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📅 Apr 14, 2026 16:40
What are the characteristics of a great papa-katsu girl? In particular, I’d like to know what level of looks is generally considered cute!
💬 Answer from 横断歩道:
Judging by looks alone, I think about half of them could become pretty cute with the right makeup and hairstyle.
Personally, though, no matter how cute her face is, I can’t get aroused if she’s either chubby or extremely skinny.
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📅 Apr 13, 2026 16:08
I’m registered with a dating club and also use the club’s app, but there are regularly male members who stop replying while we’re still arranging the date through the app… Sometimes, after receiving an invitation and chatting back and forth, they suggest a specific date and I reply that it works for me—only for them to stop responding afterward. I’ve only just started and haven’t met anyone on a regular basis yet, so when someone takes ...
💬 Answer from アンディ:
You’re probably referring to Patro, right?
Male members generally have to make a payment for it to become an official offer, although there are also ¥0 offers.
So there’s no need to keep your schedule open until you receive an official offer. I’m not sure whether he was just wasting your time, but normally, once you’ve agreed on a date and time by message, the offer is submitted right away.
Hope that helps.
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📅 Apr 13, 2026 08:34
I’m on my fourth day as a member. Until the day before yesterday, I’d received around four or five offers, and my favorites were gradually increasing as well. But starting yesterday, both the offers and favorites suddenly stopped completely. The staff also seem to be having a hard time coordinating schedules, so I wondered if it might be better to pause my profile for a while. However, since I only just joined, I’m not sure how long thi...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
I think you should contact the club and ask them about it.
It may be tough, but the initial offers are important, so try your best to adjust your schedule and accept them.
Since profiles are displayed with the newest members first, your profile moves lower each time a new person joins. It may simply be that the other newcomers receiving offers are now being shown higher up.
You’re off to a good start. As long as you don’t receive poor ratings for things like rude behavior,…
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📅 Apr 12, 2026 22:55
I’m not very good at adult relationships. Does anyone have tips for getting better? With the people I’ve had an adult relationship with so far, either they didn’t finish, or we spent almost the entire hour having intercourse. Maybe I’m just not cut out for it? I get wet too easily—could that be why it doesn’t feel good for them? I also climax too easily, so I often get completely exhausted and finish very quickly. Most people tell me th...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
> Could being too easily aroused be the reason it doesn’t feel good?
I haven’t really heard of that happening.
It seems possible for too much lubricant to make things feel less pleasurable, but unlike with lubricant, I haven’t heard many people say that being too wet makes it feel unpleasant.
> I climax too easily, so I often get exhausted quickly and end up passing out.
If you say you climax too easily but then don’t actually climax, the man may think he should keep tryi…
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📅 Apr 12, 2026 17:32
I found a monthly arrangement with a papa. We initially agreed on two adult relationships per month, with an allowance of 40,000 yen or more per meeting, but in just these past two weeks, we’ve already met twice for an adult relationship and twice for dinner. I’m happy that he seems to like me, but I’m also afraid he’ll get bored of me quickly. I’m not exceptionally attractive, and I don’t have any particular skills when it comes to adu...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
I’ll also mention a few things that come with some risk:
- During an adult relationship (intimate), be a little louder than usual. The “little” part is important—if you’re too loud, it can be off-putting.
- Kiss your papa (a male supporter) more during intimacy, and be proactive with your tongue.
- Take a bath together and wash him.
- Orgasm from oral sex, fingering, and penetration separately. In particular, having a lot of vaginal orgasms can make it easier to fool your pa…
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📅 Apr 11, 2026 21:40
I recently started seeing a regular papa (a male supporter). Besides our adult relationship (intimate), he often takes me out for meals and says that, since we met by chance, he wants to support me, so he asks to hear a lot about my life. However, my upbringing was far from ordinary—I was abused by my parents and sexually victimized by a sibling—so I try to keep it hidden as much as possible. Still, I feel like he’s starting to sense th...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
I wrote a column specifically for people like the questioner: “How to Date a Papa-Katsu Girl Who Was Abused by Her Parents.” I hope you’ll give it a read—it should be helpful.
https://lab.universe-club.jp/column/ppjyoshi
To summarize, even if you think you’ve already come to terms with it, the first time you tell someone else, the tears will probably come naturally and stir up your emotions more than you expect. The papa will either be unable to handle it and pull away, or…
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📅 Apr 11, 2026 21:24
I’m the one who posted earlier about not receiving my allowance after staying overnight today. I finally managed to ask him directly, and he said he’d completely forgotten and would give it to me at the beginning of our next meeting. He’s a really kind person, so I think it’ll be okay, but is it safe for me to see him again? Is there a chance he might brush it off or that I could end up in a dangerous situation...?
💬 Answer from マックさん:
Since you can send money via PayPay on LINE, try telling him you’re in urgent need of money and asking him to send it right away. If he does, you can meet him again; if not, just give up and block him. He’s the kind of person you’re better off avoiding.
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📅 Apr 11, 2026 13:40
How can I check whether my profile has been posted after registering? Will I receive a LINE notification once it’s posted? I’m currently unable to link my LINE account. Will my password and other login details be sent to me?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
If you ask the club directly, they should be able to tell you about your situation.
I don’t think you can link your LINE account until your club registration is complete either.
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📅 Apr 11, 2026 11:04
I went on a second date with someone I met through a dating club, but I didn’t receive any allowance. We had dinner and even spent the night together. I received an allowance the first time, though… He’s a really nice person, and it seems like this may be his first experience with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so maybe he thinks we’re genuinely dating…? How should I bring it up?
💬 Answer from ジョー・ルビコン:
I’m going to be blunt.
Are you stupid?
By asking such a brain-dead question, you’re turning yourself into a girl who has nothing to offer but taking off her panties—and even then, she won’t get paid. Though you already are one.
I know those are harsh words.
Get a grip.
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📅 Apr 11, 2026 00:03
I’m the person who asked about the fake item last time. Your incredibly kind answer really put my mind at ease. Thank you so much. I’m sorry this is getting long, so I’ll start by grouping my two questions together. ① In papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), there are people with somewhat difficult personalities, regardless of gender, right? I feel that a certain amount of patience is necessary in those situations, but what do you a...
💬 Answer from フラグメーカー:
I kind of wish papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) were more fantastical, ambiguous, and dreamlike.
Something like:
“You know, you’re kind of a great match for me! Let’s just become friends like normal, okay? Take me to nice places and show me good food! You’re special to me, Uncle♡”
And the man would naturally pay an allowance that’s at least above average, too.
Both sides benefit. Everyone gets what they deserve.
For the final goodbye, something like, “I’m sorry… …
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📅 Apr 8, 2026 22:07
A male member gave me presents. Last year, he said one was worth ¥400,000, but it was actually an unbranded item worth less than ¥5,000. This year, he again said it was worth ¥400,000, but it turned out to be fake. I asked AI, and it said there was a 100% chance it was counterfeit. I also checked with the brand, and they said it isn’t currently being sold. So it’s definitely fake. Last year, a stylist brought it to me. This year, he sai...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
I understand wanting to receive the allowance you were supposed to get, but at this point, it seems unlikely that you’ll be able to. I think it would be best to simply end things and move on. Continuing to communicate with him will probably just drain you emotionally, so it seems like the disadvantages would outweigh the benefits.
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📅 Apr 7, 2026 17:12
I’m posting because I’d like some advice about finding a marriage partner. I’m a single man in my 40s who runs his own business. I’m a member of Universe, but only for completely transactional relationships. If I were to seriously consider marriage, could anyone advise me on where I might look for a partner? With typical matchmaking agencies, you’re required to post a photo, educational background, and income. My annual income is in the...
💬 Answer from フラグメーカー:
Money and no weird quirks, plus humility.
↑ You can absolutely find someone regardless of looks.
Money and a few quirks.
↑ Even then, you’ve got a pretty good chance.
That’s pretty much how the marriage market looks for men over 40, so I think you’ll probably find someone without much trouble.
That said, I feel like the high-level women you have in mind simply aren’t in the marriage market.
As a last-ditch effort, you could also casually ask your current papa-katsu pa…
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📅 Apr 5, 2026 23:52
I wasn’t able to reply to the answers, so I’m adding this follow-up. I’m a 36-year-old woman. I don’t remember whether it was Universe, but I was registered with a club years ago. At the time, I was 22 and had a preschool-aged child, so I was looking for arrangements during weekday daytime hours. I think I chose an adult relationship (intimate) starting from the second meeting after the first meeting. However, I had recently given birth...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Even if they’re ultimately responsible for their own choices, I think many parents oppose it because they may not understand the full extent of that responsibility.
With that in mind, it seems best to explain as much as possible—including the potential impact and worst-case scenarios—and help them broaden their perspective. People who are currently involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) have probably considered those possibilities and decided that the benefits …
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📅 Apr 5, 2026 20:32
I’m a 36-year-old woman. I can’t remember whether it was Universe, but I used to be registered as a member. At the time, I was 22 and had a young, preschool-aged child, so I was only available during the daytime on weekdays. I had a first meeting and, I think, chose an adult relationship (intimate) from the second meeting onward. However, I had recently given birth and was also a single mother. I was on the curvier side and had a round ...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
Sex work is a respectable job, too. I want you to feel proud and confident about raising your daughter as a single mother, no matter what anyone else says.
You are not a bad parent. If anyone says otherwise, I’ll punch them myself.
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📅 Apr 5, 2026 12:52
Sorry for the strange question, but I’d really appreciate some advice. I’ve been seeing someone I met through this site for about five years now, and things have been going very well. We have meals together, stay overnight, and sometimes go on trips when our schedules line up. In a normal relationship, becoming more intimate would often lead to living together and eventually getting married. But papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) ...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
My ace monthly partner and I are in our sixth year together. Another top-tier favorite, whom I call “Queen,” is in her fourth year, and No. 3 will soon be reaching the five-year mark.
I think I’ll support the women I’ve been seeing for a long time for the rest of their lives.
In fact, Queen got married and had a child, but we’ve continued seeing each other. We stopped having an adult relationship after she found out she was pregnant, but I’ve continued giving her a fairly s…
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📅 Apr 3, 2026 12:17
I have a question about how to maintain the right distance with a papa (a male supporter) I recently met. He’s kind and a good person, but he said that what he’s looking for in women he meets through the club is a pseudo-romantic relationship. I agreed to that, and we’ve met several times. It looks like we’re about to move into a monthly arrangement. However, his LINE messages are quite long, and I feel like he may be becoming a little ...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
If a transactional relationship feels easiest for you, then go with that. If you think another approach would suit you better, do that instead.
It’s not about what everyone else is doing—it’s about what you want.
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📅 Apr 2, 2026 19:52
My papa seemed genuinely in love with me, and he found out that I’d been seeing other papas… Thank you for your answers. I met him earlier and we talked. He said that if we were going to start over, I needed to show him sincere commitment so he could trust me again, and asked what I could do. Then he told me to keep all the allowance he’s given me so far in a savings account for our shared home… I told him I want to keep the cash in my ...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
This situation is really tangled.
The papa is being emotional, but the questioner has also received plenty of allowance and other compensation, then gone and gotten involved with someone the papa knows. There are just so many things to call out.
They seem to rely on the papa far too much, so breaking things off probably won’t be easy. Rather than wanting to control you, I imagine the questioner was the one doing the whole “making him think it was real love” routine to get m…
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📅 Apr 2, 2026 14:40
I was caught meeting another papa by a papa who seems genuinely in love with me—and to make matters worse, the two of them know each other. While I was at a hotel with the other papa, he started calling me nonstop. I was too scared to answer, but he messaged me on LINE saying, “We know each other. What are you going to do now?” When I eventually answered and spoke with him, he didn’t say he wanted to break up, but he told me that if we ...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
First, think about which one you want to keep: the papa who won’t stop calling, or the papa you have a transactional relationship with.
It may seem complicated, but the situation is essentially the same as when it comes out that your boyfriend has been seeing two people at once. The two relationships can’t coexist, so you have to choose one.
Even if you choose the transactional papa, he could still cut you off afterward, so think that through carefully as well.
Once you’ve…
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📅 Mar 31, 2026 20:56
The more women I meet through Universe, the more discerning I feel I’ve become. I’m currently seeing someone about once a week and giving her around ¥500,000 a month. She’s cute, reasonably well-educated, and easy to talk to—in many ways, she’s more than I deserve. Still, I’ve been applying to meet new women because I’d like to have about two more ongoing arrangements. The problem is that I meet someone new once or twice, but it never g...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
The answer is already in your heart, lol.
There are all kinds of women, so I guess it comes down to luck.
If you have the financial means, you can keep making offers until you find someone at the same level as your current partners.
And if you don’t expect too much, maybe a transactional relationship can work too.
Fuu is always looking for good women as well, but nobody’s perfect. As long as the adult relationship works, I prefer to divide the roles and enjoy the differen…
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📅 Mar 31, 2026 20:17
Should women get a partner checkup as well?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
It’s a matter of personal responsibility. Whether you get tested regularly or only see a doctor when symptoms appear is up to each individual.
If you’re seeing multiple people, you should assume that you may end up with an STI.
Personally, I think chlamydia and gonorrhea are about as infectious as COVID or a common cold. They can be treated with medication.
Of course, I’d rather not catch anything, so I take as many precautions as possible. In the end, staying healthy help…