Female members can send reverse offers to male respondents they like by emailing the administrator to express their interest. Male members can learn which female members are interested in them by answering questions and sharing their opinions.
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📅 Sep 30, 2025 20:38
I’m a woman in my late 30s. I’m interested in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but I’m in the 150-cm range and weigh 75 kg, so I’m pretty overweight. I’m only an E cup, too—there’s no way I could even register, right?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Without a cute face and a sexy vibe, I think it’ll be extremely difficult.
You’ll need to be prepared for the possibility of failing the interview—or passing but not receiving any offers. If you still want to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), why not come in for an interview?
Women have it tough in this age of lookism.
I’m glad I was born a man. If you have money, you can be with beautiful women, lol.
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📅 Sep 28, 2025 19:32
I’m going to meet a woman who’s open to a Type C arrangement. She lives fairly far away—about 40 minutes by bullet train—and when I offered to have her come to my area, she said she’d be okay with meeting in her hometown instead. So I’m planning to go there. Since it’ll be in the evening due to her work schedule, and I’m unfamiliar with the area, how should I plan the schedule—where to eat, the hotel, the time of the last train home, an...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
If you ask ChatGPT or Gemini, they can probably look it up for you.
Just make sure your prompt (instructions) is clear, then keep bouncing ideas off them and asking follow-up questions.
They can put together pretty good travel plans in chronological order.
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📅 Sep 28, 2025 13:36
I’m a man in my 30s doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). I have a question. There’s one woman I’ve been seeing on a monthly arrangement from June through September this year, but we’ve broken things off and gotten back together several times. The reason is that I’m possessive toward her. For example, I ask her to send me a photo of the clock as soon as she gets home after we part ways, or to delete her papa-katsu account. She...
💬 Answer from だて◎ゆめ:
Well, as long as you’re both having fun, isn’t that what matters?
I’ve been seeing my companion for a long time, but I’ve never placed any such “restrictions” on her. I haven’t actually checked, but it seems she goes straight home on her own after we part ways.
She says meeting an old guy like me is fun, but tiring（笑）
Since we meet every other week, it feels like she enjoys being tired, and she seems happy to come see me（笑）
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📅 Sep 26, 2025 22:39
With the rising cost of living, have you increased your transportation allowance or regular allowance?
💬 Answer from システムエンジニアの会員:
I haven’t changed it. Even if prices fluctuate downward, I wouldn’t negotiate for a lower allowance.
Ultimately, the amount is whatever both the man and woman can agree on, so I think it’s determined by the balance between them in practice.
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📅 Sep 25, 2025 12:35
I’m registered here while pursuing a career in entertainment. Recently, as my activities have started gaining momentum, I’ve been seeing cases where influencers registered with dating clubs are exposed and identified. I’m wondering whether I should ask about registering privately or under a non-public profile. If I do, under what circumstances would my profile be shown to male members? Also, since I live outside a major city, I imagine ...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
> Since you live outside a major city, registering with THE SALON may be difficult.
People involved in the entertainment industry in regional cities are often at a level where they don’t appear on TV. For those who work in entertainment but aren’t on television, I think it’s fairly common to register with their face blurred. If their face isn’t visible, they’re unlikely to be recognized from the women’s listings.
For celebrities who do appear on TV, they’re usually based in…
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📅 Sep 23, 2025 19:35
Does the club ever advise women that if they’re not interested in a man’s offer, simply staying silent is a way of declining? I’ve had nearly ten instances where I offered to meet a woman and received no reply even after two days. Since I don’t want to inconvenience the staff, I now withdraw the offer if there’s no response after one day. I imagine other male members probably handle it the same way. I understand that taking it in stride...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Since the club makes money when an offer is accepted, they probably wouldn’t go to that much trouble.
That said, some women may be viewing the men’s profiles after receiving an offer and then passing on them.
It’s also possible that the men’s profiles contain wording that raises a red flag.
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📅 Sep 23, 2025 14:57
I’m a Type C female member. Does it actually happen that the allowance doesn’t work for both sides, so things don’t progress to a hotel? So far, I’ve never had a situation where we didn’t go to a hotel—either I reluctantly compromise and accept less than my ideal amount, or the other person agrees to my terms.
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Before Patro came along, it happened fairly often.
Patro displays the allowance amount you’re looking for, and even with women who don’t list one, I message back and forth with them before meeting.
There was only one woman whose terms had been confirmed by message, but she canceled on the day, saying she wasn’t feeling well, and then blocked me. So I figured something like that can happen.
Before Patro, there were times when the terms didn’t match on the day of the meeting…
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📅 Sep 23, 2025 14:12
I have a question about situations where women categorized as Relationship Types C or D turn down an adult relationship (intimate). ① What do you do with the hotel you booked? Do you pay the same-day cancellation fee and go home, call an escort service, or stay by yourself? ② Does it feel like you’ve thrown the hotel money away, or do you consider the hotel cost part of the introduction fee? I’d appreciate your answers.
💬 Answer from Fuu:
There’s a love hotel I go to almost every week because it accepts reservations, so I’ve become a regular there. They normally charge a cancellation fee, but they let it slide with just one phone call, haha.
(I even have a favorite room, and they’ll accommodate my requests.)
The other Saturday, instead of our usual area, I went to Kinshicho for lunch at the woman’s request. Since it was already late, every love hotel was fully booked, and we ended up unable to get a room—it…
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📅 Sep 23, 2025 09:44
As the seasons change, do men feel more inclined to reach out to women whose profiles feature cosplay? Is cosplay okay even if you’re in your late 20s or early 30s?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
I guess you mean for Halloween?
Just like swimsuit or lingerie profile photos, cosplay might help you stand out too. I vaguely remember seeing a former maid café worker with a maid profile photo—probably a selfie.
You’d probably only get offers from papas who are specifically looking for something erotic, not from ordinary papas.
I’d rather date a normal, classy woman, get close to her, and then have her wear cosplay.
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📅 Sep 22, 2025 14:20
Hello, I’ve been a member of the club for eight years now. Lately, I feel that the appearance of the female members has been declining year by year. What do you all think? These days, I find myself hoping to meet a woman who surpasses the group of women I currently see on an ongoing basis.
💬 Answer from ダイ:
I think it depends on the questioner’s preferences.
I’ve been a member for seven years now, so I’m getting to be one of the longtime members, but I feel like there are more cute-type women around these days.
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📅 Sep 21, 2025 20:49
It’s been about two weeks since I signed up, but I haven’t received any offers. How long did it take for everyone else to get one? Is it possible to never receive an offer at all?
💬 Answer from ダイ:
I’m the type who asks the club various questions in advance before making an offer.
When it’s a woman who has just joined, I ask how many favorites she has and then make my own prediction about how many offers she’ll receive.
This is just my personal impression, but women with two-digit favorite counts tend to get offers you can count on one hand, while women with three-digit counts tend to get offers in the double digits.
Looking at how many men have added the person aski…
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📅 Sep 21, 2025 00:38
I’m Japanese and currently living overseas, outside Singapore. Am I eligible to register? If so, what kinds of date arrangements could I expect?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Without knowing things like where you live and how often you return to Japan, it’s hard to answer.
Rather than using a Q&A box, I think it would be better to contact the club directly through its membership application page.
To begin with, there’s no way to know whether you’ll even pass the membership screening.
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📅 Sep 20, 2025 21:14
I want to make it home by the last train, but my papa always comes by car and offers to drive me home. How can I turn him down gracefully? I told him I live alone, so I think he assumes it’s okay to come to my place. My home is much farther away than where we meet, so I’d really prefer to part ways at the station…
💬 Answer from マックさん:
>Let’s just tell him it’s your parents’ place.
No, I think she’s probably living with her boyfriend or a host.
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📅 Sep 18, 2025 14:35
I’m a papa-katsu beginner. How do you usually end things with someone you’ve been seeing for several months?
💬 Answer from ジョー・ルビコン:
I also joined in my 50s and have made plenty of mistakes along the way. Even now, I still haven’t quite mastered the art of a sophisticated arrangement.
That said—and I realize I’m speaking while ignoring my own shortcomings—don’t ask questions like this at 50. I won’t let you off just because you’re a beginner!
One of the best parts of an arrangement club is how you end things, so it’s a waste not to use your own brain to come up with a graceful exit.
For now, don’t be st…
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📅 Sep 17, 2025 21:33
After seven years of support, my papa’s genuine romantic feelings escalated to the point of being almost criminal, and I became genuinely terrified, so I ended things. He would lie in wait for hours at my nearest station and send me huge numbers of LINE messages every day. If I didn’t reply not only about scheduling but also to casual messages, he would question me, get angry, and sulk, asking things like, “Are you with your boyfriend?”...
💬 Answer from だて◎ゆめ:
Hmm…
Well, I did feel that papa (a male supporter) might have gotten a little too close.
In my case, we’ve continued seeing each other within the limits of what I can tolerate（笑）.
I’m not particularly eager to go shopping or out to eat, and the woman I’m seeing isn’t very proactive either, since she’s worried about being recognized.
We keep things discreet, seeing each other quietly and trying not to stand out around town. That seems to suit us best.
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📅 Sep 17, 2025 13:43
I’m going to my first first meeting for a date out of town. Is it correct to assume that the papa will cover my actual travel expenses (such as the bullet train fare) plus an allowance on the day? Also, how and when should I ask the papa to reimburse me for the actual travel costs? This is my first time, so there’s a lot I don’t know. Any advice would be appreciated.
💬 Answer from ダイ:
I think a lot of men see it as actual transportation costs plus a support payment (allowance).
That said, you should be clear about your own stance.
1. You want to properly negotiate the allowance.
2. You simply accept whatever allowance the man offers.
If you’re the first type, don’t ask here—negotiate directly with the man.
If you’re the second type, there’s no need to worry about submitting an exact transportation-cost claim.
A decent man will probably calculate somet…
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📅 Sep 17, 2025 12:44
I’m in my 30s and doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). There’s a woman I see regularly, and I’ve genuinely fallen for her. I’ve told her how I feel. She says that since she’ll be living on her own at the end of October, her feelings about seeing me in an allowance-based relationship won’t change until then. But she’s even told me that after that, we could become a couple. Is there a chance everything she’s saying is a lie?
💬 Answer from だて◎ゆめ:
I agree with this to some extent!
For now, I think it’s best to continue seeing her while still giving her an allowance.
If, over time, she starts returning the allowance, then that’s fine too, isn’t it?
The real issue isn’t the allowance—it’s whether you can continue the relationship with her.
Just don’t expect too much from the start!
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📅 Sep 17, 2025 06:59
Question: My papa (a male supporter) paid off a debt for me upfront. I’ve told him I don’t have romantic feelings for him, but he wants us to date and eventually get married. I’m not sure when yet, but I’m planning to relocate for work. I’d like to fade out of the relationship without causing trouble, without mentioning the move. How should I tell him?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Are you trying to pull an “itadaki joshi” on him? lol
If your papa really took this seriously, it could become a criminal matter.
Before thinking about fading out, you’d probably need to keep seeing him until you’ve repaid the amount of the debt, or he might completely lose it.
Why not do papa-katsu with other people too and use that money to repay what he covered for you? You could say, “I’ll see you for a few months with no allowance until I’ve made up ¥___, then I’ll p…
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📅 Sep 16, 2025 14:34
The papa (a male supporter) I regularly see has a birthday coming up, and we’re planning to meet. Since he’s a company president and can buy himself pretty much anything, I’ve been trying to think of a gift but still can’t decide. For the papas (male supporters) here, is there anything you’d be happy to receive from your PJ? I’d love to hear your suggestions for inspiration.
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
I think it would be a good idea to ask them what they want, but people usually buy the things they want when they want them. So if they don’t already have something, it probably means they don’t want it that badly—or it’s simply too expensive for them to buy.
That said, if you ask around, you’ll probably get some general categories. From there, you could choose something within your budget that shows good taste or makes them think, “Oh, wow,” and give it to them as a gift.
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📅 Sep 16, 2025 14:24
I apologize for asking this question in English. My Japanese is poor, and this is what my question is about. I am a foreign man from the United States and I am considering joining Universe Lounge in Tokyo. Is it possible to do so even if I don't speak Japanese? Are women at the club interested in foreign men? What about foreign men who need to communicate via a translation app? Thank you.
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
I was only planning to display questions written in Japanese, but since this one has received an answer, I’ll make an exception this time. I probably won’t display them next time, though.
I’d like to say, “Use the language that can convey your intentions most clearly,” but unlike Golgo 13, I can’t speak nearly 30 languages, so please use Japanese.
Incidentally, when I searched for the phrase above, I came across a page from the Ministry of Health, Labour and Welfare. I reme…