establishments or papa-katsu?
No one can say which option is safer. You never know which side might have someone who loses their temper and turns to murder.
In papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), there are countless potential troubles: women not receiving the money they were promised, or men assuming the next meeting would involve an adult relationship (intimate) only to be gracefully brushed off. If you consider those “troubles,” they’re the kind of problems that wouldn’t happen at a sex-work establishment.
As others have said, things are usually fine as long as both people follow the rules and keep their promises—and don’t make promises they can’t keep.
I may sound high and mighty saying that, but I’ve also had someone tell me a few days before we were supposed to meet, “I found another great papa (a male supporter)!” leaving me stunned, or gotten blocked on the day of the meeting and gone home in tears after eating tsukemen, of course.
That’s all.
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Risks are everywhere, and if you worry about them too much, you won’t be able to do anything.
Risk management is certainly important. If the risks outweigh the benefits, you should reconsider taking that action.
Personally, I feel that the benefits I get from being active in a dating club are dozens of times greater than the risks and other downsides, which is why I’ve continued doing it.
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Recently, there have been news reports about conflicts between female streamers and male fans, as well as between female girls’ bar staff and male customers.
Even online interactions can potentially lead to incidents.
Of course, being physically alone together carries obvious risks.
However, even when there’s some physical distance between the two people, things can still easily turn into trouble if someone uses flirtatious business tactics or romantic feelings to receive large amounts of financial support.
You sometimes hear attractive stories about monthly allowances of ¥1 million or even ¥2 million—but what are you giving up in return? It could put your life at risk or seriously damage your mental health.
They say nothing is more expensive than something free. In the end, that also applies when you pursue some kind of gain without fully understanding the price you may have to pay.
If you want zero risk, do nothing. If you want to reduce the risks, conduct yourself with moderation.
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There are all kinds of conflicts between men and women that never make the news, so I’m sure plenty goes on.
It’s an old example, but even “Don Juan of Kishu” was involved in something that was basically an affair—or maybe papa-katsu.
And in those old suspense dramas, rich men are often killed by their mistresses, who then take the inheritance.
When money and desire get involved, things are more likely to turn into incidents.
Whether it’s the sex industry or papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), things become a quagmire because money and genuine feelings bring out people’s greed.
If you keep it casual and have fun with as little risk as possible, there’s honestly nothing more enjoyable than papa-katsu!
That’s just my personal opinion, though.
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Trouble between men and women seems to make the news fairly often—not just between male customers and female staff.
So I don’t think there’s much point in comparing nightlife establishments with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Whenever men and women are involved, romantic or sexual feelings can sometimes lead to trouble, so it’s best to keep that in mind.
If you’re worried, you could choose to avoid interacting with the opposite sex altogether. At the very least, avoiding work that involves dealing with the opposite sex might keep you somewhat safer.
Also, nightlife establishments and papa-katsu aren’t mutually exclusive—you can do both at the same time. And, to begin with, working at an establishment is a job, whereas papa-katsu isn’t.
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The incident in Hyogo appears to have been a murder-suicide attempt in which a man stabbed a woman, but papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) doesn’t take place in an enclosed space, and there are usually ways to get away, so I don’t think things often escalate that far.
It reminded me of the saying, “Don’t count your chickens before they hatch.”
Something N? Shin wrote, “Nothing is more expensive than free,” got me thinking: whether it’s papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or the sex industry, ordinary relationships between men and women without any exchange of money may actually carry more risks than relationships involving money.
Of course, as N? Shin points out, there are also risks lurking behind excessively large allowances.
The incident at the adult entertainment establishment in Hyogo made the news because of the unusual and sensational aspect of it happening at such a venue. But if it had been a murder-suicide at the end of a romantic entanglement with no money involved, it might not have made the news at all.
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I’ve had a Type-A girl take the allowance up front and disappear while I was in the restroom, but I can’t imagine someone actually stabbing me or anything.
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No allowance: risk of the woman getting angry
Allowance paid: risk of the man getting angry
I guess that’s how it is.
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