After seven years of support, my papa’s genuine romantic feelings escalated to the point of being almost criminal, and I became genuinely terrified, so I ended things.

Hmm… Well, I did feel that papa (a male supporter) might have gotten a little too close. In my case, we’ve continued seeing each other within the limits of what I can tolerate（笑）. I’m not particularly eager to go shopping or out to eat, and the woman I’m seeing isn’t very proactive either, since she’s worried about being recognized. We keep things discreet, seeing each other quietly and trying not to stand out around town. That seems to suit us best.

You really put up with that for seven years. You should’ve turned him down and ended things when he first asked you to stay over. Maybe putting up with too much isn’t a good thing. You’re basically a bad-papa factory. Maybe you’re doing too much and giving too much. If papas don’t stick around, maybe there’s something wrong with the adult relationship—or maybe you’re not appealing enough. If a papa is seeing multiple papa-katsu women, he’ll compare you with the others and go with the one he enjoys more.

I don’t have any particular thoughts about the questioner’s papa (a male supporter). But I do have quite a few thoughts about the questioner, who says it’s gotten to the point of making them mentally unwell. I think they’re probably already struggling. That’s all.

It’s been a while since we’ve had such a good question. > I’ve connected with all kinds of people, but honestly, the only ones who stick around are those with an extremely high emotional burden. > The easygoing gentlemen aren’t seriously in love with me, and they seem to have other partners too, so after meeting a few times, they lose interest and things naturally fizzle out. This ↑ is exactly it. I know full well that women tend to want to keep some distance from their papas, so I keep my distance from them as well. But when I do that, I can’t really get invested either, so basically, I sleep with them once and that’s the end of it. Having H a second time is genuinely rare, which is why I’ve ended up with nearly 200 offers through Universe Club. The woman I slept with last week was truly beautiful—I’d say her looks scored over 70—but I’m really struggling with whether to have H with her a second time. By contrast, the Type A woman in her teens I’m currently most invested in got incredibly close from the very beginning, and she came to my place on our second date. Since she’s Type A, we haven’t even held hands, but I really enjoy and appreciate this sense of closeness. It creates a kind of pseudo-romance, and she instantly became my top monthly arrangement. My ideal situation is: - Even if I fall seriously for a woman, I keep an appropriate distance. - The woman closes the distance with me, even though I’m maintaining an appropriate distance from her. ★ Mack That’s impressive. I have nothing to say in response. I agree about the two-year timeframe. Once something continues for around two years, you gradually start to develop feelings. I don’t know how she feels, though. The part about “an appropriate distance” made me laugh（笑） You’re absolutely right（笑）

If the terms don’t work for you, you should let him go sooner rather than later. It’s impressive that you managed to keep it going for seven years. I have mixed feelings about your papa (a male supporter) too, but making sure they don’t genuinely fall for you is also part of the skill.

Even if someone asks, “What did you think after we parted ways?”… This isn’t a place for small talk. At first glance, it looks like a question because it has a question mark, but it really just comes across as casual conversation.

> What do you think of this papa? They write “comparable to a crime,” but I don’t think it actually is a crime. Isn’t “comparable” being used incorrectly? Also, they say “terrified to my core,” but “disgusted to my core” seems more fitting. I sometimes write things like, “One-sided romantic feelings can be a form of psychological violence toward someone who doesn’t feel the same way—especially a woman.” But in this question, “comparable to a crime” makes the guy seem unfairly accused. It’s like an old-fashioned office worker being denounced by a young female employee for sexual harassment. For that matter, was this really a case of genuine romantic feelings? The questioner’s disgust seems so intense that it feels like they simply labeled a papa immersed in a pseudo-romantic relationship as a guy who had genuinely fallen in love. The reason I get that impression is the phrase “comparable to a crime.” We should be careful with our wording. “On the verge of mentally breaking down” sounds odd too. If he was really going to break down, he probably wouldn’t have held out for seven years. And since he didn’t actually break down, it’s unclear whether he was ever “on the verge” of it in the first place. Writing becomes more convincing when you calmly stick to the facts. Clumsy exaggeration has the opposite effect. > To Mr. Loser It’s not my ideal, but this is basically my routine: - I absolutely never genuinely fall in love with women. I don’t think I’ve ever been in love in my life. It’s not that I maintain an appropriate distance—insertion is what I consider the “appropriate distance.” - Sometimes it seems as though a woman is trying to close the emotional distance with me while I’m at that “appropriate distance” (that is, while we’re having sex), but I’m not interested. However, if we continue maintaining that “appropriate distance,” I naturally start to develop affection for her and become more like a paternal protector. I actually like that kind of emotional distance. So, in my case, I’ll just have sex with her casually at first, and if things continue somehow, the relationship only really begins around the second year. Rereading this, don’t I sound pretty manly? lol You can’t really understand a woman’s feelings—or anyone else’s, for that matter—and she might change her mind tomorrow. Don’t agonize over something so uncertain. If you like a woman, just sleep with her for now. Whether you win her over without money or spend money on her doesn’t make much difference. I guess it takes about two years before you can finally start to see what’s beneath the surface of someone’s feelings. Even then, when it’s time to cut things off, I do it cleanly. But cutting off someone like that feels like severing my own affection, a part of myself, so naturally it hurts to some extent. “Whether you like me or not is irrelevant. I’m sleeping with you because I like you. So stop arguing and just spread your legs.” Put simply, that’s my attitude. To get back to the questioner’s situation, I don’t know whether I’m a gentleman, but even without being a papa who genuinely falls in love, it’s perfectly normal for things to continue for years with someone you see four times a month. > The easygoing gentlemen aren’t genuinely in love, and they seem to have other partners too, so after meeting a few times, they get bored and things naturally end. That’s probably a question of financial means. I have more than a dozen women I meet and have sex with at least four times a month. Maybe the questioner simply hasn’t met a papa like that, hasn’t been someone he took a liking to, or perhaps she’s been avoiding them herself. Every now and then, there’s a girl who hears that I have several monthly arrangements and jumps to the conclusion, “Then there’s no room for me to get involved.”