I’m currently seeing six men through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and I’m enjoying my relationships with them.
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There’s just one man who makes me feel extremely shy whenever we’re intimate. I feel bad about being so shy, but whenever our faces get close, I instinctively look away or cover my face with my hands. I can kiss him, but when we’re facing each other, my shyness takes over. Each time, I tell him, “I’m embarrassed,” and ask him to approach me from behind.
I enjoy being intimate, but I worry that being so shy is making him uncomfortable, and I feel bad about it. I would really like to improve, but I just can’t seem to get used to it. With my other papas, I gradually became comfortable over time, although the degree varied.
From a man’s perspective, how would you interpret this kind of reaction? Also, if you have any suggestions for easing these feelings of embarrassment, I would appreciate your advice.
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Women who are shy are perfectly capable of getting aroused.
Among my monthly arrangements, there’s a college girl who gets completely naked right away, and I’ve never felt excited by her. We keep seeing each other because she’s fun to be around, and we’re close enough to joke about whether we’ll end up becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, but we’re not quite that close.
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Oh, is it because you like Fuu’s face? lol
If it’s not something negative, like finding your face unattractive or hard to look at, I think you should just talk to him about it.
Why is it fine with the other five, but not with you? I’m really curious about the reason.
A moderate amount of shyness can add to the excitement, but having someone be embarrassed the whole time might get a little tiring.
If it can be solved by simply turning off the lights or something, it seems best to talk it over and find a solution together.
If it were me, I’d use a blindfold or cover my face with the sheets. I like the rear-entry position, so I’d focus on that.
Or, simply close your eyes only during the missionary position—that just occurred to me at the end, though…
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With a papa who has low self-esteem, if you turn your face away and say you’re embarrassed, he might misunderstand it as, “She really doesn’t want to look at my face. She must be closing her eyes and thinking about another man.” So be careful.
One effective way to reassure him is to look intently at his profile when you’re sitting side by side, rather than facing each other, and clearly say, “You have such a beautiful profile. I got completely absorbed looking at you.” You can see your face from the front in a mirror, but you don’t get many chances to look at your own profile. So when someone tells you, “You have a beautiful profile,” you can’t help thinking, “Really?”
This applies to men as well as women: it’s important to openly compliment people on their good points.
In other words, I guess my attitude is: your mouth and your pussy are free to use, so use whatever you can turn into money, keep the economy moving, and create wealth.
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Maybe it’s just that one guy—either he keeps the lights on or stares at you, and his face is kind of creepy.
I think it’s fine to keep doing it the way you are now, either with your eyes closed or from behind.
I wasn’t comfortable being stared at either. I preferred it when they kept their eyes closed—I felt bad for them. A dental hygienist I saw in the past stared at me intensely, so I covered my face, and it ended up becoming dinner only.
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I don’t really understand why you’d feel embarrassed with just one person when you don’t feel that way with the other five.
Normally, I would think you’d either feel embarrassed with everyone or not at all. So if that’s not the case, does it actually mean that you don’t want to look at that person’s face specifically, rather than feeling embarrassed?
I’m not quite sure what the situation is.
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