Four times a month? No way, that sounds awful.

Even if you spread things out, if you’re still meeting a different papa every week, I feel like it doesn’t really make that much difference. The ideal is probably women in their 20s to 40s who are students or work daytime jobs, and whose monthly cycle of adult activities is something like: boyfriend, fuck buddy, papa, papa, period. lol If they don’t have a boyfriend or a fuck buddy, they don’t have much experience and it’s not as fun. And if they make their living through sex work plus papa-katsu, that’s a bit of a turnoff. If I’m their only papa, it puts too much pressure on me, so ideally there’s another generous, reliable papa, while Fuu is more of an easygoing backup option. That balance feels just right. With this setup, women who look a little refined and innocent, but enjoy adult relationships, are sensitive, and take the initiative gradually become Fuu’s monthly arrangements. And if they’re especially tight, we end up seeing each other more often. lol When they tell me things like, “I want to see you again,” or “I really finish easily with Fuu because we’re so compatible,” it also satisfies my need for validation. They’ve been saying that a lot lately, so I’m having way too much fun. Of course, I know that about half of what they’re saying is really directed at Eiichi (Yukichi). lol I understand that.

I think it’s because you haven’t met a good papa (male supporter) yet.

Speaking purely from my own perspective, meeting four times a month isn’t necessarily “too much” for me. However, at that frequency, I can’t help wondering whether I’d be able to keep things feeling fresh and continue engaging with my partner without letting them get bored. To be honest, I don’t have enough confidence in my own ability to manage things that well, so if we’re talking about a long-term arrangement, I have to admit it would be somewhat difficult. The more often you meet, the more the relationship inevitably starts to resemble “everyday life.” Some people enjoy that, while others feel more comfortable maintaining a certain distance. Neither is right or wrong—it simply comes down to compatibility and personal style. I understand wanting to “spread things out,” and there’s no need to force yourself into the same arrangement as someone else. That said, depending on what happens in the dream, the story might change a little. If, for example, an allowance in the hundreds of millions of yen suddenly appeared in your dream, that would certainly make for an enjoyable dream—and waking up probably wouldn’t be so bad either. In the end, I think what matters isn’t the number of meetings, but finding a comfortable distance that you can maintain without overextending yourself. I feel that the most important thing is to value a pace that feels comfortable for you. P.S. Mr. Makeotoko, Thank you as well for your thoughtful message. Please forgive me for taking so long to introduce myself. I had read your answers for some time, but since I only participated sporadically and on a whim, I never properly introduced myself. I may continue to participate only when I feel like it, but I look forward to interacting with you. Further P.S. Paper Airplane, Thank you for your thoughtful reply and your kind words. Since I wrote it while reflecting on myself, there may have been some shortcomings, but I was genuinely happy to read your message. Your comments gave me something to think about again. To be honest, I believe I used to assume that “keeping things fresh” was something the woman should be concerned with. However, when I ask myself whether it should therefore be something the man has to shoulder unilaterally, that doesn’t feel right either. Having been prompted to reconsider it this way, I now feel that it isn’t something for one person alone to work at. Rather, it’s something the two people nurture together while meeting each other halfway. At the same time, I also understand your view that, when it comes to what is naturally expected of a woman receiving an allowance, it makes sense for her to want to leave early and not meet too often. Seen that way, perhaps there are many situations where the person who wants to meet—in other words, the man—has to make the greater effort. My phrase about “not letting him get bored” was hardly as admirable as it may have sounded. Embarrassingly, it simply came from my fragile fear of being dumped. If the relationship is going to continue, I naturally want to treat it with as much care as I can. It was very enlightening to hear the male perspective as well. Thank you again, and I look forward to speaking with you in the future.

There are tons of them, though. I know a girl who was intimate with someone as many as 15 times a month. Even now, I’m intimate with just under ten women at least four times a month.

Four times a month is quite a lot. I’m not saying it’s impossible, but no matter who it is, you’ll get bored of each other—and they’ll get tired of you too. I have around ten papa-katsu partners. I see the one I meet most often three times a month, while the one I see least often only once a year. Even with my closest monthly arrangements, I wouldn’t want to meet four times a month. I have work to do, after all. The right frequency is one that leaves you wanting to see each other again.

I personally couldn’t do four meetings a month with the same person. Even if I were asked, I’d turn it down, lol. That said, I’ve had someone come stay over twice a month, so it ended up being four meetings a month in total. It really depends on the person, but if you’re looking for a generous allowance, it might be worth considering. To avoid any misunderstandings, you should probably state clearly in your profile that you absolutely can’t meet four times a month. Hope this helps.

The person asking the question clearly wrote: “I want to receive a large number of offers.” “I’m tough, so I’m confident I could handle even 100.” Did you not read the question properly? Or are you just someone who wants to nitpick the answer, regardless of the context? I was going to hide this since it isn’t actually an answer to the question, but considering you send weird messages even after being told not to post anything unrelated to the question, maybe you’re not very good at Japanese. My condolences.

There are arrangements where you meet four times a week—or even seven. I’ve also had a situation where, after meeting on the first day, we continued seeing each other for five days straight… Whether you’re the woman or the man, I think it really depends on the other person. Even on my side, I wouldn’t be able to meet that often unless I really liked her. There are very few women I’d want to see a third, fourth, or even fifth time, so I imagine it’s the same for women. There are all kinds of papas and women… Some papas think, “I’m giving her an allowance, so…” Others genuinely want to please a woman who enjoys being of service. Some people—both men and women—want something in return, while others don’t. Everyone is different… Edit: > Whether you can always keep things feeling fresh, and continue engaging with your partner without letting them get bored Are these things something men expect from women? Or are they things men should be doing themselves? When it comes to what’s expected of a woman receiving an allowance, I think it’s only natural for her to want to go home early and not meet too often. I don’t believe there’s any woman who can keep a man from getting bored. If she feels comfortable with him, she’ll simply want to see him again soon—and I think that depends on the man. Personally, I’m not comfortable with the idea of “keeping him from getting bored,” or with the kind of hospitality you get at a lounge or cabaret club—providing a service in exchange for compensation, or trying to please him just because I received an allowance. This is Paper Airplane, and since the beginning of the year I’ve been going on dates with the same girl every day. Ms. Katase, Thank you, as always, for sharing such valuable insight as a female member. I’m sure many female members have been helped by your thoughtful and compassionate answers.