I’m in my 30s and doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).

I agree with this to some extent! For now, I think it’s best to continue seeing her while still giving her an allowance. If, over time, she starts returning the allowance, then that’s fine too, isn’t it? The real issue isn’t the allowance—it’s whether you can continue the relationship with her. Just don’t expect too much from the start!

Are you a 30-something attention seeker who keeps posting questions that are really just humblebrags about how you can only date through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? But if she’s been having sex and getting paid until now, then suddenly being told that’s no longer necessary would probably make her lose interest. There’s no downside for her in simply saying it. Once she’s saved enough for her own place, she can always stop responding anyway. You should remember that the arrangement only works because she’s at least willing to be intimate with you in exchange for money. Forget that, and you may end up learning the hard way. You’re the only one who’ll get hurt, so don’t get your hopes up. It would probably be better to date multiple people and spread out your feelings.

> Could it all be a lie? I think there’s a possibility that this entire question is a lie. Isn’t that what you mean? I think anything is possible, regardless of the details. Even if you found that out, though, I’m not sure what you could do about it. It’s not zero♪ It’s not zero♪ It’s not zero~♪

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There’s a 99.9% chance she’ll say she’s moving out on her own, get money from you, and then disappear without a trace. You might as well bet on the 0.1%. That could be an interesting experience too.

It’s unlikely that everything is a lie, but it’s also unlikely that everything is true.

The question is basically about “me being genuinely in love” and “whether she’s lying.” But can the questioner really say that his “genuine love” is 100% true? If he meets another woman tomorrow whom he likes more and his feelings for this girl fade, wouldn’t that mean his “genuine love” was a lie? In the same sense, it’s impossible for everything to be a lie. She may be lying now, but perhaps she’ll change her mind tomorrow and come to like him. People’s feelings are uncertain. That’s why neither “everything is a lie” nor “everything is the truth” really exists. It’s similar to the idea that every good person has some bad points, and every bad person has some good points. And no one knows what the future holds. The only certain things are that, right now, the questioner is infatuated with this woman and dreaming about a future together—and that, at least for now, she says they’ll be able to date starting at the end of October. He can keep dreaming until the end of October. What happens after that, no one knows. Why worry about whether she’s lying and deliberately ruin the dream for yourself? Enjoying that dream—that’s what papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is all about. If late October comes and she messages him, saying, “I’m sorry,” he should simply accept that perhaps a better man than him came along. He should never get angry or depressed by convincing himself that she was lying from the very beginning. “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” These are words spoken by a dying woman to a man in the movie Love Story. They mean that if you truly love someone, you don’t want to hear them apologize—you want them to know they don’t have to. The original Japanese translation at the time was, “Love means never having regrets.” Not just when a woman involved in papa-katsu leaves, but whenever you’re left alone by a woman, being the kind of man who can naturally murmur that phrase to himself is pretty cool. It will probably make your life richer, too.