I’ve gone out to dinner several times with a woman whose dating-club type is B2.
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I feel like we’ve grown fairly close, but she keeps saying she’d like to get to know me a little better first, so things haven’t progressed to an adult relationship. We’ve had dinner only at least five times now.
Do you think she’s actually interested in moving things forward?
I could understand it if she were B1 or A, but I’m wondering why she chose B2. Are many women in category B not looking for an adult relationship? I’ve encountered someone similar before, so I wanted to ask.
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At B2, meeting a second time for dinner only causes trouble for the other members—both men and women.
I think it would have been better to part ways when you were discussing the second meeting over LINE.
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The fact that you’ve had dinner together five times shows that you’ve been approaching her sincerely and thoughtfully, so it’s only natural that you’re feeling uneasy.
That said, I’ll be a little direct—and perhaps somewhat harsh—and share my personal thoughts.
As a basic premise, when someone has registered as Dating Type B2 but continues not to move toward an adult relationship (intimate) after the second meeting, I think there are broadly two possible explanations.
One is that the woman has selected a dating type that doesn’t reflect her actual intentions. The other is that there may be some factor on your side.
Regarding the former, if someone is registered as B2 but has little to no intention of pursuing an adult relationship (intimate), the club would likely warn her or ask her to correct her profile. So, considering that you’ve experienced the same situation before and that this isn’t the first time, it may be worth pausing to reflect on your own impression as well, rather than assuming the woman’s profile is the sole cause.
In that case, you may need to take a moment to look at yourself honestly.
Are you maintaining a clean and well-groomed appearance? Do you pay attention to your clothing and personal grooming, including the small details? It may also be helpful to consciously check things that are difficult to notice on your own, such as visible nose hair, bad breath, or body odor associated with aging.
What about the content of your conversations and your sense of personal space? A major factor is whether you’re able to create an atmosphere in which she feels safe, relaxed, and comfortable being with you.
Being a B type does not mean that most women have no intention of pursuing an adult relationship (intimate). In fact, with B2, many women will move forward once a certain level of trust and comfort has been established. If you’ve had dinner only (no intimacy) five times in a row, it may be more natural to think that there is some reason she can’t take that step, rather than simply assuming she isn’t interested.
This may have been difficult to hear, but if the same situation keeps happening, it’s important to review your own position and the impression you give before doubting the other person.
Whether a connection develops successfully depends not only on the other person, but also greatly on how you conduct yourself.
Even in an uncomfortable situation, there is always room for improvement. Please take some time to reflect calmly.
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At the very least, I’d say he has zero interest in being intimate with you.
Haven’t you been saying things like, “Dinner only is fine until I’m ready,” or otherwise leading him on? If so, that’s the reason.
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I can understand how painful it is to have feelings for someone that never seem to go anywhere. It’s tough, isn’t it… Everyone’s different in situations like this, but if I were in your position…
I might try to enjoy it as a kind of “game to find her motivation switch”…
I’d take her on dates to places or restaurants that would make her go, “Huh?!” on purpose. That said, I’d set a limit for myself, too. Depending on how attractive she was to me, I’d draw a line somewhere and know when to walk away.
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If things don’t progress to an adult relationship by the second meeting with a B2, I think it’s better to say goodbye.
Either she isn’t moving things forward because she hasn’t been invited, or she simply doesn’t intend to take things further with you.
I’d suggest moving on and making an offer to someone else.
Hope this helps.
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With a B2 arrangement, it’s pretty much the same as a C-type arrangement.
I think most women want an adult relationship every time they meet.
As for the reasons, I believe they’re just as the other respondents have pointed out.
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Conversely, are you offering her B because you can’t handle or understand those nuances?
I honestly find that hard to understand. If you can’t tolerate it and say you’re not motivated, then I think you should make the offer C and have her clarify at the first meeting whether an adult relationship is on the table.
Even with C, there are occasionally—though not many—women who are only looking for dinner-only arrangements. With B, unless the terms and allowance are exceptionally good or you’re a handsome older gentleman, it seems obvious that many women wouldn’t pursue an adult relationship.
And if she could get more offers and earn more with C, it’s not hard to imagine that there’s some reason she hasn’t chosen C.
Fuu can’t enjoy those nuances, so I only make offers in the C or D range.
The question is, when do you cut your losses? If it’s a no after the second meeting, then it’s probably just a no, isn’t it?
Since she can still get offers with B even if she mainly wants dinner-only arrangements, she’s probably staying with B. So I think the chances are basically nonexistent.
If you keep getting turned down even with C, though, there’s also a possibility that the problem lies with you.
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Even if you’re turning down an adult relationship, continuing to meet for dinner only while saying, “Let’s get to know each other a little better first,” is frankly also unfair to the woman. It may be better to move on and look for someone else.
With Type B2, the basic stance is not to meet again after the first meeting if you’re going to decline the relationship.
Since I mainly work with Type B, I’ve made offers to several B2 women as well, but I generally don’t continue seeing people like that.
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> Do you think she’s actually interested?
That sounds like something you should ask the staff about.
Even if you ask here, no one can know what this particular woman is thinking. You haven’t met her, and you haven’t provided any information about what she’s like. There’s simply not enough to go on.
If I knew which woman you were talking about, I’d check the reviews from other men who had dated her. I might even ask one of them, “Have things been going well with her?”
That would give you some idea: if she gets along well with other people, then she’s probably genuinely interested.
In your case, if every woman you’ve met has acted this way, then I think the issue may be with you. You might be mistaken, but very few women are willing to meet just anyone. Women choose their partners carefully too, although everyone has a different range of preferences and tolerance.
Before questioning the other person’s level of interest, you should consider whether you behaved in a way that would make a woman want to say yes to you.
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It’s pretty impressive that she’s met you five times for dinner only (no intimacy).
Lately, there’s been so much talk about saving time and getting the most bang for your buck, so this is actually kind of heartwarming.
In my experience, I’ve never had a second meeting at B2 without moving on to an adult relationship (intimate). If it’s happened several times, there’s probably some reason behind it. Why not bite the bullet and ask her?
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The moment she says, “Let’s get a little closer first” on the second date, she’s essentially turning you down. She can’t exactly say, “It’s not going to work with you,” right? She’s probably decided that dinner is fine, but that’s as far as she wants to go. Just message her, “Things don’t seem to be progressing, so I’m going to end our arrangement. Thanks for everything.” There’s still a slim chance she might reply, “I’m okay with an adult relationship next time.” The odds are low, though—maybe 2%?
In any case, you need to accept that she isn’t interested in you. Just because it’s a dating club doesn’t mean you can get intimate simply by paying. Men need to make an effort to be clean and presentable, and compatibility matters too—sometimes it just doesn’t work. Believe that there’s someone out there who will be a better match, don’t dwell on it, and move on.
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