I’m a man in my 30s doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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I have a question. There’s one woman I’ve been seeing on a monthly arrangement from June through September this year, but we’ve broken things off and gotten back together several times.
The reason is that I’m possessive toward her. For example, I ask her to send me a photo of the clock as soon as she gets home after we part ways, or to delete her papa-katsu account. She follows through on these things without me even having to say anything.
Honestly, I imagine my possessiveness must be difficult for her, but she still hasn’t cut ties with me and our relationship continues.
Could she really put up with that much just because she receives money?
Well, as long as you’re both having fun, isn’t that what matters?
I’ve been seeing my companion for a long time, but I’ve never placed any such “restrictions” on her. I haven’t actually checked, but it seems she goes straight home on her own after we part ways.
She says meeting an old guy like me is fun, but tiring（笑）
Since we meet every other week, it feels like she enjoys being tired, and she seems happy to come see me（笑）
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Is this another installment in the fictional series about the guy in his 30s doing papa-katsu?
Are you the same questioner who kept posting that you’d really date him if he rented you a place? Or am I mistaken?
Normally, a woman would just block a papa (a male supporter) that troublesome and be done with it.
Even in a regular relationship, most people would break up if things went that far.
Unless your allowance is exceptionally generous, that is...
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You say, “We’ve broken things off and gotten back together several times,” yet also say, “We’re still together and he hasn’t cut me off even now.”
Does that mean you have a convenient mind that makes you forget the times things ended to the point that they disappear from your thoughts?
If so, since you’ve forgotten the unpleasant parts, isn’t it fine to continue believing that you’re simply putting up with things because you receive money?
You don’t remember the unpleasant parts in between, after all. Believing that is what makes you happy.
To begin with, it’s not normal for things to end and restart repeatedly in just three months, from June to September. I think you should at least properly acknowledge that you’re in an abnormal situation.
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That’s really a matter of matching personal preferences. Some people enjoy being possessively doted on, while others feel that “there’s no fun in being possessive toward someone who likes it.” People are all different.
And just because someone enjoys being kept in check doesn’t mean they’re actually faithful or compliant. They may quietly have other papas or friends-with-benefits on the side.
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