You’re probably referring to Patro, right?
Male members generally have to make a payment for it to become an official offer, although there are also ¥0 offers.
So there’s no need to keep your schedule open until you receive an official offer. I’m not sure whether he was just wasting your time, but normally, once you’ve agreed on a date and time by message, the offer is submitted right away.
Hope that helps.
That’s just how things are on an app.
On Patro, your schedule is only finalized once you receive an official offer, so you don’t need to keep your schedule open just to coordinate dates in an ongoing message thread before anything is confirmed.
It’s also common for women on Patro to send over their availability and then never reply. Men who are serious about setting up a date may message several women at once with the same details, then choose their preferred person from those who respond and send her the official offer. So try to think of it as just how the app works.
Some women don’t even get messages, so consider it lucky that you’re receiving inquiries at all. There’s definitely demand for you—hopefully you’ll get an official offer soon. I’m rooting for you.
You’re using the club’s app as well—is that PATOLO?
Even now, there are plenty of men who say, “We don’t need to meet since I haven’t requested a date,” despite having made plans, and then never actually submit the date request. Women who don’t understand how the system works often report things like, “I kept that day open, but he suddenly canceled.”
But the club just brushes it off, saying, “That doesn’t count as a last-minute cancellation.”
Unlike a dating club, PATOLO is better understood as an app. If the man hasn’t formally requested a date, then even if you’ve agreed on the date, time, and meeting place via chat, he doesn’t consider that a firm commitment—and the club won’t reprimand him either.
In other words, a date isn’t officially confirmed until the man submits the request. Until then, you might as well assume you have no plans. Normally, once the details are settled in chat, he should immediately submit the official date request through the system.
So I think it may be best to turn on private mode on PATOLO, which makes your profile invisible, and use only Universe Club instead of PATOLO.
Personally, I think the only people who can use PATOLO normally are those who have already built up a tolerance to the constant last-minute cancellations on dating apps.
My latest monthly arrangement partner is in her mid-thirties.
Women in their early thirties are one of the most popular age groups at dating clubs, so first of all, please don’t put yourself down.
Rather than using an app, I think you’d be better off putting your effort into PATOLO. It has a large number of men from Universe Club, so you’re more likely to find decent papas there than on an app.
