I went on a second date with someone I met through a dating club, but I didn’t receive any allowance. We had dinner and even spent the night together.
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I received an allowance the first time, though…
He’s a really nice person, and it seems like this may be his first experience with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so maybe he thinks we’re genuinely dating…?
How should I bring it up?
👤Asked byGuest👩GenderFemale🎂20s👑Universe female member
I’m going to be blunt.
Are you stupid?
By asking such a brain-dead question, you’re turning yourself into a girl who has nothing to offer but taking off her panties—and even then, she won’t get paid. Though you already are one.
I know those are harsh words.
Get a grip.
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> How should I bring it up…?
You may have simply forgotten because you were having such a good time.
You could try sending something like:
“I forgot to receive my allowance when we met the other day. What should I do?”
Then wait for their response.
If they ignore you or reply in a way that makes it seem like they have no intention of paying, and you met them through Universe Club, contact the club.
However, there’s one important point:
You must have agreed on the allowance in advance, including the amount.
Some people may say that the club doesn’t get involved in private romantic arrangements, but that’s not entirely true. They can get involved in some cases—it’s just that there are many situations where they can’t.
The key point here is that Universe Club arranges dates involving compensation. That’s a major difference from dating apps.
Dates without compensation go against the club’s policy.
And the important fact is that an agreement was made but not honored.
In other words, you had agreed to receive an allowance of ¥50,000, but you never received it.
In that case, the club can tell the other person, “You made an agreement, so please pay her.”
So, if you had agreed on the allowance in advance but didn’t receive it, contact the club.
If the club doesn’t take action even after you contact them, reach out to me here and I’ll handle it.
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He’s a truly awful papa.
He gives the woman a good impression, then tries to turn it into a freebie. Absolutely disgusting.
There are always some guys who brag about lowering the allowance and managing to turn it into an overnight stay or another long date, but that’s clearly against the rules.
> Universe Club arranges dates that involve compensation.
> That’s what sets us apart from matching apps.
> Dates without compensation go against the club’s policies.
This ↑ will definitely be on the papa-katsu certification exam, so all you old guys should read it aloud 1,000 times.
Some complete idiots are wildly misinterpreting “things are up to the individuals after the date is arranged” as a free pass. For goodness’ sake, go use a matching app instead.
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Maybe he simply thought there was a chance to get it for free because the person asking seems inexperienced.
He might be one of those dreamers who never grew out of a boyish mindset, like that “flag maker” guy.
Try sending a LINE message along the lines of, “I didn’t receive the allowance from the other day, and I’m honestly struggling with living expenses and tuition right now…” The key is to really emphasize that you’re in financial difficulty.
If he doesn’t reply, give up and move on. You haven’t actually lost anything since pussy doesn’t cost you anything to begin with, so try to get over it.
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Going to stay over on the second date is pretty bold, and you must have a strong mental game.
I don’t know whether that papa (a male supporter) made an especially good impression the first time or really struck a chord with you, though.
If you clearly agreed on the allowance for the next meeting before seeing him again, you may still have some leverage. But if you simply left it up to him, thinking everything would be fine, you may end up getting stuck with a papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) papa you’re better off walking away from.
You could message him something like, “I forgot to receive my allowance last time—how should we handle it?” If he hesitates even a little, you’ll have no choice but to cut your losses.
Hope this helps.
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